- [Narrator] Understanding the true motivation
behind your attraction
can help you navigate relationships with self-awareness
and ensure that you engage in connections
that are mutually beneficial
and based on genuine compatibility.
The people we find ourselves drawn to
and romantically interested in
can reveal a lot about our personalities, values,
and even subconscious desires.
With that said, let's dive deeper
into how our attractions shape our identities
and influence our choices in relationships,
according to psychology experts.
If you are attracted
to typical bad boys or bad girls energy,
attraction to individuals
exuding the quintessential bad boy or bad girl energy
can speak volumes about your own inclinations and desires.
It may suggest that you crave excitement, adventure,
and a hint of rebellion.
You might be drawn to their confidence, assertiveness,
and independent nature.
According to psychologist, Dr. Madeleine Fugere,
however, it's essential to reflect
on whether this attraction stems from
a healthy appreciation of these qualities
or a subconscious need to fix or rehabilitate others.
Dr. Fugere explains that these relationships
seldom work out long term
and may just be a means for us
to express our repressed desires for freedom,
rebelliousness, and excitement.
Being attracted to partners
who are less attracted to you can stem from low self-esteem,
fear of intimacy or anxious attachment.
Psychologist Helen Fisher's study revealed that
rejection can increase someone's attractiveness to us.
However, this often arises from an unhealthy belief
that we're undeserving of love,
leading us to pursue unattainable partners.
This pattern can result in imbalanced relationships,
where emotional investment is lopsided.
Understanding this empowers us to cultivate self-worth,
recognize our value, and seek relationships
where we are genuinely appreciated and reciprocated.
So if you're finding this insightful,
remember to engage with it by liking, commenting,
and subscribing to our channel.
If you are drawn to those
who remind you of a parent or caregiver,
attraction to individuals
who resemble significant figures from our past,
such as a parent or caregiver,
is a common phenomenon known as imprint attraction,
explains Dr. Claire Jack.
This attraction can be driven by unconscious desires
to recreate familiar dynamics or see qualities
that were lacking in our earlier relationships.
Understanding this pattern can help shed light
on unmet emotional needs,
and provide an opportunity for healing and growth.
By recognizing the influence of past experiences,
you can strive for relationships
that are based on genuine connection
rather than unconscious repetition.
If you are attracted to toxic people,
attraction to toxic individuals
can be indicative of underlying issues within ourselves,
says psychologist Dr. Claire Jack.
It may suggest a need for validation, a fear of intimacy,
or a pattern of seeking out familiar dynamics.
This attraction can stem from unresolved emotional wounds
causing you to recreate unhealthy patterns from your past.
Thus, recognizing this tendency
is crucial for our well-being,
allowing us to break free from toxic cycles
and cultivate healthier connections
built on mutual respect, trust, and emotional support.
If you're interested in learning more
about the psychology of attraction,
we also did a video on the Sherlock Paradox
to attracting your crush.
Because understanding the underlying many factors
that underpin our attractions
can help us gain insight into our own personalities
and guide us in forming deeper
and more fulfilling connections with others.
So, Psych2Goers, as you reflect on your own attractions,
ask yourself, what do they say about you?
How can you use this knowledge to foster healthier
and more fulfilling relationships?
Let us know in the comments down below,
and if you found this video valuable or helpful,
please support our work by hitting like on this video
and subscribing to our channel.