so Trisha Paytas recently went through it and she broadcast it on Instagram and
there's a lot from this situation that all of us can learn from what is up
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disclaimer okay those of you who don't know me like this video isn't as much
about Trisha Paytas as it is about you and me and all of us like here's here's
the issue that I found with myself that I know a lot of you struggle with as
well as we sit here and we watch all this stuff we watch all this stuff go
down and we don't look at it and say okay what can I learn how how am i
acting in my own life what am I doing wrong can I relate to this because a lot
of people watch YouTube and watch the youtubers because they can relate I know
a lot of people watch the Trisha Paytas because they can relate to what she's
going through hell I can relate to a lot of what Trisha Paytas goes to like my
mental health used to be just a hot mess alright I've been working really hard
for the last seven years and I ended up working at an addiction treatment center
I ended up you know working through my life coaching certification I'm working
on a certified alcohol and drug counselors license and I'm always trying
to educate myself on this stuff because the thing is not only have I been able
to get on the other this thing but I try to use my
experience or other experiences that we're consuming to help others to see
what we can learn from it all right so anyways I'm going to show you a clip
it's kind of long bear with me from Trisha Paytas Instagram story
actually people send it to me but I didn't save it or record it in time so
this is from drama investigator another channel link that down below like people
have reached out I know I'm depressing everybody okay
they ruin everyone's lives so fucking sorry to every single prisoner in this
world like I'm so just nobody fucking attention that they are
oh no it's like and things I like what's make me happy do not make me any more
if jikes so hard everyday to dear one more person say just be fucking happy to
stop enterprise fuck its chatter you should I used to be so happy just nicely
try it break me down like I'm already fucking down you can't give you any
lower then I re fuck so Carrie I don't care and I just prayed to stop feel like
this low I just don't feel like this hatred towards myself imagine having a
light where there's no one that really cares about you there's a one person I
could call that knows my shit just knows how do I get no butter it's just I've
just loved that life I just have a shitty person I guess I don't have what
person that I could call be like so broken and so beyond repair it's like
there's nothing anyone could say or dude at this point there's just nothing
I just feel like I don't even have like a soul I don't okay I just felt
completely completely empty like empty so anyways the first thing I want to say
like let's let's do the sandwich method alright you don't know what the sandwich
method is okay like nerd City actually just talked about in the new video the
devil and nerd city's new video they talked about the sandwich method good
thing that they continue with a good thing all right so the good thing is
like Trisha Paytas ended up doing a follow up which I appreciate talking
about how she was going through it and like you can come out on the other side
and she said some things to motivate others who might be struggling with that
all right but here's the thing one of the reasons
I make my videos it's like when you have such a massive influence like we need We
Need to Talk and this is for all of you as well like you're not you know most of
you watching this are not an influencer at the caliber of Trisha Paytas but
here's something I hear a lot of influencers talk about where like this
is no therapy right it's not it definitely isn't like I actually just
recorded a podcast by the way go check out my podcast it's on Spotify and Apple
and everything but I talked about how like we can't just keep broadcasting all
of our feelings and emotions out there and expect ourselves to get better I
have never met somebody my life who is doing phenomenally well just mentally
and they're like yo I got out of this really dark place and somebody said yo
well what you do and you're like you know what I broadcast everything out
there for many years and it finally worked right like we have to be mindful
of that like I used to do this I used to like back in the day back in my day like
those of you who remember AOL Instant Messenger like I used to do that stuff
like with your way messages I put like emo lyrics and quotes like everybody
needs to know my pain and my struggle but like that never made me better you
know what I mean and there's there's an issue that a lot of us struggle with
with oversharing now don't get me wrong we all need people to talk to you like
the thing that I think is one of the most important things we can do for our
mental health is having a support group people who are there but these are
people who are there to listen to us but we also could use a journal or this is
what a therapist is there for to listen to these
and don't get me wrong like I absolutely love I absolutely love them influencers
you said platform to get real and raw and honest and talk about what they're
going through but there's a certain point where it just keeps happening so
when I see Trisha Paytas like I look at this and I'm constantly analyzing
because I need to learn from this stuff as well because I put a lot of effort
into our mental health and say okay what am i doing right like why is this
working for me but it's not working for others because Trisha Paytas if those of
you who are following her like she has been going to therapy she talked about
like an anxiety workbook she had so real quick note as I was editing this I
remembered something I wanted to talk about in this video which was a while
back Trisha Paytas mentioned when she first started going back to therapy and
they mentioned getting on antidepressants and she said she doesn't
like taking medication so I do not know if she started taking medications or not
but if you can relate to what's going on with Trisha Paytas give medications a
try antidepressants anti-anxiety medications I personally recommend
non-addictive ones like lexapro Prozac things like that there are also
medications like mood stabilizers that can help you out if you're having a lot
of ups and downs and all that stuff but you should always receive a proper
diagnosis as well so they're treating the right thing and here's the issue
like for some of us like something I used to do is just consume this
information but I didn't put it to practical use like I can sit in a
therapy office I can sit in group therapy I can read all the books right
but unless I take action steps and start developing healthy habits I am screwed
okay because like I sit there and I imagine like if if I was working with a
client like Trisha Paytas okay like when when they told me like yeah the other
day I went on Instagram and I just told her broke down and everything like that
like okay but what did you do about it right and I would imagine the response
to be like what do you mean I went on Instagram I shared my feelings No what
did you do about it because when we're going to therapy when we're reading
books and acquiring all these coping skills the goal is to actually use
there are things that work and there's a big difference between common sense and
common action and don't get me wrong like I get it I get it and I empathize
like when we are in that dark place we don't want to talk to anybody we don't
want people checking in on us we don't feel like anybody cares or we're not
worth caring about I get that but these are lies that depression tells us these
are lies that anxiety tells us these are lies that addiction tells us all right
we have to do certain things and sometimes that's picking up the phone
and talking to somebody or meditating or anything like that
and like I come from 12-step programs where spirituality is a big thing well
I'm not religious but I am spiritual I'm like something that I was taught a long
time ago is faith without works is dead so we can't just pray for things to get
better we need to take the steps forward for things to get better so the next day
when Tricia came out on the other side of this thing she said this hey guys I
just wanted to pop in here real quick and say first and foremost thank you
guys so much for all the love and support you give me every single day
through everything I know I'm not myself I can't imagine what it's like to know
me in real life or follow me it would
just I just thank you so yes you talked about all the love and
support and everything like that in the emails like this might help you okay
this is one of the reasons why journaling is so beneficial but if you
have to like have a folder on your computer of the kind nice things that
people say but like a journal is very beneficial because not all of you out
there are influencers and you're not getting emails like Trisha Paytas did
and things like that but like a journal is very beneficial because what happens
look I actually have a right nice my desk yeah here you go it's good I'll
tell you so something I did the other day I went to the store I got this
journal for one dollar one little dollar okay and I keep it right at my desk and
throughout the day whenever I'm feeling some type of way whether it's good or
bad I saw writing in this journal and say
what's going on what I'm feeling what this has also been beneficial because
I'm I've been working on learning more about rational emotive behavioral
therapy or EBT and it helps you write down the thoughts that are going through
my head but like I have good days and bad days so when I'm going through a bad
day I can flip through this journal and say oh okay because depression tells us
that things are gonna be bad forever but we have evidence that it's not never
going to get better we have good days so we have bad days and something that we
expect sometimes is that every day is gonna be a good day and that is an
unrealistic expectation alright so like your Trisha Paytas this case if Trisha
Paytas was my client I'd be like save those emails save those don't just post
an Instagram story and show other people save those emails and go back to them
when you're in a dark place but here's the thing the last tip I'll give you be
proactive about your mental health the goal is to set up healthy habits so when
crap hits the fan you are automatically going to do that healthy coping skill
that you've learned alright so don't only do it when you're feeling awful do
it when you're feeling well - alright like meditate not just when you're
having an anxiety attack meditate on good days - that way you're developing
the habit all right but anyways let me know down in the comments below like are
you somebody who has like shared too much on the internet like and let me
know if I'm wrong if I'm completely wrong if that has like fixed you and
that's been more beneficial than therapy like let me know I know when I used to
do it it was purely seeking attention I wanted people to tell me they loved me
and no you're good Chris and all these other things right but anyways let me
know your experience got in the comments below and don't forget rewire your
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