G'day, A.J. Mahari here can be a response to another comment this time with somebody with bpd
who seems awful darn proud of it i don't know um been a couple of interesting um
edicts from this person with pp on the channel today in their comments
so ryan states too my video bpd borderlines don't can't and won't love you or attach to you
he says disagree i'm high functioning bp and i have absolute extreme love for those
i partner with okay sure you do um what you haven't put here is whether you're
treated untreated in the middle of therapy what that might be helpful but but like a typical
i shouldn't call you a typical borderline but like people with bpd always have to do
they can't just say disagree and try to talk about what they believe their truth
to be whether it is or not i don't know but then has to come the rest of it right plus
honestly this video is completely demonizing us borderlines for symptoms that without therapy
we have no control over here it is ladies and gentlemen well um
it's completely disgusting and unacceptable to add on an unfair stigma oh my god how borderline
trade is this comment seriously dude like first of all you disagree and you think you're special
because then you're saying because the video is completely demonizing have you watched any of my
other videos in fact you have commented before and you sort of had more emotional regulation during
those comments i think dude because the other thing is uh this channel doesn't vilify people bpd
but you want to come straight up at me and say that i am demonizing people bpd
i hope you're saying on the channels where that's really true because it's not true here
that's why you even have a voice here at all but if you keep on using it this way that won't last
long because you're highly disrespectful and you're actually showing borderline behavior
right now um because honestly this video is completely demonizing us borderlines
um and you said for symptoms that without therapy we have no control over so have you
had therapy yet or not where are you in the therapeutic process how can you say
high functioning bpd doesn't equate with people being able to relate any better than
low functioning that's not the differentiation between high functioning and low functioning bpd
i don't know what your absolute truth is but you say that you have an absolute extreme love
for those i partner with sounds like a really fervent dichotomous statement so i don't know
because i don't know you and everything i said about in these in these videos about people at bpd
holds water for more than not because i'm talking largely about first of all people with bpd not
being all the same and i also include in there largely untreated or not significantly people
with bpd so i fully well know that can change but it depends where you are in your process so
um this idea that i'm demonizing all of you but no that's just a wham victim narrative from you
uh to be straight up honest and um for symptoms that without therapy you have no control over
whether they have control over symptoms or not you or anybody else with bpd you hear this you
are 100 responsible for how you affect impact and negatively hurt or worse other people but you know
i don't know where you are in the treatment but if you aren't treated then you're kidding yourself
and treatment doesn't mean one year dbt and you're recovered by the way so you know if you
just state your opinion it's fine but you want to take shots and you want to do the
usual borderline things what you're doing here and then you say um it's completely disgusting
is it really is it really hmm okay boy you're black and white uh and unacceptable oh really
what do you want to do censor me now too you sound like somebody who's got such potential
for it to love the person you partner with because you can't even be civil with a stranger
way to go man way to represent people with bpd for what we see all over the internet and what
everybody sees in real life up close and personal it's disgusting and unacceptable whoa yeah
and then to add on to an unfair stigma you don't sound like you're very treated dude because
uh people bpd that are still stuck in what's fair and what's not there well that's childish
childlike very kind of quote classic borderline unquote of you because what's fair or unfair
is is really the typical language of people with bpd perhaps like yourself who just want to write
fight so is that what this comment is about you're supposed to be writer than i am because maybe
you're special and you think that high functioning bpd has anything to do with one's capacity to
love or attach etc it depends on whether you're significantly treated or not but by by the likes
of the comment it doesn't seem like it to tell you the truth but i don't know you so anyway i always
get kind of a kick out of people with bpd who come along and you know you've been triggered by
the video dude so you know you might want to take some personal responsibility for that before you
fire your your words at me which i don't care you know i don't take it personally but like
the idea that you're still defending people with bpd as you are one with
bpd saying that you know until therapy you don't have any control over those uh
over the uh symptoms well they're not just symptoms do you understand
the impact that they have on people that are close to many but not all with bpd
so unless you've done something more stellar than one year of dbt or or half a month or something um
i wonder how it is that you love whoever you partner with i wonder what kind of stories they
tell us eh anyway what i what i kind of uh find interesting here is you know you're asserting
yourself fine who knows what your story is right like who knows maybe you've got more treatment but
if you have more treatment why would the second paragraph be here and why would you still be
whining about something that's unfair and i'm sorry it comes across like whining aggressive
warning but whining nonetheless so i'm not here to stigmatize people with bpd i go out of my way in
almost every video i do to say people with bpd aren't all the same et cetera et cetera et cetera
but i don't feel like i have to like defend myself i just think that whenever people no no lots of
people with bp on this channel are very civil very respectful very much showing that they're
in some healing and recovery journey i don't see that from you here and you can disagree all you
want and i don't know what's really true for you do i so i'm not trying to say that i can know that
but um it's completely disgusting well that's really kind of a black and white so so i'm all
bad now aren't i because you found this video i'm all bad now so a little bit
of splitting there it's disgusting what what are sort of powerful words that suggest that
you can't just regulate yourself and and kind of stick with what you said in the beginning disagree
which you didn't even put the word i in front of which is interesting because do you know the
i as in i am who are you i don't know you might you might not doesn't sound like it here though
so it's completely disgusting to you and for you and unacceptable to add on to unfair stigma
you know that that i'm sorry i'm just going to call it for what it is it's a borderline wine
that's what it is ah you know i'm not stigmatizing anybody matter of fact i go out of my way
to parse information and to not say all people bp are the same and to hold people codependency
and people who are reverse hoovering people with bp to hold them accountable too so where's your
accountability whenever anybody with bpd goes to oh it's you're stigmatizing and it's unfair why is
it unfair why is it affecting you so strongly and i would just suggest if you want more comments on
the channel this isn't the worst i've ever seen but you might want to just be just a little bit
more civil without you know losing accusations can you do that if you can love whoever you partner
with do you think you could be a little bit more civil here without being accusatory judgmental
and having the victim stance of well without therapy we can't control the symptoms so what
everybody's supposed to roll over and put up with what those symptoms are from many people with bpd
i highly doubt it i don't think so whatsoever and then you're saying i'm stigmatizing and what i say
is disgusting well i guess you're not ready to hear it are you it kind of speaks to where you
are in your healing too so all i can say is you know don't know you but this is just a typical
dysregulated triggered person with bpd who has to add this stuff on the bottom so that's cute
i hope that was uh satisfactory satisfied you or you feel like you got back at me for whatever it
is you don't like that i said which by the way is very much borderline behavior because you should
be able to uh communicate in a way that doesn't have to go to stigma and disgusting and unfair
right it's all judgment it's all rather black and white so anyway this is an example
of what people with bpd do when they're shirking personal responsibility and making excuses and not
all people with bpd do this but apparently that's what ryan chose to do on that one video in which i
probably say i don't know i didn't listen back to it but i'd probably say that all
people with bpd aren't the same and that untreated and what the woundedness of bpd is and explaining
all of that which is not stigmatizing is not unfair oh people with bpd and the word unfair
it's time to grow up it's time to understand that there is no fairness in life
it's time to deal with what you need to deal with if in fact you're not but your comments suggest
you're really not there's too much emotional reaction and anger in that
for you to be the person you claim to be in the first paragraph there's a real dichotomy there
a real contradiction there but this is what a lot of people with bpd will claim whether you disagree
with me or not matters not to me you could disagree all you want but then you throw in the
shots mole what i said was disgusting really what i said was really accurate and really right on
not for all people with bpd but for the untreated or not yet well enough treated and
i would suggest ryan you your comment suggests that you're not emotionally regulated enough
and then when you go to unfair it's like really oh you know what what what could i possibly
do to bend over backwards to you ryan because obviously as a person with high functioning bpd
kind of that's what you're asking for that's what you expect that's what you want uh i don't know
if you're going to comment back to say whether or not you've had treatment or like tell us what
kind of treatment you've had because whatever you're asserting about your own personal life
is one thing that might be true might not be who knows and the other way you add it on after that
i mean if you find what i say disgusting what are you what are you listening for what are you
watching for um nobody's holding you captive here ryan so you know in some ways this is a classical
borderline response right fighting back at me right fighting and because i'm not involved
in right biting and going to all we can't manage the symptoms if we haven't had therapy yeah well
i i would have only said that how many videos right and i'm not stigmatizing people with bpd
i would rather suggest that your comment here your last paragraph is stigmatizing
people with bpd including yourself hope this was educational for someone else take care