so after Trisha Paytas made a series of threats saying that she was gonna make a
bunch of videos exposing people like Jason Nash david dobrik jeff Wittek and
the rest of the blog squad she had a change of heart and as usual there's a
lot that we can learn from this what is up everybody this is Chris from the
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comment below alright so yeah let's talk about this um Trisha
Paytas like everybody was kind of waiting in anticipation but she had a
change of heart so as I jump into this disclaimer in case you missed it
yesterday go watch the video I did yesterday but those of you who don't
know me hi I'm Chris no I'm not a licensed therapist I'm not a licensed
psychologist I am a certified life coach but like most of you I'm a flawed human
being and something I try to do is better myself and improve myself and
learn from other people's successes and mistakes all right and the other thing I
want to say before I get started like I do
empathize so much with Trisha it seems it seems like people in the vlog squad
did her dirty alright so I just want you to keep that in mind but I'm gonna kind
of reflect on this and share some my own personal experience and hopefully you
can relate to it as well alright so anyways she released this series of
Instagram store today hey guys we just made it to
Chicago I just want to check in with you guys I know I went on a little bit of a
rant yesterday I just you know I'm just gonna defend myself like it when I feel
the need to defend myself as far as other things I always feel like like the
situation when it calls for I will speak my truth and until its call for then I'm
just gonna try and keep living I was I'm I was living my best life I'm still
really happy and in a good place I'm trying not to go backwards I've been
working daily to overcome some like crazy demons that had come out earlier
in this year and I've I've been working really hard on myself and my happiness
my journey my own mental health and a lot stuff like that so I've been trying
to just like let things go and breathe things out by the end of the day like
I'm not gonna get walked over either you know what I mean
so yeah I'm glad that she had a change of heart on this and and yeah like I
said like I I definitely empathize with her and in no way do I want to minimize
her experience or what she felt or any of you out there if you have felt this
way right but we do need to take a look and see how we react to situations right
because I am somebody who used to continuously get extremely emotional
right now I get emotional sometimes but it's way
better than it used to be all right and the most we can all try to do is just
try to improve on a regular basis like something I always ask myself whenever I
react or even when I respond to a situation I asked myself this question
and I suggest you do the same right was my reaction or response to that
situation proportionate to what actually happened you see what I mean because
some of us freaked out right and then our mind will try to justify it in some
cases but anyways like the first thing I want to touch on is like you guys we got
to learn from this we have to learn from this okay first we are Jeffrey star then
we are Josh Evans now we have Trisha Paytas and
happened a wide range of times on YouTube and what am I talking about each
one of these three people in a very emotional place told the entire
community and all of them have massive following said you know what I'm going
to expose some people that's what I'm gonna do
Geoffrey start said he was gonna expose James Charles he came back with his
video saying you know what no I'm not gonna do that
Josh Evans in an emotional state he said he was gonna expose call the behringer
uh-huh Trisha Paytas Shane Dawson then he came
back and said he had a change of heart no yes which he'll pay the same that she
was gonna do that to david dobrik jason nash Jeff put it and the flag squawk and
then she had a change of heart so it's like learn from this all right like you
you're able to witness this on youtube people who threaten things in a very
emotional state but you're singing on a public scale like Trish's video in less
than 24 hours and maybe a little bit more than 24 hours has 1.1 million views
alright so like when you do that or when I do that and Wiggins that emotional
state well if I do it on YouTube and I'll touch on that all over but when we
do that like in our regular life it's in front of friends family members
co-workers you know like we we blow up and we freak out so what can we do to
work on these things right there's a slew of things that we can work on like
for example some things that I do is meditation right I journal I vent to my
beautiful girlfriend Tristan or my therapist or a friend somebody in my
support group but anyways like I was I was volunteering at a rehab the other
day were and we were actually talking about this subject now Trisha Paytas and
what's going on with the blind spot but this subject in general right so for
example like when I first got sober I had so many anger issues and I would
lash out and I would freak out on so many people and something that I learned
is this the mind wants you to release anger alright and this is true we can't
just hold it in and bottle it in the lie that our brain tells us is
we need to release it on that person right it tells us that we need to freak
out on our significant other or our mom or our dad or boss or co-worker or
whoever it is who hurt us the reality is it just wants to get out and there are
so many different ways to do that like I mentioned journaling venting to a friend
like something I used to tell my clients is like before you freak out on a loved
one call it vent to me because I promise you I promise you if you're watching
this if you have an issue with getting like really emotional and like angry I
promise you if you just vent it out whether to a friend or in a journal or
your therapist I promise you you'll feel better afterwards all right
like I remember a while back Trisha actually was debating on uploading a
video and she said on Twitter I can't remember if it was win then mikado all
the kind of thing what's going on would you say I'm gonna sleep on it right and
that's something that we got to do like you guys like with the mistakes that
I've made like I could have made a million more if it wasn't for like my
girlfriend Tristan just told me like hey how will you hold off on that you know
what I mean or my therapist or my support group so the last thing I kind
of want to talk about is the personal responsibility that we all can work on
right there's something that I'm still working on I hope a lot of you I kind of
see where I'm going with this and we all work on this all right so I'm
gonna clock like if Tricia were my friend all right or if you were my
friend and you were going through this or this is what I would hope somebody
would say to me and I do have a lot of people in my life who do say these
things to me right so anyways like you saw in that the Instagram story earlier
Trisha talks about how she was sticking up for herself and everything like that
and trust me like don't get it twisted I do think that we need to stick up for
ourselves I do think we need to set up boundaries but like when Tricia got
sober she talked about 12-step programs and I'm gonna tell you from my
experience in 12-step programs something that my sponsor and the program taught
me was I always gotta look at my part right I always got to look and say
did I set off a series of events so this isn't like a bash at Tricia but like I
would have to sit back and reflect on this or I would tell my friend to sit
back and reflect on this and say what did you do
like did you do anything because it's not always we do something but I would
say did you do anything to set off this chain of events so Tricia says that she
was responding to Jeff but from Jeff's perspective he was responding to Tricia
because Tricia has gone around showing this Starbucks story on a bunch of
different podcasts and interviews and Jeff finally said something and then she
snapped right so who were able to kind of calm down for a second we could say
oh well maybe he was just responding to what I started in the first place you
see what I mean so there's kind of this personal responsibility like like I said
I'm not saying she shouldn't have been upset by anything that Jeff said but
part of us has to realize that we set that ball in motion like for example
would Jeff have ever talked about that incident had Tricia not talked about it
multiple times you see what I mean so I'm not saying who's right or who's
wrong in this but when we're working on ourselves and trying to learn and grow
we have to ask ourselves what can I control what can attack control right I
cannot control what other people do or say but I can work on trying to control
what I say and what I do you'd see what I mean and yeah like she talks about
like she gets emotional sometimes still and she you know goes off and like it
seems like she does have some awareness around it but like check it out you guys
like like I said it again here this video I'm a flawed person too
right I am just trying to get better something they taught me in 12-step
programs there's progress not perfection and if you knew me seven years ago you'd
be like ooh Chris you come a long way but I get it like even with all the work
I do on myself sometimes I get emotional and I do something stupid right but like
I said we can't justify our actions we gotta realize where we
screwed up like for example a couple months ago on Twitter I clapped back at
Taylor Nicole Dean and it was very stupid and immature what I did but my
emotions got away from me in that moment that is why I have apologized to her
personally for that you see what I mean rather than going and trying to justify
it and pointing the finger and saying well here's what you did you see what
I'm saying so I am still learning from my mistakes and I hope that all of you
kind of check in with yourself and as you watch these things go on we see what
where we can improve tweak some things and try to benefit from these
experiences so we don't make the same mistakes in the future you know what I'm
saying anyways that's all I got for this video don't forget my brand new book
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