all right so what does success mean to you if you look at Webster's dictionary
success is defined as a favorable or desirable outcome and I think almost all
of us have achieved something that we've set out to achieve at some point in our
lives only to find that it didn't bring the fulfillment that maybe we were
hoping for and so as Christians I think we need to look at this whole idea of
success a little bit differently and in this video I'm having a conversation
with a good friend of mine where we're discussing this concept of biblical
success and what it looks like to define success as a Christian and I'd love for
you to join us in this discussion by adding any comments and thoughts you
have down in the comment section below now with all that out of the way let's get to it
so now in terms of success in succeeding at things this is something I've struggled with the
world's view of success is very different than God's and you know and
this can be like this doesn't necessarily need to be business or
entrepreneurship this is social media this is how many followers do you have
and this person has more followers than you and therefore you feel like they're
more successful than you and I mean this applies to everything that's all around
us you know everybody's always trying to measure and size up other people based
on these levels of perceived success and and it's it's challenging and I'm just
curious like if you have found any ways that have helped you kind of just work
through this how to define real success yeah I know it's like it's like real
success it's funny because I remember at a point thinking if I just made this
amount of money then I could feel like I could relax yeah and you know when I was
working the corporate job and we were in debt I remember thinking if we just paid
off her debt and then we paid our debt and it was like okay it still doesn't
feel like enough now or if I could just make six figures that would solve all of
our problems it makes six figures and then you started hanging around people
who are making you know multiple six figures and you're like well what's
wrong with me and then it's like it's this never-ending cycle
chasing the wind it really is and you realize okay I don't think there's any
amount of you know physical gain that'll ever happen to make you feel like
you're enough yeah or that you've arrived even though
I mean that's still a daily battle for me I still I measure very heavily I feel
like my self-worth based on how my business is doing or if I had a bad
launch or if things aren't going well I feel like I'm not worth as much and
that's so wrong but I'm glad you brought this up because I think most people will
struggle with this at some point and it's just this feeling of you are enough
regardless of your success in business you're you know of what you're
succeeding at or failing social media followers how many you know it's like okay so you've
got this big social media following you've got a lot of people that like
your stuff so what like is that really what you're measuring your worth on it's
like something that you know I challenge a lot of guys that are you know running
businesses and masterminds it's like if we lost everything business-wise today
how much would that affect your feeling of self-worth
yeah and for most of us it's like oh gosh yeah that would be that would be
tough and just having that healthy dose of reality of what defines our worth
yeah and you know as a Christian it's God says I'm worth it yeah and that
that really is all it should be it and that should be enough and anything that
we feel like internally that we're trying to ease our pain or become you
know more than or it's it's just gonna be this vapor that is you're never gonna
be able to quiet obtain it yeah so you and I both read it The True Measure of Man
the title of it yeah so how did that book affect you and your thoughts of all
this oh man yeah that book was that affected me a lot it's when I try to
read at least every year at least once sometimes twice just to keep me grounded
in the right thinking of the book just talks a lot about that the true measure
of a man what is the true worth of a man and I think as men especially we do put
a high emphasis on you know our ability to succeed or even you know physically
how strong are we are we in shape and can we take care of our family yeah all the things yeah
and if we're not providing well for our families financially like does that mean
our measure do we not measure up as much and it really is just about it's none of
that I mean it's what God says we're worth and thinking bigger picture
to of legacy and like fast-forward to the end of your life and then just get a
snapshot of and look back and think did you leave a mark did you leave a legacy
what are you gonna be remembered for you know from your wife and your children is
it just somebody who yeah you worked you provided well but all of a sudden that
becomes oh well that doesn't really matter does it
yeah and even from somebody who's you know seen death close-up and and I've
lost both of my parents at a rather early age and I've just gone through
that and I realize the importance of what really matters and you know it
really is the relationships the help that you can give other people and what
you do for God and those are the things that last I mean my I remember you know
my dad died he was an entrepreneur never really succeeded in terms of financially
he tried a bunch of things his work ethic was always there but he never
really hit that thing I never for a second thought about that as in terms of
man I miss my dad too bad he didn't make more money like yeah you know I never
cared about that and I try to remind myself of that too with my kids like
they could care less how good my business is doing yeah they just want
the time they just want attention and that's what you want to be remembered
for yeah and it's easy as men especially to
remember that pull back stop striving and pushing so hard and to just honestly
fast forward it sounds kind of morbid but fast forward to your deathbed yeah
and think about your life and then if there would be any regrets like if you
feel like oh I think I'd have though some regrets we'll change it now yeah
that's how I try to live like just fast forward do you feel like there be
regrets on what you're doing right now yes there would be a little bit okay
let's tweak that yeah something I put on my wall at my office I put this question
on the wall this is somewhat related but the question is what if Jesus came back
today and and it's just a constant reminder for me to think beyond the
noise of the and to think of am I doing something
that is glorifying God am i doing something that if today was my last day
that this is how I'd want to have spent my last day right and I mean right and
just kind of recalibrating my focus on that has it's just helped you know
absolutely and it sometimes it is just a heart issue and sometimes it's like it's
it's easy to get way off of there and be like well gosh if Jesus will come back
today then what are we doing we need to go out and start yeah you know you're
absolutely we should be out there preaching on the street or something that's what we should do and
you throw away everything you're like no so you know what God has called you to
do is exactly what you're doing or you're an accountant out there right now
God has probably called you to be the best accountant you're doing and so work
I love that verse just like work as unto the Lord whatever you're doing and even
in the corporate world I tried to do that and think I'm not making a
difference here what am I doing and I was always reminded that God's like
you're not working for your boss or the company like you're working for me
and that would change my whole work behavior too I'm like wow okay let me
really grasp it up and if I was really working like for God he was gonna come
in and check over I'm what I did would I be working the same way would it be
working the same amount of excellence yeah so I try to apply that even with
what I'm doing now sometimes you you know you feel lazy or no I'm just gonna
take a shortcut or there's a gray area and you're reminded no I'm I'm working
for the Lord so you know utmost integrity and all those things and I
think if you're keeping that right and you're keeping that you know in your
heart and your mind you really can't go wrong yeah I think
Proverbs says it in all labor there's profit and and I think I mean I'm just
assuming and making this assumption that when you were working heartily unto the
Lord that that is always true and you know I mean I think it just kind of
validates that whole thing right now yeah absolutely all right I want to
I want to talk a little bit about what you're doing so Scrivener Coach
was the first business that you started that was the thing the problem
that you solved super niche so Scrivener is this super helpful software for
writers if you're writing a book or really anything right
and then you created a course to help people use it because it's kind of
complicated yeah there's a learning curve for sure
all right so that's kind of what you started with tell me what else you're
doing and really just how you can help anybody who wants to write right now
yeah sure so yeah everything started with this course called Learn Scrivener Fast
basically that the big pain was that it took too long to learn Scrivener
so we you know made of course how people learn it quickly easily and then I
really just fell in love with the audience of writers and serving them and
which is what I always recommend for folks getting in business now is first
find the audience if I know who you want to serve and what problems do they have
and find a solution and if you can offer that solution I mean that's that makes
business and so we've been on a mission really to just help writers
from day one of conception of whether it is whether it's a book whether it's a
nonfiction book fiction just getting their message out because we've realized
how important that is of leaving legacy we've talked a little bit about that a
lot of folks want to do that through a book and nowadays it's easier than ever
because we have things like self-publishing and we can we can do so
much and so and we have a lot of writers have a lot of struggles a lot of mental
battles to overcome and there's a lot of rejection involved yeah they're
creatives and I think as creatives that's that's just one of the biggest
challenges that a lot of us face it is and I'm always passionate about the
psychology behind those things and helping folks as much as possible so
we've created several courses for writers along there their journey as a
writer from idea to publishing and how to deal with everything in between and
so that's great all right so where can people find any of this
you can find me on Twitter probably the easiest there @ScrivenerCoach is my
twitter handle they're our main course Learn Scrivener Fast lives there
LearnScrivenerFast.com and we're getting ready to launch several new things and so yeah
it's awesome to work out for that all right well thank you for sharing glad to
chat with you about all this and yeah we'll do it again sometime yeah great chatting
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