This video is about "When You Are Officially Done" Stick around to the end as I'll reveal
important signs you are officially done with your partner, and in turn your relationship as well.
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month in the description down below. When we're with the wrong person we can feel
it either instantly but foolishly ignore it or we can learn gradually and over time. The
true reality of the situation = you'll never be good enough for the wrong person anyway
Emotionally checking out of a relationship although can include a sprinkling of relief
is also a very sad reality... it basically means you would be ready to live without that other person or
your partner... You're ready to walk away entirely now. Don't get me wrong, walking away will be tough
There'll be moments of grief and sorrow as you mourn the relationship ending or in some cases
and scenarios, you might not be feeling anything at all. Yes it is a sad reality that for whatever
reason this relationship didn't work out, but the right thing to do is to acknowledge and actually
accept it. Yes radical acceptance is typically important, particularly when it comes to this
and those who are done are often waiting for the opportune moment to announce that split
It could be after a significant date like after a Birthday or Christmas, it could be when the
next inevitable argument happens, it could be when their partner themselves wants to split for good
It's almost like the plan is set and in motion, everything is ready, you're just waiting for
that right moment. Don't... because sometimes that right moment might never come and then you're
trapped... you're stuck... you're stuck longer in a relationship that's unfulfilling, unsatisfying
Some people end up getting married, having children despite being completely done with their partner
Please don't make that fatal mistake! Here are some signs that you are officially done!
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Do you find yourself lacking serious enthusiasm for life in general? Look don't get me wrong it
can be difficult at times in life, as can our careers and work be difficult, our family life
there's health issues, as can just being an adult can be hard. Without proper rest, recovery and work
on ourselves, we can find ourselves drained and miserable, and our relationship when we're done and
we're done with that other person, doesn't help the situation either. I remember being officially done
with the relationship I was in. The relationship on top of all the other stresses I had in life at
the time was difficult, full of drama, negative etc... Nothing was getting better... nothing was improving
and I just felt like totally giving up. Nothing and nobody brought me any joy anymore... I had
little to no energy for most things, especially things I used to get excited about. For example
seeing friends... I couldn't be bothered. Going to the movies, playing my favorite video games, going
on a trip abroad.... I went but I felt my mind was elsewhere... I couldn't be bothered for anything
"You are not you" said my family. They were right. I had low energy and my relationship truthfully was
sucking the life, joy and zest out of me. Do you feel similar? Are there things you'd typically
be excited about, but now you're not interested? Is even getting out of bed in the morning a struggle?
Do you find yourself with no energy to even talk to people anymore?
How about exercising? Playing a sport? If so, it could be that you've lost enthusiasm
This is due to being chronically dissatisfied and disappointed from your relationship, from your
partner and over time it is crept into other areas of your life too, and enough is enough
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Like your low enthusiasm and energy for everything and anyone else in your life, how is actually your
overall outlook? What's your mindset like in general? Is it positive and happy or is it Doom
and Gloom and overly negative? Signs of a negative mindset include = you don't follow through on things
Perhaps you want to lose weight, write a book, start a YouTube channel. These goals, projects
they've just been not followed through by you, because you just keep talking yourself out of them
Passion projects are so important, not just for our mental health but for the betterment of our
lives, character and personality. You don't see the good. "What's the point in even trying?" you
say. "Well that's gonna fail....Why bother...Well whatever happens something's gonna go wrong!"
Do you find yourself saying and believing statements like that and never seeing the
good in anyone or anything as well? You're picking fights = Have you become deeply critical with your
partner, no matter what they say or do you want to pick a fight and argue no matter what? You're
constantly initiating fights... it could be so you hope they finally walk away... is that what you're
doing? You're stuck in your ways - Friends ask you to meet up but you don't because it doesn't meet
your schedule. Family insists on trying something new with you, you say no. You're so rigid, you're so
stuck in a set of ways and lifestyle now because you're used to being comfortable
Let's be clear you're negative about most things because you are done... you cannot change that
partner nor the dynamic of the relationship... so instead you choose to feel miserable with
society, politics, friends, family, movies and the world... because ultimately you're just done with
one person. You will be Doom and Gloom and miserable if you're done with your partner!
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When we're done with our relationships and partners, we start to question absolutely anything
everything and more... that doubt we have instigated is from our relationship and it spreads to so many
other corners and areas of our life. Here are some typical questions you might ask yourself =
Who am I? Relationship or not that's a vital question to ask... Who are you exactly? What made you attract
such a person into your life and under what circumstances as well? I did this and I still
asked this question to this very day. Why am I with them? Another very reasonable question to ask
Why are you with them? Sometimes they can be fun, attractive at the beginning, but once that mask
slips and they settle into familiar routines then do you really know who they really are.... how they
are in public and how they are towards you behind closed doors is a very different scenario. What's
the point? Again this could be negative thinking but it's a great question...What's the point of
staying? What's the point in persisting? What's the point in being upset, miserable and unfulfilled?
Where am I going? What do you want to be doing in the next few years? Would you
realistically see yourself with this partner? Where do you see yourself without this person?
I'm a deep thinker by nature, I mean clearly I have a personal brand The SCG Show which goes
into subjects in a much deeper level. When I'm officially done and when I was officially done
I normally take an entire weekend, all week to evaluate everything in my life,
and I ask those questions. I literally ask questions about everything and when I was
done in my relationship I had to. I had to give some much needed thought and mental clarity which
helped me tremendously. If you are questioning everything and anything I believe you're done!
Be honest = Do you have fantasies of you and your partner breaking up? Do you enjoy them? Do you have
them regularly? Do you smile and get excited at the thought of them finally walking away? Do you feel
in these fantasies that you're like a prisoner who's finally been set free after the breakup?
Well if the answer is yes to those questions, you are most certainly done with your partner!
whilst even in the healthiest of couples and relationships and they have their moments of
difficulties, those people don't entertain the thoughts of a breakup and even if it was to
cross their minds it would be only temporary. Deep down they love their partner, they want
them in their life, the good outweighs the bad, so it's immediately dismissed. Ultimately if you are
genuinely enjoying the very possibility of being single and away from this partner of yours well
there is no other way to put it... there's no sugar coating... you are done and most likely they are too
So walk away, move on, it's best for the both of you.... this relationship is officially done!