Hi, it's Marie and it's Q & A Tuesday!
Q: Hi, Marie. Every week I look forward to your Q & A video because they're always so
informative and useful." Thank you so much! "I have a question about business and fear.
I'm 25 and recently finished Grad school and have been trying to launch a freelance writing
career. I've small jobs here and there but nothing as substantial as I want and I know
I can handle. I know part of it is simply getting started and wrapped up in that fear
of failing and even a little fear of succeeding." Hmm, interesting. "How can I either get over
this fear and start my business successfully or use the fear to my advantage?"
A: This is so juicy! Juicy, juicy, juicy like a ripe peach! (Kiss: Smack) Here's why it's
so juicy, it's not about getting over your fear. It's about getting into your fear. Booyah!
No seriously, it really is about getting into your fear. So here's the whole thing about
fear and my man Josh Piesse taught me this. Brilliant, brilliant, brilliant man! "Fear
is nothing but fuel." Fear, if you really break it down is a sensation
in your body and unfortunately our society has conditioned most of us out of experiencing
it.
So it's something that we push against, we resist. We don't even want to look at it.
When in reality that fear is incredible fuel that can just jet blast you towards your dreams.
Here's what I mean, once a mentor taught me this that 'fear is excitement with the brakes
on and the whole secret to using fear to your advantage is to learn how to what Josh calls
"party with your fear." What does that mean?
It means experience fear as a sensation in your body without going into the mental drama
about, "Oh my God, am I going to fail?" Or, "Oh my God, am I going to succeed?" And, put
all of your attention on feeling what the sensations feel like. Is it champagne bubbles?
Do you feel a little bit like when you're going on a roller coaster and you're going
up, up, up the hill, and you're like, "Oh, my God! My stomach's getting butterflies."
But then what happens, right? If you get stuck at the top of that roller coaster ride, it
would be terrifying. You would be frozen in that one spot if you just stopped and you
didn't experience all of it but if you actually let yourself go and you ride the fear, all
of a sudden it turns into exhilaration and it's like the best freaking time ever! That
is what's possible when you party with your fear.
"Hey, fear! Looking scary. Did you gain some weight, fear? Looking big in them jeans. Ooh,
shake it girl!"
Alright, so that's all well and good but let's get more tactical. Now, you know how to party
with your fear and you're going to have a ton of energy that you want to channel into
this incredible freelance publishing career slash business. So the first thing that I
recommend is clarity. Clarity brings speed and power and all kinds of good stuff, here's
why. You have a part of your brain, we all do. It's called the reticular activating system.
It sounds more complicated than it actually is. In reality, it's quite simple.
It's this tiny, tiny, like the size of your fingernail little piece of your brain stem
that's responsible for filtering in and filtering out information. As you know, it would be
impossible for us to take in the millions and millions, and millions of pieces of information
of sensory data that's coming in all over us. So the reticular activating system helps
you narrow in on what's most important for you. It tells your brain what to focus on.
So if you have ultimate clarity about your business fantasy, right? What kind of publications
do you want to write for? How much money you want to make? What are the people that you
want to associate with? Like a really crystal clear picture of this dream career that you're
creating. Your brain will help you bring your dreams into reality. It actually becomes a
partner in you having everything that you want. So it's really easy! Doesn't require
anything besides you having clarity.
So the next thing that I recommend for you is getting yourself what's known as a "power
posse!" When you're first starting out and you want to launch something big. You're creating
something from nothing. You need other awesome people to hang out with and more specifically
people that are instigating and initiating their own success. Here's why it's important,
for any of us who are on a somewhat of an entrepreneurial path, we need other people
to hang out with.
We need to share notes with people. We need to be able to talk about our disappointments,
to talk about our wins, and to keep each other going. This is hugely important! I know in
my life when I first started most of my friends were not on an entrepreneurial path and they
thought I was this alien coming from another planet. So I really had to create my own power
posse that helped lift me up and really moved me along much faster than I would have on
my own.
Where do you find a power posse? Well, it's a really great question. I started looking
online for people that were up to the same kind of things that I was up to. Blogs, live
events, social media's an excellent way to start to connect and form your own. So if
you want to come hang out with me and some of my power posse. We've got two amazing events
coming up!
First one is called Selling Your Soul, controversial. It's on May 12 in New York City, information
is somewhere around here and then we've got another big event in the fall, we're tapping
Hot Live. We'll have nearly 300 women from all over the planet who will be an ideal power
posse for whatever you want to create on the planet and you're invited to both of those.
Alright so, that's what we've got for you today! I hope you enjoyed it! I certainly
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