hi guys and welcome back to my channel
in this week's video i wanted to talk about a book
in particular and that's get your [ __ ] together by sarah knight
i normally do my monthly round ups with all the books that i have read
that month but this one i wanted to draw particular attention to just
because i really really enjoyed it and took a lot away from it
so if you don't know what dog ears are it's where you turn
over the pages like that and i mentioned in my last video which was a Q&A that i
don't normally do this unless i know that i'm going to keep the book and i
definitely do feel like i'm going to keep this book and refer to it again in future
i have said before that i don't normally reread books unless i
really like them and the stuff that i can use the future and i exactly
what happened with this book i have turned over the pages for so many pages
and then i've actually written down some of the quotes that i've taken away from it
that really resonate with me and then some action points as well like they give you
practical exercises in the book to take away and it's all about getting your [ __ ] together
i basically didn't realize how much i needed to get my [ __ ] together until reading this
obviously i picked up for a reason but there's a lot of things in there that i didn't realize i do
that's actually basically means that i haven't got my [ __ ] together so i need to actually do that
i'm going to go straight into like the quotes i pulled out from it because they're the most
useful and obviously this is just for quotation for the book so if you do want to find out more
about what this book is i'll list it down below so it's get your [ __ ] together by sarah knights
so on page 28 it says just because you're doing
a ton of shits all day every day does not mean you have your [ __ ] together
i definitely think that applies to me a lot because i feel like i have to be productive
every single day and even in my free time i feel like i have to just be doing something
and i suppose yeah just someone clearly saying in black and white it doesn't
mean you have your [ __ ] together i suppose resonates with me because sometimes getting
shittier actually means the opposite and taking time to relax and the next page
on page 29 it says ...you're competing exclusively against yourself...winning
is getting what you want out of your time on planet earth whatever that entails
i think i definitely do that, i compare myself to a lot of other people all the
time whether it's work stuff YouTube stuff, personal stuff, appearance stuff, whatever
and i think that's something i need to remind myself all the time like
your own you know competitor is yourself or like your past self
just trying to be better than that rather than other people around you
on page 71 sarah knight has trademarked it it's called [ __ ] overload basically given
too many [ __ ] about enough time energy or money to devote to them keeping you
overbooked overwhelmed and overdrawn and i definitely do that i try to put my all
into absolutely everything and then feel the consequences of that where
i'm completely burned out and then can't give any energy to any of those things
page 97 says it's not the size of the of your inbox it's how you use it so this is referring to
work stuff and your emails so basically saying yes obviously not about the the
volume of it it's about your organization skills and how you use that essentially the
more there is in your outbox the more that is in your inbox and i definitely
am guilty of in the past of sending emails that say kind of useless things just like thank you
and there's no point in that because that carries on the conversation and
that person doesn't need it on the other end and you don't need to be spending the time doing that
on page 158 talking about relationships it says it's all about being the best partner you can be
back and forth in perpetuity like a relationship relay and this i really
like and it just talks about yeah having healthy relationships but this is more of a romantic
more of a romantic relationship and just talking about how the way that that can be successful
long term is just constantly trying to help each other constantly giving compliments back and forth
buying each other things back and forth doing just like things that they enjoy back and forth then
on page 173 sarah says your job is to get your shits together not worry about everyone else's
and i definitely think that i do that especially at work my job in publishing is heavy heavily
reliant on other people and we work very closely in all the teams together and sometimes i think
oh just because i've done my bit i still feel responsible for the other people after me or
before me or whatever i think that i need to take a step back and just realize that what i'm doing
is all i need to be doing if that makes sense like that's all i'm responsible for and i suppose that
goes the same for everything in life as well like other people's problems don't take them
on myself obviously i can help people but i don't need to feel that that's my [ __ ] i have to deal
with then the final quote that i pulled from this book get your [ __ ] together by sarah knight is
on page 233 it says eventually the fear of failure becomes just as powerful and punishing
as the failure itself that definitely applies to me this is talking about perfectionism and i
definitely think that i have to be a perfectionist at everything i don't start things for the fear of
failure and that's sort of what this is talking about the fear of failure is sometimes like more
powerful more dangerous than actually just getting it done maybe failing maybe getting
it right you've actually got to start in the first place and ignore kind of the feelings that you're
feeling before you start if that makes sense so now i wanted to move on to the actions as i
said this book is full of personal experiences by the author herself and it's full of cbt exercises
and things that you can take away and that's why i said that i kind of turned over some of
the pages i want to keep this in future because it's something i can keep going back to but for
now i wanted to write down some of the actions that i wanted to do in the very near future
on page 66 it says time yourself doing daily tasks and this is talking about how
to talk about time management basically i'm late for everything not everything but i'm
late to things a lot of the time and often what they were saying in this book is that
you don't realize how long it takes to do everyday tasks so it was saying you know if
someone says to you i'll have a quick shower and you know be ready in 10 minutes if you
know that your showers take longer than 10 minutes it's kind of that awareness that's
going to help you with your time management in future it was basically saying the action to
take is every day for a week time yourself to a normal daily task so having breakfast
time yourself put a stopwatch on stop it as soon as you finish and maybe you get some awareness of
how long things take maybe they're shorter maybe they're longer than you initially realized one
of the most important if not the most important thing i took away action-wise from this book is
on page 72 where sarah talks about turning your to-do list into a must-do list i'm very guilty
of putting a lot of things on my to-do list and feeling like i have to do that all and then if i
don't get it all done i kind of beat myself up about it basically talking about having
two separate lists so your to-do list of all the things you want to do eventually then your must-do
list is kind of about prioritization and what you have to do in that day so if you know there's a
particular deadline on that day and that's going to be on your must-do list so you have to do
that but obviously if there are things that can wait just leave that on your to-do list
and then your must-do list will eventually be a lot smaller and sarah knight gives
examples of this in her book so obviously go check it out afterwards but yeah that's
definitely something i'm going to try and do in future just kind of having my to-do list
not neglecting that but also just narrowing it down and put it into a must-do list it's
basically doing things in small manual chunks which i'll come to in a second
page 77 is talking about starting a procrastination journal i'm definitely guilty
of procrastinating with whatever it may be and i end up just sitting on the sofa on my phone or
just doing something else that isn't getting done what i needed to so sarah basically tells you to
list all the things that you find yourself doing in a week instead of doing what you should be
doing so if you notice that you start painting your nails when you're not supposed to be when
you're supposed to be doing something for work related or whatever whatever it is just write it
down and say like how long you spent doing that even if it was something productive if it's not
initially what you were supposed to be doing it's still a kind of form of procrastination whether
it was good or bad so that's something i want to try just for kind of curiosity and again like the
kind of awareness of how much i procrastinate and what are the things i do when i do procrastinate
on page 90 this is talking about again kind of procrastination and it's talking about stop drop
and roll talking about how you would react in an emergency situation if someone were to for example
um like if there's a fire in a room you stop drop and roll and this is talking about when you
find yourself procrastinating literally stop what you're doing drop everything and move on to what
you should be doing the example that was given in this book and definitely is the one that i need
to apply is about like twitter i love twitter and i use that a lot for publishing of my youtube but
i definitely do find myself sometimes thinking i'm just going to answer a notification and then
i'll just end up scrolling and sometimes i just think oh i've been on twitter for 20 minutes so
sometimes i need to just have that awareness of oh i'm on twitter when i'm not supposed to
be literally don't carry on reading the tweet that you want just literally close it move away from it
on page 159 talking about relationships again and more specifically romantic relationships
sarah knight says devise ways to make your significant other feel good so make a list
and refer to it for inspiration as needed and i think that's not necessarily something that i need
to do but i think it's quite a nice idea to make a list of all the things that your partner likes
or likes indulging in or whatever and then kind of going back to that relationship relay thing if you
ever think i need to treat them now it's my turn in this kind of invisible relay then you have that
kind of list that you can refer to whether it's things you can buy or things you can do et cetera
on page 187 this isn't an exact action but it is if if if i explain it so it says i'm not just
adding something to my day i'm fitting it in by reducing the time spent on a less important
task sarah knight was talking about exercise in this situation and she was saying that exercise
is really important but you know and don't have enough time for it but if she realizes
that she's doing an hour of saying cooking in an evening if she can reduce that to 45 minutes
of cooking and do 15 minutes of exercise you still have the same amount of time you still
just got that one hour but you're fitting in more things that you need to be doing in this
example just talk about a less important task so if you're doing something that's procrastinating
just cut down that time on something that you should be doing the next thing is
on page 210 and it says consider your hobbies and the benefits you get from indulgent in them
to be as important as the other stuff you need to do and then following on from that
couple pages later page two one two it says schedule them in i definitely think things
like mindfulness and gratitude and journaling that sort of stuff is something i really want
to make time for but i just keep making excuses like it says in this you need to
treat it as something important as important as work and family and making time for food etc
on page 242 sarah says be entirely ready to almost banish perfectionism from your life
again let's talk about being you know having high standards and being a perfectionist and
she basically just says you're never going to be perfect at absolutely anything so you
just need to focus on just getting it done in the first place being good enough and just completely
banish the idea of perfectionism obviously that's easier said than done but yeah also
on page 242 sarah says make a note each time the world does not end because you failed to
be perfect so again linking onto the same idea i think sometimes i worry about things you know
would go terribly wrong if i do something badly and this is obviously just about putting it into
practice and writing down i did this wrong but the world didn't end everything carried on fine
on page 252 sarah knight talks about um something that someone actually recommended to her um doing
bingo so you draw out a square board of bingo and then in the squares you write something that
represents having your [ __ ] together whatever that means for you and then basically if you
can tick off a couple of them a day then that's enough whether it's just i managed to get out of
bed i managed to brush my teeth or it's you know i managed to send all my stuff on the deadlines
whatever it is if you can just do a couple of them a day you have your [ __ ] together almost there
on page 262 it says achieve your goals one small manageable chunk at a time and this
is repeated throughout this book so much but it basically just says if you want to achieve
a really big goal the only way you can do it is just small chunks at a time finally
on page 237 sarah knight recommends you make a list of all the things that are healthier to fear
than failure seronite lists on his sharks but they are my favorite animal so definitely don't
fear them but there's other things you know that you could fear you know heights anything like that
that are bigger than failure to you so i hope you found that useful the kind of things that i
want to go over there and i just wanted to quickly summarize why i felt this was such a good book and
why you should definitely read it too i did write some notes down on my phone so i'll just read them
out i basically said that it made me realize that i need to get my [ __ ] together which
if you think that you know you know you don't need this book then you probably actually do and
there are practical exercises that you can take away which obviously i've listed today
there's a good balance of genuine advice but also a light-hearted fast pace read anyone can read it
no matter what situation they're in it talks about money time management relationships it has so
much in there some pages have diagrams or just minimal text which makes it super easy to read
it's a fairly chunky book but there's not actually that much text in it if you're put off by the idea
of lots of words the author is very very funny and weaves jokes and humor throughout which is
so prominent and just makes it an easier read even though it's talking about kind of deep and
more emotional topics it's definitely a funny read and as i said at the beginning this video
is rare for me to say but i would definitely reread this book the author sarah knight she
references throughout the book and it's on the the front here in foil it says she's the best-selling
author of the life-changing man of magic of not giving a [ __ ] and that is her million copy
best seller and i basically said that after reading this book i now want to buy that book and
all of her other books um it's really encouraging and it makes it seem less daunting to actually
get your [ __ ] together and whatever sense that means and then finally kind of going back to the
point of i would now want to buy a whole lot of books i basically said sarah and i the author has
hit the now on the head of what it means to be an author she's provided advice she's provided humor
she's provided something that's actually enjoyable she is light like even though i don't know her i
like her writing style you're getting people like me out of a reading slump and then you make the
readers want to buy all the rest of your books so she has absolutely smashed it as an author
so thank you so much for watching guys it's a little bit different i hope you
found this useful do let me know in the comment section down below if you've read
this book or you plan to read this book and hopefully see my next one
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