so before we get started on this video regarding tana mongeau and Jake Paul I got
a couple disclaimers for you the first one yes I'm aware there is a 99.9%
chance that this is all fake which leads me to my next disclaimer which is this
video is not for tana mongeau or Jake Paul this video is about relationships and
it's for you what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired so where we
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try to see what lessons we can pull from them and subway lessons we can learn
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culture is absolutely brutal alright so anyways like I said we're gonna be
talking about Tana mongeau and Jake Paul Tana just released a video which is a
black screen and she like talks and she wrote this little love letter to Jake
because they're about to get married here in Las Vegas so yeah I live in Las
Vegas so I was like hmm I wonder where they're getting buried
could I crash that wedding real quick funny story I actually had a dream that
I crashed their wedding the other day was it was wacky way it was anyways so
when I watch this whenever I watch anything on YouTube I sit there and my
videos I'm not looking so much at these youtubers what I'm thinking
is all of you all of you beautiful beautiful men and women out there who
are sitting back and watching this because something that we need to
understand is that we are influenced by the people we watch right and especially
when you have people like Tana mongeau and Jake Paul like they influence younger
viewers right so I'm sitting here and whether or not people think this is real
or fake or whatever it is my question is what are people learning from this what
are they being taught so throughout this video I'm going to share some of my
experience as well as some suggestions you could take them or leave them but I
would really appreciate all of you if you can relate to what I'm talking about
let me know down in the comments below all right so the first thing that I want
to say is I do not mean to be a Debbie Downer with this video all right
Tana mongeau I don't know if somebody wrote that script for her or if that was just
off the head but it was adorable but I also remember where I was the first time
I looked at you and realized every moment of my life since I was first
enamoured by that song lyric was leading me to you I am a believer of love I love
love I hope all of you find love find your one and only somebody and you just
live happily ever after I hope all of that so like I said I do
not mean to be a debbie downer all right I am very fortunate and
blessed that I met the love of my life she's sitting right there guess listen
to me record these videos and all that stuff but let's talk okay so one of the
first things that I want to talk about is jumping into relationships too fast
too deep okay so the first question I have for any of you out there
I know I have some viewers who have been diagnosed with mental illnesses like
borderline personality disorder but you may also be someone like myself who has
just experienced very intense emotions alright so those of you who don't
understand the symptoms of borderline personality disorder this is just you
know one is the primary symptoms which is an issue with emotional regulation
all right the way I kind of describe this is you don't just kind of like feel
things like you feel things some of the books that I've read on borderline
personality disorder they talk about how having BPD is kind of like being an
emotional burn victim where all of your emotions whether they're good or bad
they're extremely intense all right so like when I look at Tana mojo and Jake
Poe and look at how fresh and new that relationship is I think about all the
viewers out there who feel those intense emotions so if you can relate to that
like let me share my own personal experience with this back in the day
when I used to date and a lot of this I've had to work through in therapy and
stuff like that but like I was always on the hunt for that somebody that other
person who is going to complete me or that other person who is going to fix me
so the way I kind of explained it is like most people when they go out on a
date or they start dating somebody and like your friends ask them they're like
hey so how is it like oh you know it's cool like we went out on the date they
were nice and kind yeah I probably go out with them again but for somebody
like me who like really feels things like my brain will start doing like okay
well uh when are we gonna get married how many kids are we gonna have I wonder
how many kids she wants to have what are we gonna do where we gonna move are we
gonna live here in Las Vegas we're gonna move to another part of the country what
are we gonna do what what our grandchildren's gonna do oh my god what
kind of job am I gonna get to support all these grandbabies and send my kids
off to college you know what I mean like our brain starts racing because we feel
so much and we start already thinking about marriage or moving in or kids or
whatever it is so if you can relate let me know down in the comments below
because this is something that can actually sabotage your own relationship
right and even if even if both people feel mutually that's not necessarily a
good thing I'll talk about that in a second so the first thing is like before
I started dating my beautiful girlfriend Tristan I had to learn how to dial that
back all right like I had to learn that I can get way too intense and I could be
that person maybe you're that person who you've had
somebody like me right where like they feel so intensely and they're texting
all the time like oh my god I miss you I miss you miss you and all this other
stuff and that can actually set you up for some self-sabotage right like you
might be actively scaring people away because you feel so intensely and you
let all that stuff out all right like we have to realize like even when it's Tana
mojo and Jay Paul like if you're situation we don't need to rush into
things we don't need to rush into moving in together we don't need to rush into
getting married we don't need to rush into having kids right because what we
all forget is the honeymoon phase okay so the next thing I want to talk about
is so many of us gauge our relationships by the good times and not the bad times
right that's why it's so easy to get trapped in the honeymoon phase and when
you're within these first months you start thinking about you know marriage
and moving in together and children and all these other things because
everything is good everything is just oh so amazing so lovely you are living
in the notebook you have just found your one and only somebody right but
something that I learned a long time ago and this is a suggestion that I have for
all of you is to realize that a relationship the strength of a
relationship is not tested by how you deal with the good times it's how you
deal with the bad times okay like this is gonna sound like a crazy suggestion
but I hope you follow me here my suggestion is to not jump into any major
decisions with the significant other such as moving in together such as
getting married such as having a baby until you've gone through some real
issues right and I'm not talking about like oh you left the toilet seat up or
whatever it is I'm talking about some real stuff so I'm not saying like wait
for like some major tragedy right but you need to see how you guys are gonna
deal with situations when either you or that other person is hurting right
because sometimes you jump into this and then one life and Nevitt ibly slaps you
in the face that other person doesn't know how to be there for you emotionally
right but now you're already moved in with them or now you're already married
to them or now you're pregnant with their kid or you got them pregnant you
know what I mean so something that we always forget and I actually just wrote
a blog post about this that I'll put down in the description below but
whenever we hear the phrase this to shoutcast
we always say it is kind of like oh don't worry that bad things gonna pass
but I'm somebody who is a of Buddhist philosophy that's something
they talk about is impermanence and what we need to realize is good things pass
too so like I said I'm not suggesting that you wait for like some crazy
tragedy to happen or misfortune or whatever but it's important to know that
even the honeymoon phase passes so here's my question to all of you anybody
watching this who's been in a long-term relationship like maybe talk to us about
how you and your significant other your partner deal deal with those difficult
times how do they support you what do you do to support them right like we
have to learn from people who have been doing this for a longer talk than we
have so the last thing I want to talk about in reference to Tana mojo and Jake
Paul which is something that you may or may not encounter is this be a better
judge of character okay so like I said 99.9% sure this is all fake even if they
do get married here in Vegas I probably get it annulled or whatever it is but
let's let's pretend let's go to another universe where this is real where Tana
mojo has fallen head over heels for Jay Paul she wants to marry him and all that
okay like if I was Taylor's friend or if you were my friend and I saw this I'd be
like look at their track record okay because there's gonna be rumors and
things like that about people which I don't like like I think you should find
your own evidence okay but when it comes to Jake Paul there is evidence of his
behavior what I'm referencing is emotional abuse towards Elissa
violet and cheating on her same thing happened with Erica Costel these are two
of his most recent relationships and him and Erica Costello had just recently
broken up Jake Paul has not had enough time to be single to actually work on
things and improve himself like it is physically psychologically impossible
all right so like I said like if Tana mojo was my friend or if you were my
friend and I saw you jumping into a relationship with somebody who has a
proven track record of being a not-so-great dude I'd be like girl you
best check yourself all right but anyways anyways those are just some
tips some suggestions from my personal experience I've been in a million
terrible relationships it's taken me a long time to find an amazing one so I
hope you can all learn from mistakes that I've made or maybe even mistakes
that you've made in the past all right but anyways don't forget check out the
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