How long is the process?
First of all, are these people really,
are some of these people actually getting engaged,
or got engaged? Not only, yeah.
Yes?
I mean, every possible scenario you could have imagined
in your head played itself out on this show.
But people were there because they were fed up
with the typical dating scenarios
of shallow dating. Like so many
of my younger friends are.
And they wanted something a little more substantial,
so this provided the opportunity
to like truly get to know people on the most raw level,
like to get to know Ane emotional level.
Who they are, what made 'em tick, 'cause no phones--
So how does it work?
How many couples are involved,
and how long of a process is this?
So we started out with around 20 people,
and they just went through kind of a speed dating
type of thing, and then they all had a notebook,
and they're like, I wanna see Nick, and John,
and Rachael again, I wanna see those three people.
It was all a blind process?
It's all blind, but as you're getting to know them,
in that first week, people were break,
I mean guys that all they do is work out were like,
I'm so emotional right now, this woman.
Grown strong men in tears. (audience laughs)
Like it's gonna be okay, man, don't worry.
He's like, you don't understand, this is my love.
And we're like, what--
So you guys were like hosts
slash little bit of therapists.
We were. Little bit.
We were something more for them..
But if you think about it, we took away their cellphones,
we took away their computers, we took away their television,
they had nothing to do but sit there with themselves,
think about themselves, and then the other person,
and it was any time of day.
So at 3:00 a.m, they would come out to the chaperone
and say, can I see Nick?
And if he was awake and willing,
he'd go in to a pod, she'd go in to a pod.
They didn't actually ask to see me, by the way.
That was-- No, no.
(audience laughs)
That was not on the table. That would be weird, right?
We know what she was saying.
No, but when you think about it,
if you think about what you read about in classic literature
and what we love most about great romances
are the letters, the longing,
the being apart from each other,
you know, all of that where people had
to write their feelings down, or express them in song,
or in poetry, like that's what fuels romance.
I don't think any of these people
thought coming in to this experience
they would find the level of connection,
and in the short amount of time, that they did,
and I'm not we sure we did either but--
How long was the process?
Well in the pods, it was a couple weeks,
but within the first week,
people were in love and ready to propose.
We had multiple proposals, and that was all on their own,
but once you did propose, we were like,
okay, well now you have to do the process,
now we need to insert the physical reality,
so we sent them to a tropical destination,
and then we had them meet each other's families,
we put the in an apartment together,
and then at the alter. The four season treatment.
Can you a vacation, can you meet the family, and--
Can you go back to work together?
And live with them. Exactly.
And so then at the end of it, that was the point
where we said, you have to get to the alter,
full gown, full tux, and at that point,
do you say I do to the person you fell in love with
sight unseen, or do you say I don't,
and walk away from them forever?
They don't see each other 'til the alter?
No, I'm saying No.
That we make them go all the way to the alter.
(audience laughs)
No, no, no, after they propose--
I'm like, how do they do all that?
Right, can you imagine
just going fold in, like blindfolded.
Do you put them in an invisibility suit,
did you wrap 'em up like a potato?
That would, that's season two.
No, they saw each other after the proposal.
But what I'm saying Yeah, for the person.
Is at that point, then the process was--
But some people were to propose
after just a week?
After three days.
Shut up! Three days.
I mean, they absolutely fell in love with people
they had never seen just simply getting to know them
on the other side of a wall.
You could ask any question you wanted,
I mean, literally hours, and hours, and hours
of like an old school way of getting to know somebody.
Of falling in love. That is it, it's old school.
Remember what it was like to fall in love
like with somebody for-- For hours on the phone.
Well hopefully you're still in love.
Well no, that's also, we were saying
why we were intrigued by this,
Nick and I, I was living in New York,
working in New York, and he was living in L.A with his music
and working out there, and so--
Oh look at you two, look at them kids.
That's crazy. Yeah,
that was an ugly sweater party, let me be very clear.
(all laugh)
That's not a typical outfit. That's not our typical
holiday attire, although now, I would totally rock that.
I'm a mom of three kids, I would rock that.
So we, for the first probably six months to a year
of our courtship hen we were dating,
it was just the phone, and it was like--
So it was a little bit like that?
Yeah, we were laying in bed at night.
It was a little bit blind, it was blind dating.
It was talking. It was taking
the physicality out of it and saying like,
and what do you want, who are you as a person,
and what are your fears, and-- Just talking to each other.
And of course, the physical side of it
comes in to play at some point.
Of course.
But to have that great foundation and support
of really, truly knowing somebody,
and knowing what makes them tick.
And that makes them more beautiful.
It makes them even better, yeah.
Yes, even more attractive.
But also, on the flip side,
I was saying whenever you're frustrated with that person,
then you're like, man, I really gotta get out of this room
because right, it makes, it either escalates it
in a good way, or it escalates it.
You know what I mean? That's right.
You just have to walk away, and have that space together,
and we find that whenever you step away from something
and you come back, then you can get back to the foundation,
back to the root of it, and you can talk through it.
This was falling in love for all the right reasons,
because you truly loved the person you had got to know
on the other side of that wall,
and then we introduced the physical.
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