Okay guys, these subtle red flags
women try to hide from men
can sneak up on you like a tidal wave.
Today you're fine
tomorrow you feel like
you're emotionally drowning.
We're about to uncover some elusive
red flags that can make
or break your journey to lasting love.
If you cut through the internet noise
and focus on subtle
but serious signals that whisper
abusive, controlling, high maintenance,
you may say save your sanity.
Your mental well being is the top priority.
And if a relationship is set to steer you of course,
it's time to hit the brakes hard.
Spotting these subtle red flags
she tries to hide from you is a crucial skill.
In the early stages of a relationship,
spotting these red flags might seem as tricky
as finding your way through a dense forest
at night with a candle in the rain.
With a sharp eye you will see the red flags
before you're in too deep
with her in her labyrinth.
Because if you ignore the subtle signs
then your sexual attraction will cloud your judgment
and can lead you down a path of pain,
frustration and regret.
Then one day you wake up feeling trapped,
emasculated, and a diminished
shell of your former self
broken and potentially broke.
In this video, you'll learn
12 sneaky red flags
women try to hide from you,
12 real life examples
and the simple way to spot them every time.
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and keep your keeper.
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Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, so make sure you're not engaging
in these unhealthy behaviors with her.
One, physical, psychological,
or emotional abuse.
Love shouldn't be a boxing ring.
If she's pushing you around
whether physically or verbally,
it's time to reevaluate the relationship.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, seemingly half joking,
why are you always so useless?
You can't do anything right.
Bad actor.
Okay, so just because she's acting playfully
doesn't mean the words aren't abusive.
She tries to hide this subtly abusive tendency
because consciously or not,
she's testing your boundaries.
Dialogue like this
is a clear red flag for emotional abuse.
No one deserves to be torn down
in a relationship.
If you allow it,
there's a good chance it will get worse.
Key point,
love is a team sport not a solo match.
If she's playing rough
it may be time to exit the arena.
Two, excessive clinginess and dependency.
Okay, so jumping from one relationship
to the next without a breather
a partner should complement your life
not complete it.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, I love being with you
all the time.
When she goes from one relationship
immediately to another
and can't function without a partner,
it's a sign of excessive dependency.
She may try to hide this subtle red flag
because it's likely caused
problems in her past relationships,
so she tells you she's never felt this way before.
You feel special, loved,
and needed initially,
but codependency often leads to
controlling manipulative behaviors
that leave you feeling suffocated.
Key point,
a partner doesn't complete your life,
she compliments it.
Three, not accepting your other relationships.
Jealousy, insecurity, and a lack of respect
for boundaries is a toxic trio.
A life outside your romantic relationship
is healthy.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, why do you spend
so much time with your loser friends?
I think they're a bad influence on you.
If you know your friends are not loser friends
who are sabotaging
your success and happiness in life,
this is a red flag.
She tries to hide this subtle red flag
by making it sound like
she's looking after your best interests,
but really she's looking out for herself.
Unless you are making
poor choices in friends
or your activities with them,
jealousy and attempts to control your social life
is a signal of a red flag.
Key point,
love shouldn't feel like a cage.
If it does either she's damaged goods,
or your beliefs and values don't match,
either way, red flag.
Four, narcissism.
When it's all about her
and nothing else matters,
you might be dealing with a narcissist.
Love should be a duet, not a solo performance.
Subtle red flag example.
You try to tell her about an issue
you're having with a coworker.
Her, uh, I have the same problem blah, blah, blah.
Then she goes on a long diatribe
about her work drama without ever bringing
conversation back to your situation.
It feels subtle because at first,
it seems like she's relating to you,
but when it's all about her
and your concerns, take a backseat,
narcissism is raising it's nasty head.
Key point,
in love there's no room for one person show.
It's time to find a partner
who appreciates the duo.
Five, refusal to seek help
for mental health problems.
We all have challenges
but when mental health issues
have a serious impact on your or her life,
refusing to seek help is a red flag.
Love can conquer many things,
but it can't replace professional support,
I'll put a link for that.
Subtle red flag example.
Her erratic moods
of extreme highs and lows
make you suspect
she has bipolar disorder.
When you gently suggest
she talk to a doctor she says
I don't need help, I'll deal with it.
This is a subtle flag
because it seems like she wants to be
responsible for herself,
but refusing assistance when needed
can strain a relationship.
Key point, a loving relationship
can coexist with personal challenges,
but it shouldn't be a substitute
for professional help.
Six, lack of empathy and gaslighting.
Another sign of narcissism can be
if your partner dismisses your feelings and opinions.
A lack of empathy is a red flag
waving in the storm of emotional abuse.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, why are you upset?
Don't be so sensitive,
you're over thinking it.
Again, this one can be tricky
if you sometimes do over think things,
but gaslighting starts
with a match and ends in a dumpster fire.
Gaslighting undermines your feelings
and is a sign of emotional abuse.
A better reply would be
walk me through your thinking process.
Key point,
love is about understanding and support
not making someone doubt
their own worth and sanity.
Seven, defensiveness.
In the face of conflict,
it's normal to feel defensive.
But if she can't bring
herself to ever apologize
and instead blames you,
it's time for a reality check.
Subtle red flag example.
You, I shut down when you yell at me.
Her, I wouldn't yell at you
if you just listen.
Why is everything about you?
Wait a minute.
Even if you didn't listen,
she should own up
to apologizing for yelling.
Inability to acknowledge her mistakes
or always deflecting blame
is a subtle red flag.
Key point,
I'm sorry, but is not an apology,
but negates everything before it.
Always thank someone
for a sincere apology.
Make good behavior feel safe.
Eight, she's always checking up on you.
So, sweet checkings are great,
but when it comes to
constant demand for attention,
it's time to reassess.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, why didn't you reply hours ago?
This one can sneak up on you.
At first she hides her insecurity
by making you feel she's simply attentive
or has "reasonable" standards.
However, assuming you didn't cause her distrust,
distrust, constant checking
and demanding instant replies
or a play by play of your day
is suffocating.
Key point,
relationships thrive on mutual respect and trust
not being a beckon call boy.
Nine, anger management issues.
Confronting problems shouldn't feel like
a trip to the war zone.
If she can't handle difficult conversations
without going berserk red flag.
All right, this one a not so subtle red flag.
She might say
you're bringing that up again?
If difficult conversations
lead to explosive anger,
it's definitely a red flag.
Key point, a healthy relationship
is built on open communication
not on fear of expressing your thoughts.
10, she tells you people's secrets
unless it affects you
and your relationship directly.
Sharing other people's secrets is a no go zone.
She spills the beans without second thought,
she may be telling your secrets to others as well.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, guess what I heard
about Jessica's marriage troubles.
Okay, she may be trying to gauge
how your relationship stacks up
or where you stand
on a similar relationship issue
or even just want to reduce
your respect of Jessica
by sharing her secrets,
but it's still a breach of trust.
A respectful conversation may start with,
I heard about a couple
who are dealing with this challenge,
how would you feel if that was us?
Key point,
trust is the foundation of a strong relationship.
If she's sharing secrets without discretion
it's a potential red flag.
11, new sign of reciprocation.
Relationships are a two way street.
If your efforts
aren't met with a similar energy,
it may be time to reassess.
Subtle red flag example.
You're working full time
but still manage to pick her up,
take her out, help her with her errands,
and more.
Meanwhile, it doesn't feel like
she's giving much back,
especially lately, including in the bedroom.
When you playfully ask her
if she can give you a hand with something hard,
(Laughter)
you notice her roll her eyes and say
I've had a long week.
This one is subtle
because you don't want to pressure her
for physical intimacy.
But at the same time,
if she has the energy to go out with her friends
then yeah.
Of course, *** is not the only way
to appreciate or reciprocate,
but if it feels like you're the only one
giving everything in a relationship, take note.
Key point,
love should be a general
give and take not a one sided exchange.
Keep an eye out for reciprocity.
12, constant jealousy.
A little jealousy is normal and even healthy,
but when it becomes a daily interrogation
time to hit pause.
Subtle red flag example.
Her, what did you and
"female coworker" friend,
female anybody talk about?
At first, you simply think
she's curious about your other friendships
or work relationships.
But over time,
a seemingly innocent question
turns into the Spanish inquisition.
Excessive jealousy and distrust
signal insecurity that can harm a relationship,
no matter where the jealousy originated.
Key point,
love requires trust
not constant surveillance.
If you've done nothing wrong
and she's still questioning your every move,
that's a red flag.
Bonus, pessimism.
Okay, some of you won't like this one
because you may linger in that
latent doom and gloom a little bit yourself,
but you need to hear it.
So, seeing the glass is half empty
all the time, that's a yellow flag.
Here's the thing,
pessimism is a psychological
safety mechanism.
Our brains are so smart,
they try to help us out by forewarning us
of as many worst case scenarios as possible
so we can prepare for them.
Okay, I get that but still,
pessimism can take over
and cause us to see only danger
that's emotionally and mentally exhausting.
Subtle yellow flag example.
You I got a promotion at work.
Her, well, don't get too excited
something's bound to go wrong,
it always does leave.
Constant negativity will erode
the positivity in a relationship.
Key point, a healthy relationship
needs a balance of cautious advancement
with optimism and mutual support
not perpetual doubt.
Okay, let's look at some yellow flags
versus red flags.
Yellow and red flags can seem similar,
but there's a crucial difference.
Yellow flags are the caution signs
indicating areas that need attention.
When you both handle them well
they can turn into green flags,
but when you ignore them or handle them poorly,
they can morph into red flags.
The way to know if something's a yellow flag
or a red flag is fairly simple,
it's how she handles it
when you lovingly and respectfully
call her out on the behavior.
Key word, lovingly.
Almost no one handles criticism well
but particularly when we feel judged,
attacked, or unloved,
take note of her behavior.
For example, reactions are often negative,
immediate, and often exaggerated
for the situation,
whereas responses
are positive or neutral,
often happen after a pause
of thoughtful contemplation,
and are reasonable for the situation.
So, let's go back to the jealousy example.
Yellow flag,
you notice she gets a little jealous
but is willing to talk about it
and work through it together.
Red flag,
her jealousy escalates to controlling behavior
and she's unwilling to discuss
the situation at all.
Key point,
the longer you ignore something
the more difficult it is to change.
Of course, no one is perfect
and we all have off moments.
You've got to trust your instincts
and prioritize your well being,
protect your mental health
and pay attention.
And remember, a healthy relationship
is a two way street.
If you've experienced more than
three of these red flags in a relationship,
you might be dating
an emotionally damaged woman
or potentially a narcissist.
And you'll want to watch my videos
on damaged women and narcissists next.
I am sending you so much love,
I'm so thankful for you, God bless.