On this wellness Wednesday.
We're also talking about betrayal trauma and how to cope,
betrayal trauma is what you experience after
you've put your ultimate trust in someone
close to you and that someone has broken that trust and violated you.
This could be in the form of child abuse, parental abandonment, domestic violence,
and most often
infidelity.
And last week when we talked about the crippling effects,
this topic really resonated with a lot of viewers.
We received text messages and feedback even among our coworkers.
So we wanted to continue the conversation today.
Joining me once again is therapist Julianna Liddon.
You know, last week when we touched about this, this topic, you know,
we talked about minimizing the pain and you talked about hypnotherapy.
You are actually a clinical hypnotherapist as well.
So walk us through how this works.
So the really amazing thing about hypnotherapy is it works in the subconscious,
the subconscious controls 90% of our brain.
It actually holds, it's like a big data bank.
It holds every experience we've ever gone through in our lives.
So when you come in for hypnotherapy,
maybe you're suffering from betrayal trauma or maybe it's something less severe,
like you're just stuck in your life.
I put you into a deep state of relaxation.
Now, when I do that, what happens is the subconscious mind kind of wakes up
and it is very open to suggest ability.
So we go back when we're suffering trauma or a pain point,
we can go back through the continuum of our lives and we
can find where we have seen or experienced a similar trauma.
So sometimes it can be even in childhood.
And so through this relaxed state, the really amazing thing is we find that memory,
we bring it up, we heal some of this inner child.
But here's the piece that's amazing.
We can actually change the belief that you had about yourself.
So as a young child, maybe what happened is I felt
loved, I felt so disempowered.
I was so unhappy and in that moment, we can shift that to I'm happy. I'm powerful.
I'm grateful.
And when you come out of that deep relaxed state, my goodness,
you feel so much more whole because you've healed.
Yes. Oh my gosh. I got chills when you're explaining that to me. And
I bet you feel awakened. Oh my God. It
is. It is, it's just beautiful. It really is.
OK. And
is it one session or is it multiple? I mean,
does
it probably depends on the type of trauma
does.
So you have to work on one thing at a time. So you come in.
Maybe it's betrayal, trauma, infidelity.
We're gonna go back and look where you experienced
a similar type of trauma maybe isn't infidelity,
but trauma stays with us unless we deal with it
and it just kind of lays low
to you, hit something again and bam you might really explode with a lot of pain to
and you and wait till you, like bring it to the surface, dispose it.
Ok? What if some people would be scared to go through this to go under?
You know, hypnotherapist.
Well,
what happens is sometimes people think if you remember
the comedy clubs and stuff where they go around
and then you're on the stage,
you're fucking like a chicken.
So they think, oh you're gonna, you know, if it's suggestible, the subconscious,
maybe you're going to make me think something or do something.
Absolutely not. The beautiful thing is you will do nothing or think anything
that you don't feel comfortable with.
So the people on that stage, they go around,
they've already talked to everybody and they know they
can't wait to be excited and show off,
right?
So they know uh OK. So you talked about hypnotherapy.
There are other two other uh modalities. Can you
go into
E MD R and blind uh brain spotting, sorry, brain spotting
and what these have to do with
our eye movements or fields of, of the eyes?
Because what they say happens here is as your
eyes are moving and you're working on the trauma,
you're almost resetting it in the brain.
I don't do these modalities but
they do help.
And there are lots of, um, therapists that do
and then the brain spotting is that the same thing?
So that when you're actually looking at a specific field, um, like over in a spot,
which sounds so bizarre but it works very,
very well as you're moving through the traumatic experience.
So your eyes aren't moving but they're fixed.
So it has to do with the eyes and the brain. It's quite fascinating.