Sex for men is like pizza. The bad pizza is still good pizza.
Dude, I think there was one time in life that I was like wow this was not pleasant.
Other than that - oh my god.
Hi my name is Alan and I am from Brazil. Hi my name is Malak and I am from Egypt. Hi my name is Omair and I am from Pakistan.
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What was the question? I'm not okay with this - I think a casual one night or couple nights thing with no emotions
is possible but it like if you're seeing somebody for a year on a friends with benefits basis, there's no way there's no emotions.
For me, there's always an emotional connection everytime I'm intimiate with somebody. So I wouldn't
be able to step forward and say I can go do this and not be emotionally connect to this
How can you not compartamentalize? But if you're seeing that person for a year - like that's say you're seeing them for a year
you're telling me by the end of year, there - wouldn't be - like there's zero emotions
So -well no, it's very possible to be in a relationship and then to lose emotions ot not feel something for somebody but
then I stop being intimiate with them. It's an important aspect of intimacy for me.
For me personally, it's like a switch. That's frightening. When it's a very clear thing
This is just friends with benefits, I don't see a future here but I like hooking up with you. Are you cool with that? I'm cool with that.
I'm not cool with that - yeah , no - boundaries, boundaries. I'm not cool with that.
I think that people don't know how to - I think people have a really hard time outlining their boundaries.
And that's why it gets so blurred so easily. Yeah. I've seen it happen successfully. It's as simple as communicating it and actually
following what you're saying. And alot of people can't do that and that's the foundational problem.
Yeah, but also if you're talking about friends with benefits, you have sort of bond with them. You enjoy their company to some degree
When you start having sex with them, and the sex is good on top of that - part of me goes hey wait maybe this could be the
complete package because I enjoy your company anyway - Well because, isn't the term friend is someone you have
some level of a relationship with? Because if you don't, then you basically have a free escort
Good point - like
How did that first date go though?
First dates, typically, I'm getting to know them. It's a very boring answer but that's how I do it.
Typically, the most important to see, even for sex, is if there is any physical chemistry?
Or some sort of chemistry - like do I enjoy spending time with them as well because if it's just really difficult then
a drag - I don't know if I'm going to take it further than that.
I think I'm going to move on up. I think that the people that you sleep with can effect you a very energetic level
And I think that people aren't very concious of that. There's only so much that you can grasp on just a first date of just asking
questions and seeing how they, I don't know, eat their food - something as simple as that
Just learning their nuances. It takes a little bit of time, it is like the final thing you offer somebody on a very deep and physical level
and I think it is something that should be protected.
It's funny you mention spritiuality because I have had encounters that I don't feel great after. and I just want to take a shower not
only because I feel - dirty - Yeah, you feel like you gave something away. I want to wash that energy out of me, you know so
Well I think that it can be spiritual, and I think that it can impact you afterwards if that is the kind of person you are.
But it's very realistic that some people are sexually open, especially in today's world where it is so over sexualized
That's not really the gift anymore - the gift is I'm going to be there for you, it's these other things.
and that's kinda something you gotta know if that's gonna work. What if you wait until the 90 days or whatever and god
90-days later, you find out that this person is terrible
I've had a 5 year relationship from sleeping with someone on the first date. To me, if I slept with someone on the first date and
then they said, Okay let's go for the second, third date cause I want to keep talking to me that's even better.
Because I feel like you're waiting and you're talking and yeah it's so nice to get to know someone but shouldn't you get to know
someone before or after sex anyways? So to me, if I have sex on the first date because we have that chemistry and it's amazing
and then he says, now I definitely want to get to know you more - to me that's amazing because we got the sex, I got to
now if i like your equations, if everything works well but now you still want to know me? That feels even better.
You are amazing - It's do our souls connect? So it's a huge part for you terms of connection. It's huge - I can have a
conversation with a friend or a mother or - I have friends - can I have a lover?
Oh yeah - definitely. I won't - It's okay! I don't think it's a first date question necessarily but I think like if you know
the person and you guys have a connection and they ask - if you feel bad about it that's fine but I don't think we should feel
ashamed of saying yeah this many. I'm dating a guy for example and he tells my oh my number is this and it's really high
For me, and I'm like you know the person they're committed to it's like yeh that's nice cause
that's means that I must be special - well put - Well you should never feel bad about your own number
It's just you're not going to have control how the other person is going to take it. That's why - some people might not feel
comfortable with that number and that's going to be their decision from there forward.
There should be no problem if you say, especially if they ask - I mean if they're going to ask
They should be willing to accept that number - exactly.
Additionally, I only ask if I can see if the person is more inexperienced
Cause if the person is experienced and I can say GASP, I know she's been around. And I'm okay with that - I'm glad for that even.
Like okay, you're pleasing me right now because you have the experience you have and I'm good -
Are you going to ask our numbers? God NO, we're not telling the world my number. I'll tell on the first date maybe but not the world
Whaat? It's personal! You step forward and said it was okay to say numbers - you stepped forward!
I definitely think there's more of a stigma for the girls - regardless of which part of the world you're in
I think if you care - as a man - if you care too much about the body count, you are very insecure.
You cannot please your woman, and you worry about that. No I wouldn't say that - I wouldn't go so far as to say that you're insecure.
I'm not gonna judge anybody else cause people are going to have their own reasons. You know they have religious beliefs or
Morals and that's beautiful for people who hold themselves for marriage or things like that.
Those things are beautiful, let's not take away from that and say oh just because we're sexually liberated that that's the way
it should be because there's alot of sicknesses and sad things in the world that we're dealing with right now
that are definitely due to oversexualization of our media and stuff like that.
Have you ever had cold pizza?
No cause like I'm thinking - about like sex for men is like pizza. The bad pizza, is still good pizza.
I think there was one time in my life that I was like well, wow this was not pleasant - other than that - oh my god.
I think a norm, sex ends when the guy comes - yep - so if you don't treat the girl properly and you don't take care of her first
She might be - not done. So for me, specifically, taking care of someone that I just got to know
that I just knew right now could be harder because every person is different but if you work your way around - you talk
communication, you get there and then you did your job.
It's kind of like you're saying one-night stands are fun versus one night stands can be fun - cause they can be really bad
Yeah - Yeah and I would step forward to say it could be fun to have those but everything after would be so dramatic I wouldn't
want to go through this experience. So I mean, it is fun, yes I'll step forward and say having sex is fun but is positive for every individual? I don't think so.
There are one night stands that I did not consent to but it was too quick, it was too son, it was one night. That's the definition of
a one night stand and I left it feeling complete regret saying that this was not what I wanted
The other person thought it was consenual sure, because I got there but they didn't know me enough -
that's the defintion of a one night stand. Now that might not be for everybody but that's just something to keep in mind for everyone
that speaks directly to the trauma I was speaking about earlier. Like how much of these things are actually leading us to be unhappy - as a society
Cause we don't know - some people may say yes their all for it, and others may say yeah sure but then at the end of day
They go home and cry in shower and you have no idea. You're like yeah it was consensual, it was great
and you're like it could be for some but for others it isn't because again, one-night stand.
Because if I do be intimate with someone - it's the intention of not wanting to be in a relationship with someone.
You're more Pakistani than I am dude
Sorry? You're Pakistani than I am - are you sure you're from the US?
He doesn't go out just to have a good-time. Oh I'll go out and have a good time - I just don't have to sleep
with somebody to have a good time.
No no - you don't go on dating apps or the bar just to find someone to have sex in that night?
God no. Oh wait just to be clear, I've had one-night stands before but they kinda sucked
They suck.
Do whatever you want in your life, that's fine but in terms of intimacy and that, I wouldn't want to be my partners -
to be advirtised to the public. I have a question for you - I don't feel comfortable with that - yeah go ahead-
Only fans, many times is sexualized and all that - she's not showing anything. She is cosplaying - she has sexy clothes -
but she's not showing anything, would you be okay with that? Maybe I'm old school that way - I just wouldn't want -
I don't know what would go on in there. I just wouldn't want my partner to be advirtised like that.
Why would your partner have to be advirtising it? cause you don't want people to see her- would you consider an instagram account
with revealing clothes. I mean today's clothes are pretty revealing. That's what reconciled it for me was
just the way that women dress in our society today. Like oh they're technically already doing this and
So now my partner does have an only fans account and god I couldn't say anything to her.
She takes care of her family, she makes like 30,000 dollars more. She makes more than me - makes more than you probably
If it's just pics, I'm cool with it - if it's basically just pornography I am not - point blank - I don't even want to explain myself.
Pornography as in like two people having sex or like - no pornography with your individual self.
I'm just not okay with that. Are you not okay with the fact that the women is nude or that they're getting off on that
Well that's especially bad. The women being nude and basically exploiting her body because I think that sex is special.
It's because of how I value sex. It has nothing to do with the physical naked body being on a camera or being in front of -
It's more or less just the exploitation of her sexuality which I find special from the person myself.
There's a lot of men out there that are not having any at all - go watch porn - and that leads to violence in society when men
have sexual pressure so this is actually like - actually they're superheros. You know I hate porno and onlyfans
I despised it cause I love women so much and I don't feel like this is empowering but it Is empowering - it's like doesn't have to
sleep with somebody, she's in a safeplace where no one is going to hurt her - God this is so good
and when you travel the world and see sexuality throughout the world it's frightening the sex work industry.
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