So basically, I'm in college right now.
I'm a junior almost finished and stuff.
So I'm like woman like always tend to ignore me and it's kind of like getting on my nerves.
Like, I'll just try to like impress them and like it doesn't like work out for some reason.
When you say impress them, what do you mean?
What are you doing to impress them?
Like I'll dress up like nice or like smell good, but it just doesn't seem to like grasp
their attention.
Like I don't know.
That's not what gets a girl's attention.
What's that?
That's not what gets a girl's attention.
Oh, okay.
What's your question?
My question is, how do you think that I me like personally can get like more woman like
to like have their eyes on me?
Are you talking to a lot of women?
Because women are not going to approach you.
You're gonna have to talk to them so you'll have to make the first move.
Yeah, but like most people told me that I have to make it like that woman have to come
to me.
Don't chase women.
You know, that's like what a lot of people tell me.
That's not how it works.
I explained this earlier.
We'll revisit this idea.
There's a difference between chasing and leading.
Exactly.
What you need to do is you need to lead and you need to be proactive.
It's okay to be proactive.
If you overdo that, that's when you're chasing.
To go up to a woman, to approach her, to talk to her, that's just being proactive and being
assertive.
That's not chasing.
There's a difference.
Chasing is when you're being desperate to the point where you're overdoing it and you're
trying to go after the same woman non stop even though she said no.
Just be clear on that.
It's okay to go up and start conversations.
It's okay to make things happen but just understand that you're not going to impress a girl by
the way you're dressed.
You're going to... and you got to get that word out of your vocabulary too.
It's not about impressing.
It's not about impressing her.
If anything, you should be thinking about if she's impressing you.
That's what you need to be thinking.
Exactly.
So don't think to impress her.
Think I'm going to go over, I'm going to be my most masculine interesting charismatic
self and that gives you your best chance of getting her attracted to you.
That's very broad.
I know that doesn't just solve your issue.
But basically you're asking how to get girls attracted.
The entire channels based on this.
I can't really answer this that quick.
But if I were you to just get started, just approach more women.
Approach more women, focus more on conversation and just having a good time.
Just focus on having a good time talking to them and talk to more women.
All right.
Thanks man.
You're welcome.
Take care.
Hey Tripp my name is Damien and I'm calling from North Carolina.
What's up Damien?
How you doing?
How old you are?
I am 31 years old.
What's your question?
My question would be this.
I have this girl who I talk to at the gym.
And I was wondering, like she's giving me choosing signals and she comes up and talks
and she seems to be very friendly.
But I was wondering should I interact more or should I keep my distance and see where
it goes?
So you're saying, sorry, where was it?
At the gym?
Yeah at them gym.
Okay.
So why haven't you asked her out yet or gotten her number?
Actually because I was trying to not seem to come off as being needy and clingy and
things like that.
You know it could boil down to rejection but I really don't know.
Yeah.
I'm just trying to figure it out.
Yeah.
The reason is bud is you're afraid of the rejection.
It's so funny this topic keeps coming up.
It's not needy.
It's not needy to go for a girl's number.
It's not needy to ask her out.
It's needy to do it over and over again if she says no, but it's not needy to go for
it.
Not at all.
It's just being proactive.
It's not chasing, it's not being needy.
The reason why you're thinking that and why most guys think this stuff is because they're
trying to convince themselves not to go for it because they don't want to get rejected.
That's what's happening.
You're scared of the rejection.
Bro if you don't go for it, you'll be in the exact same place.
You just gotta do it, you just gotta do it.
Right now she's either interested in you or she's not.
So at this point when you ask her out, you're just going to get the true answer.
Don't avoid it, live in reality.
I always tell guys, let's live in reality, not some sort of dreamland.
Don't be afraid of reality.
If she's not interested bro hundreds of thousands, millions of more women available.
You don't have to worry about it.
You'll just talk to the next one.
Okay, awesome bro.
Thanks.
You're welcome.