what's going on everybody it's me Joe
and I'm here to bring a video about
women going out alone and how to be safe
because it's not just like hey I'mma go
on a date by myself cuz I'm a boss ass
the reality is as a woman traveling
alone you're most likely going to
encounter good people and bad people
last night I went out by myself I went
to a jazz club I'm treating myself right
so then I put on some lipstick I put on
my cute little heels and it was perfect
the venue was amazing the people looked
cool I go to the bar I order my drink
take a seat all of a sudden this sketchy
man comes up and decides to sneak past
my chair to sit right next to me homie
boo boo thinks it's okay to talk to me
this close to my face I'm doing one of
those like shift backs like why are you
this close to my face I don't need to
see your nose hairs you need to back up
this man proceeds to ask me if I want a
drink I'm like no I have a drink thank
you what are you drinking it ain't none
of your business that's what I'm
drinking 5 minutes later no no no come
on come on please let me get you a drink
I said no again he goes to the bar and
he comes back with a beer for himself
and a cocktail for me and I look at the
cocktail I'm like you think I'm going to
drink this but I'm not going to drink
this so here I am giving you my tips as
somebody that's gone out alone as a
woman with lady lumps first tip pick the
right spots that are going to be easy
for you to visually see what's going on
I wouldn't necessarily recommend raised
with like massive shrub lights and fog
machines just cuz that's not really good
for the visual senses I mean if you're
like that hardcore go for it but for me
I usually like to pick quaint spots that
are easy to kind of navigate through
when you get to that location feel feel
out the crab you don't have a friend to
talk to you don't have somebody to be
like oh do you think this is sketchy
it's just you boo boo so feel your gut
and make sure that whatever crowd you're
among that those are people that you
might actually want to talk to and if
you get there and the crowd isn't right
leave because you're by yourself and you
don't have to stay another tip refrain
from wearing that freom dress I know we
all got them in the closet if you put on
your freom dress it's going to send some
signals to everybody there especially if
they notice you're by yourself which
could get sketchy obviously wearing a
dress isn't going to change the fact
that people might approach you because
people approached me and I was basically
wearing like a nun's outfit yesterday if
you're wearing a freom dress is calling
more attention to you and why are you
doing that if you're going out with
yourself you ain't got to do all that
you ain't ever got to do all that if
you're at a bar make sure you chat up
the bartender or you chat up the hostess
somebody that you could feel like is a
Lifeline you know when you're little and
you used to play tag and you had like
home base consider that you're home base
so if somebody crazy comes up to you be
like I got to get another drink and then
you go back and you talk to the
bartender because they're going to know
you at this point and they're probably
going to look out for you another tip
you don't want to go out and be splashed
spast I just made that word up cuz
that's a word that you need to avoid
being you're going to need to be in tune
with everything which means height and
sensitivity which means you can't be
drunk sorry also anybody that goes out
Alan and expects to get free drinks from
people and actually drinks those drinks
is not really the brightest you don't
know what these crazy people got in
their pockets on the subject of male
suitors if they're trying to get your
phone number and you really don't feel
like you would ever want to be in
contact with this person don't feel like
you're forced to give these people any
information you don't want to give them
use one of the lies that I use which is
oh my number is changing next week works
every time or here's my email address if
you do see somebody that you might want
to talk to conversation starters such as
the following might help you have you
been here before do you know what the
best drink is here or the classic any
traveler uses this one where are you
from this is a life tip always have an
exit strategy plan pretend like you're
in the movie theaters and know your
exits aside from physically leaving the
establishment what you need to know is
how to exit out of a bad conversation
good exit strategies include saying you
have to go to the bathroom and you
simply don't ever come back find a woman
or a couple or a family that you can
kind of talk to and say oh I got to meet
my friends and then you use the fact
that you're alone to befriend these new
people happened to me last night this
man would not leave me alone and so I'm
like oh this is the worst good thing I
got my exit strategy plann he left to go
to the bathroom and I sat next to a
woman who was super nice and saved me
and then we bonded which brings me to
the next tip find those people that look
like they're happy and nice maybe it's a
woman maybe it's a couple make eye
contact with them and smile when you
first walk in so that if somebody
sketchy comes up to you you can actually
pretend that they're your friends and so
you can go up to them and be like man
there's some sketchy people here huh and
before you know it you'll probably be in
a good conversation with somebody that
you didn't even know existed 5 minutes
earlier nine times out of 10 these
people are going to be more than willing
to help you the schedule meter is on
high you got to get out of out of there
Predators be knowing when you alone they
smell it all right you beautiful people
stay safe out there go out have a good
time but like use those tips and comment
below if you have any other sketch meter
Dodger tips that we should know about
and I want to know what's your biggest
fear about potentially going out alone
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