- How do you feel about pregnancy sex?
- I love it.
- Oh, you love it.
I just figured it might have been too soon to
introduce my son to penis.
- [Producer] Hi.
- Hey.
- [Producer] Who are you two and what are you doing here?
- My name's Taylor.
- It's Adama.
- I'm Chris Michael.
- My name is Ben and we're expecting our kids.
- Yeah.
- For the first time. Yeah.
- [Producer] When are your kids due?
- July 19th.
- Mine's due on Halloween.
- Woo. Okay.
- [Taylor] Yeah.
- [Producer] Scorpio!
- Yeah.
- Mine's supposed to be due on Friday.
- Oh.
- [Producer] Oh shit.
How are you two feeling about being fathers?
Are you nervous?
- I would say in the beginning it was all nerves
and then like the closer it gets
it's just turning into pure excitement.
So I'm pumped.
- Is it your first?
- Mm-hmm.
- Oh, me too.
- Yeah, we got like, what, six weeks?
- [Producer] Woo!
- I know, it's right around the corner.
- [Producer] Would we like to start with a shot?
- Yeah.
- Oh yeah, for sure.
- Got to cheers to something.
- To fatherhood. I don't know.
- Fatherhood. All right.
- All right.
I'll ask the question then.
How are you already fucking up as a soon to be dad?
- Damn.
- Starting off strong.
- Probably just like, I don't have anything yet.
I don't have like bottles.
I don't have diapers.
I don't have, I have nothing.
- I mean, I feel that we're waiting
for a lot of it at the baby shower, honestly.
- Yeah.
- We're like really banking on it.
- We're saving money.
- Yeah.
- I'm not doing the best at it.
She's doing probably better than I am, so.
- Bless your heart, bro.
Bless your heart.
- Yeah. I guess that's
- Bless your heart.
- Probably right where we're at in that situation.
- Yeah.
- I probably keep on having these expectations
and conversations about how great
of a basketball player my kid is.
- Okay, okay.
- I've got expectations already, I guess.
What about you?
- I don't really see me working less.
Once the baby gets here,
I feel like I'm gonna have to work more.
My mind is on the money rather than focused
on like what we need to do to prepare our house right.
- I feel that 'cause I haven't, like my girl,
she's been doing all this stuff around the house
and she's having her whole nesting thing and I'm just,
I'm just going about my day.
- Yeah.
- If you're having a boy, are you circumcising?
- I'm having a girl but if I west having a boy
I'm circumcising.
- Yep. That's same.
My dad did it for me.
So I'm not,
I'm definitely gonna do it for my little guy.
- Oh man, look man, everybody's showing
up to the Charles snip and it's a part of the
religion. You gotta.
- Absolutely. I know I have questions for you,
but come on man.
- No.
- No?
- All right so.
- Okay.
- We asked that question pretty early on, like
if we're having a boy, what are we doing with that?
And I was like, whoa, cut it off.
Are you kidding me? Like that?
Why would you leave it on there?
And then as I like looked more and more research and stuff
it's like there's so many nerve endings in that skin.
- So you want him to have extra sensation?
- Yeah. Why would I-
- God.
- Listen. Like why would I
why would I take that away from him?
I'm not trying to convince you at all.
- I want my son to be a 2.0 so he's gotta be
a better version than me.
So you gotta make some of the same decisions I made.
My joint look nice without a turtleneck.
- No turtleneck.
- What will you miss the most about not having kids?
- I guess the, my money being mine.
- Yeah.
- That's probably the biggest thing.
Yeah. What about you?
- I play a lot of video games so like.
- Yeah. Okay.
- I know I have to take some time off of that. Fine.
- I know that pain, man.
I play a lot too.
- Yeah.
- So I really like to busy myself
and I think not being able to call my wife at the
like halfway through the day and be like, hey
my buddy's gonna do a side job after this.
I might be home late.
I'm gonna go make some more money.
Versus like calling her in the middle
of the day and saying, hey, is it okay if I do this?
Like, can you take care of the kid?
- What will you miss most about not having kids?
- The recklessness.
- This is, yeah, it's the recklessness.
- [Producer] Wait, what do you mean the recklessness?
- It's the reckless, its.
- Its just kinda being able to do whatever you wanted to do
and not really having
like any consequences I guess in a sense.
And now you have a kid to think about and you're like
well I can't really be doing this anymore
because how will this be affect
well one, my girlfriend and two are soon to be kid.
- Yeah. RIP homie.
- Yep.
- RIP recklessness.
- What's something your father taught you that will not
be passing down to your kid?
- Oh shit.
Oh, I'm gonna just drink just 'cause.
Alright. Yeah, man, anybody who knows my father
ever know that.
Yeah. I probably can't even say half the stuff.
- I'll drink just cause I can't think of anything right now.
- Fair enough.
I'll drink with you because no man left alone, you know.
- I do love my dad, but we didn't have the best relationship
growing up as kids.
- Real.
- Pretty much everything that I've seen him do
I just know I do not want to be like that.
- Yep. I hear you.
- There was a point where we didn't talk for a while
and then just found out he had cancer, so I was like
I'd rather not, you know, go down that road where
like I don't reconcile with my dad.
Shit happens. Life goes on.
- Yeah.
- Trying to be there for him as much as I can
and then the things that I saw, learn
from that and not do the things that he did pretty much.
- That's real. That's real. That's real.
I respect that.
- All righty.
How do you feel about pregnancy sex?
- I love it.
- Oh, you love it? Oh wow.
- Everything. Okay.
So like all the organs
inside my wife's body are all like pushed and moved.
Right. And so.
- It's already sounding disgusting bro.
- Okay sure.
- How you described it just.
- But we'll just put it this way.
Everything is tighter without trying.
- Okay.
- Because there's not as much space.
So not only is it better for me
but it's a whole lot better for her.
- I'll keep it a buck. The two ain't the same.
I'm a positions man.
- Less positions.
- Less positions for the man.
- Yeah. Yep.
- But, but like, like here, here's my thing.
- Okay.
- I just figured it might've been too soon
to introduce my son to penis because like when you go
to the doctor visits, like when you get as close as I am
they start telling you stuff like, oh, you know, like
oh man, we're gonna reach our hand up in here and you know
see where she's at and they'll be like, oh man
I just touched his head.
I'm like, oh, I'm gonna do the same thing.
So that's just, it's just, I don't know
just the whole idea of it.
It just, it just
- Kinda skeeves you out?
- Yeah. You know, like, you know,
let's ease him in the penis, you know what I'm saying?
- Would you rather have a gay son or a promiscuous daughter?
- I have no idea.
- What so are you drinking or?
- I mean, I'll drink.
- I'm glad you didn't draw that card.
- And I truly don't even care if my son is gay.
Like I really don't, but I don't want a promiscuous daughter
and I'm like a hundred percent okay with having a daughter.
But I guess that's like my one fear is like
what is she gonna be like?
- Yeah.
- And when she gets to that age and she's not
my little girl anymore and I can't relate to her
like I don't want that.
So I would definitely take gay son.
All right. Same question man.
Would you should rather have a gay son
or a promiscuous daughter?
- Easy. Gay son.
- I know.
- It's just, I don't even, like, even
if she is promiscuous, it's like that's just
what she's gonna do I guess.
Like I know it sucks.
I know how like dudes are and stuff like.
- That's what I'm saying.
I don't want her to go through that.
- Yeah.
- Shit either one. I don't give a fuck that's my child shit.
Whatever man. As long as you my kid, like we good.
- What has been the worst part
about your partner's pregnancy?
- Honestly just her mood swings.
It's more hard because that
since we don't see each other as much
'cause she's always working and I'm always working
and the only time we ever really get time
with each other is later at night.
- Yeah.
- In the day,
we're not really being able to spend these first
couple months, you know, with each other.
- My friend, she had the, she had terrible morning sickness
so she just wasn't really, you know
capable of doing really much of anything.
- Honestly, like the beginning of it
she like couldn't hold any food.
She was just throwing up the whole time.
I felt so bad I didn't know what to do.
I had to take her to the ER a couple times
but now she's kind of like, fine.
After like second trimester.
- All right. You ready for this one?
- Lets hear it.
- Are you worried you'll be less attracted
to your partner's body post having a baby?
- No.
- Oh.
- I'm not worried about it.
- She a dime top of the line.
- To me she is.
- Say that. Good look.
- Yeah.
I know she's really worried about it and she's, you know
worried about how she looks and everything
and how she thinks that I feel about her.
But I reassure her every single day that I
think she's the most beautiful girl in the world.
- I look, echoed, but you know like that beauty's,
yeah that beauty's there to stay.
- My shorty, she's like six four and petite
so she's got a little bit more room to grow anyways.
- Six four?
- Yeah bro. I mean I'm six six.
- I'm gonna say if your kid's not a basketball player
at this point like I'm a little confused at what's going on.
- I'm really pushing for that.
- How are you not going to fuck up your kid?
Ah, I know right.
- Like physically?
No, I'm just joking. No, I'm just joking.
- Probably not be like lazy.
Make sure I'm like proactive around the house.
Like cleaning up.
- Yeah.
- I'm gonna attempt to just try to lead by example.
I just don't think I can tell my kid to do anything
and expect for him to do it if I myself don't
have the same discipline to be able to do it myself.
- 100%. Yeah, for sure.
- Know what I'm saying, so like how can I expect
for my kid to be a reader and read to books
if he doesn't see books in his home,
if he doesn't see his parents reading books.
- I would never teach my kid how to hate.
'Cause I feel like I personally think hate
is taught in a household.
Everyone deserves love.
- Deserve the love, deserve the respect, show up.
- And even if people are disrespectful,
just kill them with kindness.
- Yeah, right.
- What are your three biggest fears about being a dad?
- I don't know.
I mean, I guess the only fear I got is I really
don't wanna screw my kid up and make him a bad person.
- Our children are actually supposed to supersede us
and that's the goal.
Every generation gets stronger.
- Oh yeah.
That's what alls you could thrive for your kids.
Have your kid be better than what you were
or at least give them the opportunity to be a better person
than what you were.
- Absolutely.
- [Producer] Do either of you have any fears around
bringing in kids that are black?
- Oh.
- Of course.
- Yeah.
- Obviously the world's a little bit different now
but like we still see in the news
that it's not as different as we thought, you know?
- I just moved from Arizona to here like
about like nine months ago.
In Arizona we, just me and her would go to the store
and then it's just like people would stare.
- Yeah.
- It's just like, I bet you dealt
with stuff too growing up like.
- Of course. It's in your face
whether you want it to be or not, you know?
And like obviously there's people who want to put
on their blinders and say it's not there
but the reality is
it's right there in everybody's face.
- Yeah.
- Even still today.
- A hundred percent.
- So of course I have fears of raising a child
in this kind of society.
- Between the two of us
who seems like they will be a better father?
- Oh man, you know what?
I'm gonna take the political route. You got it.
- I'm gonna do this again though
'cause I don't like that question.
- That's a terrible one. I'm not gonna say.
Man, you're doing great.
- I think we're both gonna be great fathers man.
- I think you're great, man. I'm glad.
- He's gonna be a great dad
in his own individual way and I feel
like I'd be a great dad in my own own individual way.
- Facts.
Like I'm excited to see your child in this world.
- As yours, man.
- As it is that you raise him.
I'm excited to see that.
- I'm having a daughter, let's link them up.
- I'm gonna tell your daughter,
focus on you homie, he ain't worth it.
He ain't worth it. He ain't worth it.
- What's the over under on my baby's due date?
Does he come early?
Does he come late?
- [Crew] I'm gonna say tonight.
- Tonight?
- I would take tonight.
If he comes tomorrow night when the
Phoenix (indistinct) play,
no good bro.
No good.