In this video you will learn how to make a man worried about losing you, so if
you're in a relationship and feeling taken for granted or unappreciated and
you want to remind him of your value and importance in his life, then this is the
video for you. Don't go anywhere because we're starting right now
Hi everyone I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello and I'm a psychologist and a relationship
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missing anything okay how to make a man worry about losing you first why is it
important for a man to worry about losing you well here's a huge statement
that some of you might find controversial if your man never
experiences any fear or worry of losing you
he will never fall deeply in love with you let me say it in a different way if
he never worries that you could leave him or that he could lose you he will
never value and appreciate and love you the way that he should so if you're
feeling taken for granted or he's not really showing you the love and
attention that he once did here are the 7 tips that will make him worry about
losing you and turn things around for your relationship number 1 let go of
your anger and stop talking about feeling unappreciated okay this one is
difficult to do but absolutely essential so let me explain when you feel like
he's taking you for granted or that he doesn't appreciate you it's natural to
feel hurt and even angry about it and it makes sense that you would want to talk
to him about it and sometimes that's enough to temporarily turn things around
however if things don't change continuing to bring up your complaints
might actually make things worse and despite all the conversations nothing
changes things just get more difficult between you it's like he sees you as the
one who's always complaining and nagging at him so you must not bring this topic
up again at least not yet I know it's not easy to do but if you continue to
bring it up you could sabotage your chances of turning things around so
despite how you're feeling you must not let him know that you're
upset or sad or worried instead after you do these steps he's going to be the
one missing and appreciating you and he will bring it up himself
number two prioritize your fitness it's not uncommon for couples in a
relationship to put on some extra pounds and make the gym and their personal
fitness less of a priority people get comfortable with one another
and place less of an emphasis on being in their best and most attractive
physical shape so if you've gained a few pounds and don't have the same hourglass
figure that you had when you met your man
getting back into shape is something that he will certainly notice and
appreciate so join a gym or start following a particular workout program
and make it a priority make sure that he understands how important this is to you
and that you have particular fitness or size goals to meet now he should be
happy that you are making these changes but he's also going to know that you are
going to be more attractive to everyone other men included so don't be surprised
if he makes comments or asks why you're trying to look so good now if your
physical fitness hasn't changed at all since you've been in a relationship you
can still share with him an increased level of enthusiasm about your fitness
and then do the next tip number three glamorize your looks when in a
relationship it's common for people to get so comfortable that they let their
appearance fade if this resonates with you it's time to start glamourizing the
way that you look when you're with him and when you're not with him so dress
well and make sure that your hair and your skin is glowing and look your best
he's going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you and that's
going to remind him that other men find you attractive now if you're a person
who is always looking your best consider making a change in the way you look
perhaps you could change your hair length or your color or change your
style of clothing or change your makeup just make sure that it's enough of a
change that he will notice and it's a change that makes you look sexier and
more glamorous and the psychology behind these changes are twofold first he's
going to be wondering why you've made this significant change in the way that
you look he's going to be questioning why it's so important for you to look
better for you to look different and he's going to question if it's because
you want to be attractive to other men and again this is going to provoke just
a little bit of fear that someone else could take his place the second thing
that happens when you change the way you look or the way that you dress he's
going to be wondering if you're also changing your feelings and if you're
changing your feelings about him before I get to number four I want to
explain why the fear of losing you is essential to him falling in love and
staying in love with you see in the beginning of most dating relationships
and before any commitments are made both people are working towards gaining the
affection and trust of their partner that's because when we like someone we
show them and we tell them and we work hard to make it known to them in hopes
that our feelings are being reciprocated so we are motivated to show our love by
both our desire to have this other person as well as by feeling insecure
about our standing with them and as I've talked about before the more we invest
in someone the more effort we put into someone orden to something the more we
appreciate and like them as a result now what happens when a man has no fear of a
woman ever leaving him well then half of his motivation is removed and he no
longer has to try so hard he no longer has to work on securing your love and
attention if he has no fear of ever losing you he knows that he doesn't have
to be on top of his game and you'll still be there so he takes you for
granted he under appreciates you and he no longer works as hard at making the
relationship great that's when you need to gently remind him of your value in
his life and by no means when I suggest that you purposefully try to make him
feel jealous or engage in any type of manipulative games know these tips are
all based on focusing on you on prioritizing you and looking amazing and
feeling amazing and reminding him that he's with an amazing woman and he must
work to ensure he keeps you interested in him number four resurrect your social
life outside of his go out with your friends and have fun again away from
your man do something for you take up a new hobby or do something that you enjoy
this forces him to recognize your independence and that you're not just
sitting by the phone waiting for his call remember one of the most important
things that men find attractive and women is independence he's got to know
how full and complete your life is and if he becomes part of it it's because
you want him to be part of it not because you need him to be part of it so
make sure that you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him be
yourself and make your a priority makin keep plans with your
girlfriends and keep your schedule busy this goes a long way towards helping him
to see you as a high-value woman with an exciting life and when you do that he is
going to want to be a part of that and when he isn't he's going to feel that
too so when he calls you last minute to make plans oops sorry I have plans this
will make him prioritize and plan his time with you he will also begin to
recognize that he does not get the privilege of calling you or asking you
to go out when he feels a whim he has to earn back that high priority status
so make other plans and he will start to remember how you used to be available
for him when he prioritized a relationship number 5 connect with him
on an emotionally intimate level what I'm saying is that you create a safe
space for him to be emotionally intimate think back to a time when you felt
really close and connected with your partner or a time when you felt that you
could tell your partner your deepest secrets and it would be totally accepted
we all need that deep connection with someone and those deep and wonderful
feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety we open up when we
feel safe we take risks when we feel safe so create a safe zone for him to be
freely expressive to be himself that means being a person who is very
accepting and caring and compassionate when he's connected with you on an
emotionally intimate level he will certainly miss you when he feels
disconnected after all you want him to be lonely for you and loneliness is a
feeling we get in our heart when we want intimacy and to be connected with
someone but no one is available or willing to connect number six have the
talk when the time is right this one is super important if you've done these
first steps correctly your boyfriend will definitely recognize a change and
will probably become concerned and might even object to these changes and that's
a good thing you want him to recognize and remember that he has an amazing
woman if he doesn't notice the changes that's when you should be concerned so
again you aren't the one who should bring up this topic but when he notices
your changes he's either going to step up his game and become more loving and
more like he used to be or he's going to bring up what he's noticed didn't want
to have a conversation about it and that's perfect and when he does be clear
and honest about what you want in your expectations for the relationship number
seven be willing to walk away you must be willing to walk away from someone and
something if it isn't working you can't lie to yourself or bargain with yourself
that although he isn't really what you're looking for that he will change
or that things will get better believe me they won't and if anything they will
only get worse he needs to feel that you aren't willing to settle that you aren't
going to tolerate behaviors or actions of his that you don't agree with in
addition in order for him to really appreciate you
he needs to experience this fear of loss essentially the fear of losing you
this fear will be even greater if you're at your best self because this type of
fear is in fact rooted in love but he will only experience this if he knows
that you're willing and able to walk away from something that isn't right for
you remember new relationships should be exciting and passionate and easy when
you really like someone you want them to know how valuable and important the
relationship is and you want to know that your feelings are being
reciprocated so you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you
can and that is exactly how you should be treated in return don't settle for
anything less I made a video on this topic how to forget what you feel and
remember what you deserve click here to watch that video or click here to watch
a video that YouTube thinks that you'll like oh and by the way I'd love to know
if you agree with this statement it's impossible to fall in love with someone
without first being a little worried about losing them leave a comment below
and let's start a discussion I'll see in the next video