(Trisha Paytas) I don't know the thing but it's like you have a child you're not married to that
mom you have another girlfriend that's what I'm saying and he acts like his is
so perfect and like just looking at him you know he does judgements just by
looking at our videos and just by looking at his videos not his physical
parent just like looking at his videos and looking at him and the way it's like
he looks tired he looks more now like Trisha, I was trying to sit down and
read my book about psychology so I can get some sleep and get rid of these
freaking bags under my eyes but you have to go and make this video
what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is
all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the
YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional
well-being so the end of that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification
bell so today's video is brought to you by my book rewire your anger so a lot of
you asked me, Chris how do you keep your cool all the time I'd be losing my
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your anger so go ahead and get yourself a copy it'll be linked down in the
description as well as in the pain comments so anyways doing some research
on my computer and I was about to sit down and start reading with Tristan and
all of a sudden my Instagram my Twitter my YouTube comments are blowing up the
like ooh boy Trisha Paytas but anyways anyways I appreciate all of
you leaving comments and you know and things like that are sticking up for me
but don't worry boo I got this I got this it's all good I love you but
anyways let's talk about this so those of you know me I have worked in mental
health for the last three and a half years and I have a lot of personal
experience and no I'm not a licensed therapist or anything like that but as
Trisha Paytas I can tell you I am a recovering drug addict this is coming from a drug
addict once an addict always an addict that is it but something I always told
my clients is if I don't peace then I'm not doing my job very well you
know what I mean like part of my job unfortunately but fortunately it's
telling people things that they don't want to hear right I've had so many
people in treatment cost me out to call me back a month later and say hey I'm
sorry you were way to diagnose someone he was in the description like Trisha
has but borderline personality disorder I don't it's messed up it's gross
it's honestly so disgusting but I do want to say this Trisha
there was absolutely something that you were wrong about in your video which is
that I never ever ever speculate about a person's diagnosis yo yo yo if you're in
a good mood you're gonna love it isn't that the fun part though about dating
someone with like borderline personality and like you don't know what mood
they're gonna be in are they gonna be happy are they gonna be mad you're
always in a good mood unless I piss you off there was something that you were
wide about which is this clip right here this is coming from a drug addict once
an addict always an addict that is it yes absolutely true once a drug addict
always a drug addict when we're talking about the disease of addiction
so addiction has been classified as a disease and a good way to think about it
is like an allergy alright so some people have an adverse reaction to
something like peanuts or shellfish well people like me and other drug addicts we
have an adverse reaction to drugs and alcohol what happens is and neuroscience
has proved this you can go google it or look it up on the National Institute of
Health basically what happens is we can access flood of dopamine so part of the
brain another responsibility of the prefrontal cortex up here it's kind of
like a dam it's supposed to shut off the flood of dopamine right basically the
the limbic system that shoot off dopamine that's kind of like the gas or
the engine of the car and the prefrontal cortex is like the brake system right so
once the dopamine shoot up after you have a shot or you smoke a little
something or or take a little something right the prefrontal cortex is like yo
baby it's about time to stop well drug addicts and alcoholics we get an excess
flow dopamine and it doesn't shut off so yes once a drug addict always a drug
addict unfortunately why relapse rates are so
high because people often think that since they've experienced a certain
length of sobriety they can go back to drugs or alcohol and now they're gonna
be fine but unfortunately there is no known tour to turn a drug addict or
alcoholic into a normal user or drinker right this is why abstinence is often
the only answer for drug addicts and alcoholics but while there isn't a
solution for that part of the brain there is a part that does heal which is
in the prefrontal cortex which is why our personalities change that's why we
turn into different people so I'm gonna give Tricia the benefit of a doubt and
think that she's speaking about the science and not my personality because
as a result of me being clean and strengthening this baby up here the
prefrontal cortex I have better impulse control emotional
regulation and self-awareness and that's why I live a beautiful life today in my
two-bedroom apartment but anyways let's switch gears real quick so all of my
loyal rewired soldiers out here you know exactly why I make these videos I'll
make these videos to give you something that you're already watching to try to
teach you about mental health right so what I want to do is actually pull some
comments from a video I made based on one of the vlogs which showed this
disturbing clip wait why did you almost call the police I'm not gonna say she
(Jason Nash) can say if she wants I'm not gonna throw another bus didn't do anything I mean
what she did like wasn't that bad wait wait
she sat here like a prison guard and I was like Trisha get out of the way I'm
going home I wanted all I need some time to myself she's like no I'm calling that
one she goes good then I thought you had priors so I wasn't gonna do that - how
long were you there for an hour and then I went to sleep like 45 minutes
she'll probably like to sleep and I came back and she was just Trisha you sat in
front of the door so you your boyfriend couldn't leave well I just sat in front
of my own door she's got a point
like 2:00 in the morning I woke up my laptop camera here I was lying in bed
and then I was like I named me like a little cream and she was like babe babe
I don't leave holy so in that video I asked you guys I was like can you relate
to this or have you waited around for somebody
to change and they never changed and here's some of the comments that I got
seven years wasted until I finally got a restraining order against him people you
can't fix others that's not how it works please leave ASAP wasted a year never
again their relationship hurts the watch I
wasn't laughing at Trisha or Jason I'm concerned just like many others
this dude is incredibly knowledgeable so much respect for you Chris you're doing
a wonderful thing for the community thank you seriously
I love having access to this because watching you in conjunction with therapy
has helped me so much why thank you you're so right
the people you surround yourself with are 110 percent either going to make you
better or worse I recently cut out a group of toxic friends for my life and
since then I've been cleared from any hard drugs for a year come this spring
congratulations that's awesome and legit spent almost four and a half years with
someone who could've fixed their own problems and was dragging me down with
them I was working two full-time jobs and wasn't eating or sleeping finally I
had enough and kicked him out after that I kind of did a spiral into drugs and
alcohol and that turned into a self recovery in its own now I'm in a happy
relationship of five years with an amazing guy he stuck with me through
cancer treatment and I wouldn't trade him for the world isn't that an awesome
story I dig it I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years we have just been
consistently fighting for a good majority of this year
I feel terrible just giving up but it's not healthy for either of us and
it hasn't been it sucks to break up with someone you love so much but you do it
because they and you deserve better than what you're allowing because of comfort
there have been times where I have been the tricia in the relationship looking
back you don't realize how toxic you are until you exit the relationship or get a
different perspective I really hope both she and Jason find a
counselor that can help them control toxic behaviors big exactly exactly so
Tricia if you're watching this which I think you will just remember I do not
make trip videos for you I made videos for people who are familiar with your
content and might be able to learn something from them so I know you've
taken a little bit personal but these videos ain't about you boo boo so again
what I'm doing with my channel is something different and I understand
some people might not like it and it's interesting because I get hit out from a
different angle than you know the drama channels this I am taking a different
angle on this stuff but this is content that is already out there and again I do
my best to never speculate and if I do I try to put disclaimers even though
Tricia doesn't really like the de same as I put in there but I do put
disclaimers I just want to show you guys what you're already watching and then if
you can relate to it because so many of us so so many of us passively watch TV
YouTube movies other people whatever it is and we don't look and how can we
relate to our lives but we can take these things that we're already
consuming and learn how to better ourselves or maybe even help other
people around us you know what I mean but anyways anyways again no hate
nothing but love I'm gonna be in Los Angeles in a couple weeks so if you see
this let's sit down let's have a little mutt bone together chat about some stuff
you know what I'm saying anyways that's all I got for this video if you like
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