Hey, Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. One thing I noticed, from the very moment I became a
coach, back in 2011, specifically a dating coach for guys, is that one of the reasons why men have
not been able to be successful with women, myself included, by the way, for many years, was all
because they were weak, they were acting feminine, and they were simping. I feel like we're now on
the verge where there's some new information coming out, including a video like this,
that's trying to teach men how to not simp, how to be someone who's comfortable in their own skin,
who's not being emotionally weak, and being able to really handle the tough things that
life brings to them, and really learning how to be an attractive man. I think that there's
more information now coming out about this. And hopefully, there's going to be a switch here.
But I think for the past two or three decades, there has been this interesting... how do I say...
way of being from guys that has really weakened men as a whole. Let me dive deeper here. But
myself as a millennial, raised by boomers, I believe that they were the hippie generation.
And they started to raise their kids, my myself included, as someone to
always be super kind, super polite, never do anything to make someone feel bad. And again,
these are all good virtues. There's nothing wrong with some of these things. But I don't know if it
was really taught properly. One of the things I remember was, I ended up getting a trophy
every single year just for for participating, just for showing up. What did that really teach me?
Did I even value those trophies? No. It was really just all about being kind and making sure everyone
was treated with respect and everything was not to ever offend. And I believe that this has
weakened men as a whole. I don't think that I was taught, or a lot of men were taught, even today,
I think a lot of men aren't being taught how to be emotionally strong, how to work through adversity,
or to understand that not everything is going to be handed to you. To understand that being nice,
while that's... you don't want to treat people mean and do the opposite. But
just trying to placate and make sure to never offend is really actually digging yourself in
a deeper hole. Because you're not being true to who you are. And if everyone is being nice and
never talking about their real emotions or real thoughts or real opinions, then you're just never
really going to get respect from people. I'll say this. No woman has ever been attracted to a guy
because he's nice. It's never happened. Yeah, she might say, oh yeah, he's this, he's that,
he's nice. Maybe that is like one aspect in there. But have you ever heard a woman say,
yeah, he's really nice, but, I don't know, I just don't feel any attraction towards him.
That's because nice, or the act of trying to make sure no one is going to get offended or hurt, that
act right there is not respected, and it doesn't really show your masculine strength. I know a
lot of people are going to watch this, maybe even females, saying this is toxic masculinity. But I
want to be very clear here. I'm not talking about having to be mean, because this is where it gets
confusing for some people. When I say things like, nice doesn't work, nice is weak, all this stuff,
all of a sudden, people jump to the opposite is the answer. But that's not what I'm saying.
Because the opposite is not the answer either. If you're really mean, really harsh towards people,
just a jerk in general, you know what that looks like, that's not going to get you anywhere either.
I guess the idea here is right now there's so many men who are just trying to do simpy nice
things to get a woman's attention, and it's just not working. And so I'm in the business of helping
guys understand what works and what doesn't. And the good news is there is a balance between being
someone who can be a good person where you're not overtly an asshole or a jerk to somebody,
but also at the same time, be formulating your own opinions, being okay with saying what's what,
not being afraid of offending somebody. Because that's going to be the person who will always
be the most respected person in the room no matter what. We're being taught all the time
be nice, play nice, make sure you're nice. And again, good things to teach your kid
because you don't want them to be a jerk and steal some other kid's toys
in the sandbox. But we need to make sure that we're teaching our children,
and something I'm teaching you and something I had to teach myself, to be someone who is going to be
so comfortable with who they are, that they're not afraid to go about the world and be who they are,
and not be so apologetic. So really teaching you how to be an unbiased, unapologetic person. So
when you're with a woman, for example, making sure that you're always stating your opinions,
not just agreeing with everything she says. When you're with a group of people
you don't have to agree with all the things that they say and they do.
You can give your friends tough love instead of being there and just trying to support... let
me say this, when you're with a friend, are you going to be a better friend if you're just sitting
there listening to them complain about something and just trying to empathize and sympathize? Or
what about the friend who says, hey man, yeah, I'm really sorry, that's happening. But
hey, let's not play victim. Let's get ourselves up off the chair, let's dust ourselves off,
and let's keep trying, like really pushing someone to be the best version of themselves. Sometimes
the nice person might not do that, because they're afraid they're gonna agitate something or fight or
something bad is gonna happen. More common examples I've talked about on the channel,
other examples of the rise of the lonely simp men are guys who think that they have to give a woman
something instead of being the prize themselves. So having to give them money, buy them gifts,
give them a lot of compliments, you know, things like that, that we were taught as kids.
We were taught; you'd see movies, you'd read books, the boy bought her flowers,
brought flowers to the first date, complimented her a lot, lots of chivalry, all that stuff.
But at the end of the day, that stuff doesn't work. It just makes you look weak. And a woman
doesn't want a weak man. And here's the thing. I know that some people like to say, well, I brought
my... I'll be on Tiktok, and someone will say I brought my wife flowers for the first time and
now we've been married 37 years, or I compliment my wife all the time and... The reason why that
stuff is, I guess working, or it's going fine to be able to do those things is only because she
probably found a lot of other things about that person that was attractive. That person probably
showed some other masculine traits, where she was able to look over that. But a lot of guys these
days think it's the nice thing, it's the nice way, and then a woman will go he's nice, I'm attracted.
That doesn't work. That doesn't happen. You may have been experiencing this yourself. In fact,
if you have experienced this write down in the comments below somewhere where you've experienced
being just nice, and where it hasn't worked out. Let's learn from this together. These are some
ideas I wanted to bring up on this video, but I'm curious what you think. Leave a comment down
below. I want to hear from you. I want to get into conversation about some of these things,
about being honest about what really works with attraction, and why simping and being someone
who's just trying to be nice doesn't really work. Let's talk about it. If you need help,
go to www.coachedbytripp.com. If you feel like you're simping, if you feel
like you just don't understand how attraction works, how to get a girl interested in you,
understanding female nature, if this is all confusing for you - go to Coached by
Tripp.com. We have coaches on staff ready to help you right now immediately and you
will get a one on one coach to get to the point where you're attracting more women
from online and through in person. Check that out down below. I'll see you on the next video.