- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica J,
and today, I'm gonna talk about. (sighs loudly)
So today, I'm gonna talk about a recurring theme
I've seen with a lot of my clients.
I actually am just now wrapping up
my Spotlight Speed Dating program,
I'm graduating a few guys out
where guys can come on a call
with me and my girlfriends, a Zoom call,
and they basically just practice talking to women
while I watch and critique them along the way.
So with a lot of spots opening up right now,
if this is something that you know you could use
to further help you along
to get and keep the women you want,
don't forget to apply at SpeakToSparkArousal.com/PPD.
So this recurring theme has to do with
a lot of guys coming on and wanting to know,
"Jessica, what am I doing wrong?"
And you know, these guys come on the call,
they've got these stories where
it's difficult for them to approach women,
it's difficult for them to get a connection going,
get a conversation going,
get a good engagement and create chemistry.
But here's the thing,
one of my favorite shows is "My 600 Pound Life",
and I'll tell you right now, all of these motherfuckers,
I don't want to call them motherfuckers,
but all of these people on this show,
again, are over 600 pounds,
they're not going out and approaching people,
but all of them are finding love,
all of them are in love or, you know, dating and shit.
So, how is it that people who literally cannot function
in society are still capable of finding love?
And really it just boils down to,
we're not meant to connect with
99.9% of the people out there.
However, while that is something I always say,
we are not meant to connect with,
my question then becomes,
well, are you even connecting with people?
Because the running theme
in this whole Spotlight Speed Dating program is generally
that all my girlfriends, you know, they start off,
they meet these guys week one and it's like,
"Oh, bless him."
And then, by week four,
after we're spending all this time together,
all my girlfriends are sitting there
trying to fuck these dudes.
Granted, it's not like we're spending quality time
with these dudes,
it's not like they're actually going on a real date,
it's not like they're actually talking to
and connecting with one another.
But, something else is happening.
What we're doing is we're getting to know these guys.
In fact, I just got off a call
and my girlfriend was saying to one of the guys,
"Yeah, if I saw you on Tinder,
"if I saw you on the street, you wouldn't be my type.
"But now that I've gotten to know you,
"I am absolutely attracted to you."
And then, we got off the call and she was like,
"I would absolutely fuck him if you could set that up."
So here's the thing, while there is nothing wrong with you,
if you're not getting and keeping the women you want,
you are absolutely doing something wrong.
Again, we're all capable of finding somebody to love us
for the person we are right now.
However, if the people or the women you want right now
are not wanting you, chances are,
they're not getting to know you for who you are.
Now, so many guys are like,
"But, Jessica, they're not giving me the chance
"to show them who I really am."
And to that, I say, actions speak louder than words.
If you are not being yourself,
trying to spend time doing this is
not going to help the cause.
And we women nowadays, we are so much more closed off,
ever since the pandemic, ever since the Me Too Movement,
we don't want fuck all to do with you guys out in public.
But, you wanna know what we do want in public?
We want a connection.
We want somebody that will make us feel
so emotionally compelled to chase after you
that it doesn't matter that there was a Me Too Movement
or that there was a pandemic.
All that matters is how we can make you ours.
But here's the worst part.
All the advice out there is like,
"Be yourself, ha!"
But it's like, how the fuck do you do that?
Who the fuck are you even?
I'll tell you right now,
who you are is who you are in this moment
with your thoughts, your feelings and your experiences.
And showing that to women immediately.
Again, the call I just got off of,
I was sitting here telling this dude,
"Stop talking about shit that doesn't matter.
"You're talking about all these abstract concepts
"and go, yeah, people generally are like this,
"oh yeah, you should do this, and you should do that."
No, I wanna know who the fuck you are.
So if you know that you're a great fucking guy,
there's actually nothing wrong with you,
but you might be doing something wrong,
I invite you to apply to my Spotlight Speed Dating program,
where we will get on a fucking call
and I will tell you exactly what it is you are doing wrong
because I promise you,
once a woman gets to know you for who you really are,
which can happen in a matter of seconds,
once you start showing us who you really are,
you will absolutely get women that you want for yourself.
And you'll have the pick of them all
because women rarely get to see a guy for who he is
because most guys don't know how to show it.
So this is your opportunity to jump ahead of the line
with all the guys out there,
trying to get the women you want,
apply now with Spotlight Speed Dating,
SpeakToSparkArousal.com/PPD.
Thanks for watching as always.
And please, realize that you are a great motherfucker
and you're not gonna connect with
99.9% of the people out there.
And if you know you need help learning how to connect
so you can get and keep the women you want,
please apply to my program,
I promise you you'll have a great time
and you will finally stop doing the shit
keeping you from who and what you want.
All right, I'm done.
Thanks for watching, see you guys next time.