- So it's like you know, you go with your shoulders
and like that.
- [Sarah] Oh cool.
- Or you can go like, two steps.
You know, yeah so it's all this rhythm and energy
and smiling and keeping it going.
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- The kind of guys that I'm attracted to I think
are probably like honestly like a little nerdy
like I tend to be drawn to ones that wear glasses
and just I think are more tall and thin.
Just like good banter with me 'cause I like to be funny
and so like having someone to kind of bounce back
and forth with is a lot fun.
(hypnotic melodic music)
- Well you know attraction is key
so if you know they're in pretty good shape
and take care of themselves,
have nice hair, nice smile.
And someone just grounded, down to earth,
cool, relaxed
and just fun, just laugh.
Then laugh and have a good time.
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(suspenseful music)
- Your name is Mark and this is your story.
You are 35 years old.
For work, you are a business owner.
Grew up in California
and your cultural, ethnic background is Middle Eastern.
- My name is Amandeep.
I'm 34 years old so you were pretty close.
Business owner, well I'm a realtor.
(bells chiming)
but I have my own real estate firm so.
I grew up in California. (bells chiming)
So you got that right.
But I'm not Middle Eastern, I'm North Indian.
- Oh.
- So I'm Indian, yeah so.
You name is Stephanie.
This is your story.
You are 28 years old.
For work, you are a marketing professional.
Your grew up in Kansas.
Your cultural or ethnic background is Caucasian.
- My name is Sarah.
I am 29 years old.
Kind of do marketing, I do recruitment
for a University so a little bit of marketing in there
but a little bit of sales too.
I grew up in Colorado actually so.
- Hm.
- One state to the west but you're close.
(laughing)
And yes. (bells chiming)
My background is Caucasian.
- Cool.
- But why Kansas?
- I think it was your hair.
Your hair and your eyes.
I think it just popped out to me, Kansas.
I don't know what it is.
- Yeah.
- Why did you think I was Middle Eastern?
- Honestly, I thought Indian for a second.
- Aw.
- And then like I blanked as soon as I got there.
Um, I think it's just the head wrap.
- Oh really okay.
- [Sarah] Yeah.
- There it is, you're confused.
- Totally micro-aggressive, I know.
- Well you gotta go with your gut instinct so.
- Yeah, I know like I recognized it
and I was like, I don't, I'm not positive about it but.
I can't think of anything else so.
Right now what I'm looking for in my life is someone
who can can just kind of fall into step with me
and I think I've settled a little bit in my life.
I'm done with school.
I've got a good job.
So I'm just kind of looking for what that next step is.
And eventually, I'd like to get married and have kids
and I think now is a good time to get started
and try to find someone to just
have, do life with.
- My parents got married
and they went from India
to Germany to Nigeria.
And I was actually born in Nigeria.
Came to Brooklyn, New York when I was six months old.
And L.A. when I was one.
So, raised in L.A. my whole life.
As you can tell, the valley swag.
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- If you could only win one major award,
you would want to get a Noble Peace Prize.
The most animals you've had at one time is two.
An unexpected skill or talent you possess is
you play guitar.
- Pretty darn good.
(laughing)
Regarding if you could only win one major award
it would be an Academy Award.
I've always wanted to be,
I visualize being this famous actor so
I figured me with my look, being on that stage,
it'd be kind of fun, you know for the world to see so.
I don't know.
And the most animals I've had at one time is one dog.
An unexpected skill or talent I posses, dancing.
- Oh.
- So I was dance captain in college for four years, yeah.
- [Sarah] That's interesting.
- (laughing) Yeah.
All right, so your turn.
If you could only win one major award,
you would want to get a Noble Peace Prize.
The most animals you've had at one time is one.
An unexpected skill or talent you possess is singing.
- So actually I wanted to get an Olympic Medal.
- Oh. (laughing)
- The most animals I've had at one time is actually two.
We had two bunnies when I was growing up.
- Oh okay, okay.
- Yeah, they were a little psycho so.
- Oh okay.
- We thought they were gonna be tiny
but they were some kind of giant bunnies
so they were really bigger. - Really?
- Yeah. - Oh okay.
So maybe your next pet would be, since you have experience
with these wild animals, maybe like a crocodile.
- No (laughing).
- A snake. (laughing)
- Um, an unexpected skill or talent I have,
I can touch my tongue to my nose.
- Oh wow, okay.
- Yeah.
- What would your Olympic Medal be in?
- Oh gosh, I go back and forth.
Summer, probably either track and field or swimming.
Winter would be like snowboarding.
- Right, oh wow.
- All the things I wish I could do well.
- And the gold?
- Obviously.
(laughing)
Only the best.
- (laughing) Cool.
- Tell me about the dancing.
- The dancing yeah, uh.
It's Indian folk dance called Bhangra.
So it's like the hip hop, you know, of India.
It's very energetic and
it was a lot of fun. - That's cool.
- Yeah, so I was like ranked number two in California
back then.
- Let's see it.
(laughing)
- So it's like you know, you with your shoulders
and like that.
- [Sarah] Oh cool.
- Then you go like, two steps, you know.
Yeah so it's all this rhythm and energy
and smiling and keeping it going.
(laughing)
As you can see, I'm already getting tired.
(laughing)
- Is that kind of what they do in,
have you done Slum Dog Millionaire?
- You know I think I'm the only Indian in the world
who hasn't seen it.
- Oh okay.
- So I get that all the time.
But I am gonna see it. - Oh my God.
(laughing)
- Maybe we'll go see it.
- Okay (laughing), yeah.
- You know, I could see myself with a woman
of a different religious faith.
I find it important to have that compatibility
and respect for one another so.
You know, you could find that with any human you know.
Being raised as a Sikh, I mean it's really
about all humans are the same so.
You know, I mean, you could be a different faith
but I would like at that as a positive.
- I don't see myself as a stereotypical Christian girl.
I don't really fall into the traditional roles
of what even sometimes the church wants women to be.
I think a woman's place in today's society
is more as a right-hand man or right next to the man.
I view marriage as something that's equal
and that we make decisions together
and that he takes my opinions and weighs them
as he makes decision as we move forward with family.
(hypnotic melodic music)
So I said, you think one of the most important
purposes of life is family.
I think religion and spirituality is important
in choosing a partner.
Or that's what you think.
And when you die, you believe you'll go to an afterlife.
- I think one of the most important purposes
of life is happiness.
I think religion and spirituality
is important (bells chiming)
in choosing a partner.
So you're right.
And when I die, I believe you become one with nature.
- Oh.
- You think one of the most important purposes
of life is happiness.
You think religion and spirituality is important
in choosing a partner.
When you die, you believe you go to heaven.
- That's really, that's like, almost spot on.
- Oh yeah. - (laughing) Yeah.
- 90%? (laughing)
- Pretty much yeah.
- I do agree with the happiness.
I think family but for me that's like, one in the same.
- Your happy time, okay. (bells chiming)
- Hm mm yeah.
I do think it's important in choosing a partner.
(bells chiming)
And then when I die, I do believe I'll go to heaven.
(bells chiming)
- Oh okay.
So you've been a good person (laughing).
- Yeah, oh no. (laughing)
- Oh okay well maybe there's a middle ground. (laughing)
- Yeah, yeah.
How does that, for you when you say you're gonna
like become one with the nature,
what does that look like?
- Yeah, so I'm Sikh
and Sikhism is the fifth largest religion in the world.
Our long hair is considered God's gift
so we tie the turban as a crown for our identity
and to respect it.
So 99.9% of men you see with a turban and beard are Sikh.
They're not Hindu or Muslim.
We sort of believe you know, in heaven you know,
something like that.
But my dad kind of influenced me from a science level
where he feels like, if a deer dies in nature,
like in a forest, it just, you know,
becomes part of nature and that's just, you know,
there's no after life per se.
Once my day comes to an end, you know, in this life,
I will just be part of this world
you know, with nature, whatever my body can bring energy
to the rest of the planet.
So you know, being a Christian yourself,
I'm not sure how religious your family was
or your upbringing but
what are the deal breakers regarding that?
- So my dad was a pastor growing up.
We weren't like super, like oh,
you can only hang out with these kind of kids.
Like my parents were very like,
we want you to hang out with everybody.
But I think for as far as like dating and stuff,
I know that, like in our, it's called like equally yoked
is what it, which I don't like,
'cause it sounds old but
it's kind of like you want someone
whose like the same religion.
- Oh okay.
- 'Cause for me, that's like a big part of who I am.
And so having someone who just understands that
will speak volumes to me in a way.
- Okay, makes sense.
You know in my religion, we believe everyone's the same
and we're all humans.
It's not really a deal breaker for me.
But obviously, I want someone who is open
to someone who is of a different faith
and understanding of that religion as well, so.
(hypnotic melodic music)
- When I first saw you, I decided that
I would not date you.
And not because you're good looking
or anything like that.
I just knew with the head wrap that you weren't,
like it wasn't like Christian thing.
So just first impulse, probably not.
Um, but as I got to talking to you,
you seemed really nice
and I would definitely be friends with you for sure.
I think you'd be a lot of fun to hang out with.
- Okay cool.
So when I first saw you,
I would date you. - Aw.
- You just seemed like a nice person
and I got a good vibe from you so.
I figured that,
after talking with you,
I actually still would date you.
But I was reluctant because of the religion aspects
but I figured, you know,
it's still good to date
and get to know each other and go from there so.
I got some good personality traits that I liked so.
- Thank you, you do too.
- Oh thanks, I appreciate it.
- Yeah, doing this was a great learning experience
in that it kind of showed me maybe areas
that I need to work on so I think from now
I really want to start just striking up conversations
with anybody and just finding those commonalities.
'Cause I think we are all human at the end of the day.
And I think we're all looking for a connection.
- If people just look at you know, cultural dress
or skin complexion
or a certain eye features
or whatever it is,
and just say, oh okay, they're from here
or there're from that, that's what they do.
Or they're mean, they're nice, you know so.
I think it's great to be different.
I think it's gangsta to have long hair.
So I love being this way.
But people are gonna have their assumptions.
They're gonna be ignorant people
and you just kind of got to work with them
and make them realize
we just don't live in a little box,
it's a lot bigger place out there.
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