- We used to call them flaps.
- I hate that word.
- [Jazzmyne] I'm just saying though.
We called them curtains.
- Oh no, that's worse!
I'll take a petal, - [Woman] Petals.
- I don't know about flaps.
or curtains, (laughs)
but to each their own.
(light classical music) (hinge creaking)
- Hello - Hey, how you guys doing?
- [All] Good.
- A little nervous.
- Why?
- I mean,
(squeals)
vaginas.
- Vaginas.
- So I am Beatrice Feliu-Espada
I am the founder and CEO of the Honey Pot Company.
The Honey Pot is a plant based
feminine hygiene company that specializes
in all things vagina.
- [Devin] So what's it like to be a woman
in the vagina business?
- It's so amazing at this time when women are starting
to really stand up for themselves,
stand up for their fellow sister,
it's crazy because it's so simple,
but women should ask themselves,
how do they feel about their vagina?
Because if you can answer that question,
that could probably lead you to
why you are the human that you are.
How often do you all think about
what you put in and around
and on your vagina?
- I mean, I think if I'm putting
anything in or around or on my vagina
I'm thinking about it.
- So I would say daily.
- Yeah - Yeah
- Daily - Yeah
- I would say I probably bring in
the other half of the spectrum.
It's not that I don't think about my vagina
but I think honestly my vagina is
the final hurdle of like really
truly loving myself.
There's just a lot of stigma
and shame around it for me,
- Really? - Personally.
I think that has to do with like
vaginas were always seen as very much
for either God or for a husband.
- So here's the thing since we're having this conversation
- Mhmm
- I think that we should leave this with a challenge.
Is really important for you all to understand
what she looks like what she feels like.
I challenge you to spend five minutes
taking a mirror and looking at your vagina.
She breathes.
- I did, I gasped (laughs)
- I heard that, I heard that.
- Understand all the parts.
What does it look like?
Some people just don't feel comfortable
but then five minutes like talking
just like in anything is creating a relationship.
- That's it, that's what we're doing.
- Tomorrow we are meeting with a sketch artist,
- Oh yes.
- Yes, we're going to describe what
we think our vaginas look like
we're gonna receive these sketches
and then compare and contrast on our own
to see if we actually knew our vagina.
Which I'm going to tell you all now,
I don't think I know mine that well.
- I feel like I could give a tour
like I can walk it around but
I don't know if I can describe it.
- She's like "I'm gonna be the tour guide."
- Yeah like, literally
- Yeah I think aesthetically and
like colors and stuff might be tough
- Yeah, yeah like visually
- Yeah
- Can you hit us with some vagina facts?
- So a lot of people don't know that the vagina
is actually inside the body.
So when you hear a doctor say,
you know, "the vagina is a self-cleaning oven."
It is a self cleaning oven,
but that doesn't mean your vulva.
That's a whole another conversation.
So what they're telling you is
don't douche don't put things inside of there
- Mhmm. - Right.
- Because if you do then you can mess up
your flora and you know create PH imbalances
and all that kinda stuff.
- Okay. - All right.
- I, we need a map.
- Yeah.
- Did you know that your vagina makes hydrogen peroxide?
- [All] No.
- So that's why sometimes you've just
gone throughout your whole day
and it has kind of a strong scent.
Not a stinky scent, but more
like an ammonia type of a scent.
- Yeah - Wow
- Just it creates that so they can create good bacteria
so then the good bacteria can fight the bad bacteria.
- That's a great fact.
- Yeah, that's very cool. - [Bea] It's a great fact.
- You shouldn't use washcloths
- [Devin] Whoa whoa what?
- What should you be using?
- For the front or the back you should use your hand.
- I did not know that.
- [Freddie] Me either.
- Washcloths hold bacteria so it doesn't matter
how many times you wash that hoe.
(laughs)
it's not gonna be clean. - Okay.
- They're too rough for your vagina's skin.
If you're gonna use a washcloth
it should only be on the outside where your hair would be
or where it is then.
- Yeah. - [Jazzmyne] Okay.
- But once you go inside your lips
you should only use your hands.
- That is - Wow
- Some good
- That's so funny. - Knowledge.
- Because I'm always like using multiple washcloths
in the shower it's like,
"one for my face, one for bottom area
and then a loofah for my body."
- But it's like, - Yeah.
- Okay well I can cut one of those out.
- It's just like, the amount of elementary education
that were not given around our vagina.
- Exactly.
- [Devin] It's ridiculous.
- It's ridiculous.
- Do you have any vagina life hacks for us?
- [Bea] Yes.
Take a shower a couple of times a day.
- Hmm. - I love doing that.
- It's very important.
And the reason for that is because you've gone
through your whole entire day.
If you do have issues around sensitivity, irritation
or recurrent infections or things like that.
You could really help to minimize that
by keeping yourself clean.
And it's very important to do it
at the beginning of your day
and at the end of your day.
The other life hack.
When you're gonna have sex,
not everybody has time to go pee
before they're gonna get busy.
Because sometimes that (beep) planned.
You should definitely go pee after you have sex.
- After, yeah.
- And that's with women or with men,
it does not matter.
Right after you go pee, it's when you're kinda
just filtering out some of the things that may have entered.
Also very important to clean yourself after.
Don't just lay in the wet spot, get up.
(buzzing) (laughs)
I said it.
- We just wanna lay sometimes.
- Sometimes you do! (laughs)
- Thank you so much.
- Thank you.
- I feel empowered and ready to go.
- Yeah. - Yeah.
- Here we go.
(laughs)
Hi, I'm Mary and I'm back with Lady Like today.
And we're gonna be doing something really interesting.
I'm actually pretty excited just because it's something new
and different.
I'd love to be a part of like,
breaking the stigma around vaginas.
And portraying vaginas in art,
there's so many phallic symbols in art.
And I think we definitely don't have enough of lady parts.
I think we'll both be in for an experience
and it might be easier for you than for it is for me.
- I'm Jazzmyne.
- I'm Mary, nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you.
- How are you?
- Good, how are you?
- I'm good, not drunk this time.
- Good.
It's good to see you sober.
(laughs)
- We're here again.
- Yes we are.
- This time you get to see my other face.
- The other side of you.
- I need a little help.
This is a group project.
- [Bea] It is.
It takes a village.
- It really does, usually
- [Bea] To describe vaginas.
(laughs)
- So we are drawing.
We, meaning you.
(laughs)
I'm gonna draw my hoo-ha.
- I don't know how to start.
- I'm thinking in my head the angle would be
just Bird's eye view but flipped.
So you are here.
(laughs) - Okay
- And I'm here.
- I feel like my vagina is an orchid.
Because look at me, I'm a long person.
Therefore, the petals of my vagina are also long.
- I got some big ass tights.
- Okay.
- So, there just gonna be blarch in there.
And like brown, some stretch marks on there.
- There's you know, two faces.
Lips closed for me or lips wide open.
Maybe let's go with lips wide open cause it's more fun.
It's more playing around,
if you know what I mean.
(laughs)
- Did I just said too much?
- No. - [Devin] I feel vulnerable.
- No, no. - [Devin] I feel like
the vulnerability hanged over.
- No, vulnerable is good, man.
- [Bea] Let's go to your lips.
- Not my face lips.
- [Bea] No. - Okay.
- [Bea] Your vagina lips.
- Okay!
A diamond but with rounded edges.
You see this?
- [Mary] Okay.
- I think I have petite lips.
There's not a lot of meat down there.
It's like the inside of a rose.
You know how roses have like layers, and layers and layers.
I'd say the smallest bit is sorta where we can start.
- Are they thick?
- Uh mm.
Like a medium to thick.
- [Bea] Okay.
- I would say my inner thighs are kind of circular.
- [Mary] Okay.
- So that kind of shapes the eyebrow
of the vagina, if you know what I mean.
I just, my heart started beating a little faster.
- [Bea] You got it, man.
Aight, so you have your lips they're full.
- In my head it's like a little bit darker
but then like the closer you get in
the layers of the rose lighter it gets.
- How do the lips look?
- Pink, very pink.
- Pick a pink.
- My eye immediately went to the lavender.
They're not lavender but.
- I haven't shave in like
two and a half years.
I post a lot of like lingerie and I model for some like
swimsuit (beep).
So I don't have a (beep) lot of hair.
- [Bea] Is it waxed? Is it?
- Hmm. - [Bea] Okay.
- I keep wanting to go down like this.
(bounce)
But we're not allowed.
- I don't know if I'm going to far in right now
but I feel like it's bumpy?
- [Bea] Yeah. - On the inside.
- [Bea] A little bit.
- And then when you get to the clitoris
I would move to like a shade lighter of brown.
- Do feel like your lips kind of go
in more around the area?
- Notice how I uncross my legs - [Bea] Yeah!
- I was like, "let me feel it."
- So I think a part of my clitoris
there's like a darker brown area
that's like longer and wider than the rest.
- We go down to where your hole is.
- There's the middle and here it is.
You kinda gotta search for that thing.
- [Bea] You got it.
- I've seen a vagina or two
but I feel like it's bigger
than people's I've seen.
- Usually you see this kind of shape, the oval shape,
- [Bea] Yeah.
- For the vagina. I think mine kinda is like
this kind of shape, a little bottle-y shape.
- I think the biggest misconception
I had about vaginas just for most of my life
was like everyone's sort of look the same.
I've recently realized like
there's so many different shapes and forms.
Just like people.
- This is called like, "the mount."
I think mine is a little hooded.
Like my eyes, makes sense, right?
- [Bea] It does.
- It's like pink on the inside.
Yeah like a rose.
That's perfect, I love working with professionals.
- And there is the hole.
- [Bea] Make it a little bigger.
- Ooh. - [Mary] How big?
- Bigger?
- Make it bigger.
- You can see what
this illustration is alluding to.
So when she goes home and like goes and looks
at herself
she's gonna remember like what was said here.
- [Bea] Did you feel good about your vagina?
- You know, I don't think I did for the longest time.
I had a lot of baggage around it.
- This feels correct.
- I feel like this is great.
I'm kind of disappointed in myself
for not knowing like more.
- [Bea] Let me see your vagina.
- All right.
- [Bea] It looks good!
- Right? - [Bea] Yeah.
- And now I'm gonna take this sketch home
and spend time with my vagina.
Look at mine for five minutes with a mirror
and see like how close it is to this actual sketch.
Thanks, girl.
- Sounds good, anytime.
(laughs)
- When I heard that we're doing this
I was a little nervous, mainly because I haven't done
a whole lot of vagina stuff.
Even period stuff,
I haven't really done a lot of period content.
So that part of my body is sort of uncharted territory
when it comes to the internet.
I was a little nervous but I was excited to lean into that.
- This voice in my head says, "you're been silly."
That this is a silly video.
It's coming up for me now, when I have to look
at my own vagina which tells me I'm a lot more scared
for this challenge than I initially thought.
- I'm about to look at my vagina.
(laughs)
Doing this in general is just like, what?
I think I've a good understanding of,
of what's going on but now I'm gonna be sure.
- This moring I'm about to take the mirror, take a look,
try to compare to the drawing that I described.
And also just talk to her and affirm her
and just hang out with her for a bit.
Never done this before, we'll see what happens.
- I am the last to do this challenge
it's hypocritical, I know.
Because I produced the video and then when it came time
for me to actually sit down and spend time
with that part of myself.
I flight.
I can not stress enough, how much I push this video off.
I shot the pre-interviews and the interview with Bea.
I think in early March.
It's June.
- To be honest, I like did my make up
like it was a little (beep) day.
You know, put my little fairy lights on
like I was bringing someone home.
I was just like, "you know what, this is time for me
and myself."
Today's the day and I just showered.
I'm just like trying to like make it into a moment.
I turned on my little salt lamp.
We're doing this, my twinkle lights are on.
- [Mars] You can do it, I support you!
Look at your (meow) the way you look at me.
- You're gonna have to move, dude.
- I just looked at my vagina.
I don't know if this is the case for everyone
but my vagina is a (beep) flower.
It's so pretty!
I'm pretty sure I've a big ass vagina.
Like, which makes sense I'm a big ass person.
- And then talking to her it was like pretty cool.
Looking at her while talking to her was really different
than just like, giving myself just general affirmations.
But like looking at her and being like,
"you are worthy, you are intelligent, you are valuable."
- I did it.
This try that I made everyone else do
and I didn't do until the very last minute,
definitely changed my perspective on a lot of things.
I was dreading looking at my own vagina
and we just have to process that for a second.
I had some much shame about my own private part
that I was born with.
You know, I had judged her from you know
the top down and go and.
To be honest, like no one really looks good from this angle.
- Also, I'm not gonna lie I did not have a mirror
so I used a blush palate that I don't use.
(laughs)
I was just like exploring, looking at like the scenery.
Like going on a little tour.
It was honestly kind of relaxing.
- I took my little mirror down there
and I was like, "oh, there she is."
- It doesn't look exactly like the sketch that I described.
I wasn't too far off that's a good thing.
Some things could've been move up,
some colors could've been shifted,
some shades and tones were a bit off.
It was cool though, it was really cool
to see that compare and contrast.
- I mean it looked nothing like the drawing.
I don't know what to tell you,
it looks like it, it looks like a vagina.
I don't know what I had imagined,
like maybe some like "The Kraken" was down there.
Some kind of sea monster, but I didn't wanna look at.
But it just looked like a normal vagina.
(laughs)
I'm thirty!
This should not be so revelatory to me.
- My drawing was kind of spot on
in the sense that like I had the logistics right.
- I can't believe I had never seen my clit before.
Face to face, I'm just gonna say it.
She and I are
we're friends.
I've never been like, "yo, this is me, this is you clit."
- I didn't realize it'll be as intimate as it was.
I see it being something that, I don't know
I can incorporate when I think about it.
- That is one part of my body that I understand
but I don't like take time and spend with.
I think I'm gonna do that more often now, I like this.
- It's a free exercise that you can do with yourself
to help you get to know yourself more.
- After this experience I'd probably describe
my vagina as my best friend.
To maintain friendship you have to put in work
and I wanna make sure that I have a healthy relationship
with my vagina so putting in that extra work
really did make me feel closer.
- Obviously, I've seen vaginas before
because of my sexual preference.
Seeing my own, like this is just what someone else sees.
They keep coming back so it must be good but.
So this was all just affirming to me.
- Maybe this is just personal to me,
maybe everyone else in the world is like,
"no, I feel great about what I have."
Great, but maybe you're watching this and your like,
"yo, I don't know what I look like down there."
Because I was raised and what I was thought
that what I own is dangerous and I shouldn't own it.
(beep) it.
Check her out.
- I wanna get to the place that Bea seems to be.
You know, in regards to her relationship with her vagina.
Like that's the goal.
Vagina bestie goals right there.
- We're not thought straight from the beginning
to like be confident in yourself.
We're thought like society is going to look at you
and judge you and that's how you be confident.
So the moment we get that confidence or like
look inside and out ourselves,
is the moment we take that power back.
- The vagina, I would (mumbles) to say it's kind of
the epicenter of body shame.
We relegate our vaginas just to a clinical space
like that's the place that you go
to check out, you take it to the GYNO.
You whip her out of the bag, show it to one person
and then put it back in.
Shame sometime hides behind excuses
and that is certainly being the experience for me.
- It's "cliterally" insane,
how powerful our vaginas are.
I feel like if we were thought that from
like a younger age, thing would be a lot more
powerful for us.
- Fostering that relationship as young as possible
in a healthy way, is really important.
- I'm just so grateful, this was cool.
- Regardless of what your genitalia is,
you just need to figure out and feel yourself out
and be comfortable with yourself.
One hundred percent, fully.
(light hearted music)