In this video, I'm going to give you a concept demonstrated live in a shopping mall
as to why men have wronged you and how to avoid it in the future.
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What's happening here is it's 7:00 AM. And I'm down at the local supermarket,
and they're only letting senior citizens shop. Let's go find out why.
Mark: So I thought what's been the reason that you've had to put this hour in? That you've had to...
because of other people buying for no reason!
Mark: That's so nice of you. Yeah. And you've had
to put limits on everything. You've had to like stop people coming in and buy.
What's the worst example you've had?
Mark: Vegetables? Tin vegetables! How much have people tried to buy?
Mark: Wow. And what's the most you've had someone spend like in an unnecessary shop?
Mark: And you're not even closing. Right? You're not even...
Mark: Well, thank you for doing what you're doing. People like our parents will really appreciate it.
Mark: Thank you for doing it. Appreciate it. And thank you for your time!
Mark: I want you to think of all the behaviors that
you hate from men. I hate it when men ghost, I hate it when men cheat. I hate it when men
pull away with no reason. Think of all the immoral behaviors that you hate from men,
right? They've just opened the store here. It's just past 8:00 AM and average people
have gone flooding in to get unnecessary groceries. We're going to go inside, check out why. And
I'm going to show you why this reveals everything you need to know about finding great men.
Mark: Have you had aggressive and abusive behavior or they were really angry about?
Mark: Right. As in...
Mark: Right, blaming you guys.
Mark: Do you see how there's no logical reason why?
There's no logical reason people need to be bulk shopping right now. The shops aren't
closing. Nothing's getting cut off. There's no logical reason why Woolworth's should have
to create a special hour just for the elderly. But that's exactly what they've had to do.
You see, human beings have two brains. We have our thinking brain, and we have our feeling
brain. Now, for the sake of this video, we're going to refer to our thinking brain as our
human brain and our feeling brain as our lizard brain. And the problem is this guess who's
in charge when a human being comes under stress? Our lizard brain is older. Our lizard brain
is more archaic. It's more impulsive. And when stress comes, when we're under state
of fear, this is the brain that takes charge. Now, these are good people, right? These people
who have bulked shopped for no reason, they're not bad people, but they've been hijacked.
They've been hijacked by a brain that's under significant stress, right? They've crossed
a threshold, and their behavior no longer makes sense. This is why people are fighting
over toilet paper, stealing hand sanitizer.
Newscaster: Wiping a bottle of hand sanitizer from a Fuku Burger in the Southwest Valley.
Mark: And taking masks from hospitals.
Newscaster: Police have recovered seven boxes of stolen respirator masks.
Mark: Right? It's disgusting behavior. But the truth is we are all prone to it.
The question is not if you're prone to doing this. Right?
Any of us, if you put us under enough stress, you me, all of us are prone to doing this.
In fact, if they said right now, "Hey, we're
cutting all supply lines. We're closing the stores. Everything's shutting down. No one's
going to have groceries." F^ck. I'd run in there and grab some, right? We're all prone to this.
The question is not "Would we do it?" The question is, "What is our threshold
for falling into lizard brain behavior?" Now, you might be wondering, well, "That's great
Mark, but how is that relevant to my dating life and the way men have wronged me?" It
couldn't be more relevant. Right? What you're seeing here with these shops, with this crazy
nonsensical buying is the best live demonstration I can ever give you of what happens when human
beings cross a threshold and the lizard brain takes over. Right now, we've only got a small
percentage of the population demonstrating this behavior. There's only a small set of
people doing it, but it's there it's clear, and it's obvious, right?
Emotionally, immature men and women, they
don't explain their behavior, right? Just the same way you ask these people. They say,
"Okay, well, why are you buying so much stuff? There's no need to." They'll say, "Oh, I just,
I dunno. I felt like I should," or "Oh, I guess I, I don't know." Right? They won't be able to give a logical explanation.
Cause they don't make sense! When people into lizard brains, all bets are off.
And this is why when you talk to emotionally immature man, about "Why did you ghost? Why did you cheat?"
or "Why did you follow that impulse?" You're not going to get a logical explanation.
When you break down why this is happening in this case,
it's obvious we have stimulus a V I R U S. We have fear kicks in which could be fear of dying, fear of running out
of groceries, whatever it is. And a small percentage of the population crosses into lizard brain behavior.
And poor Woolworth's has to set up at 7:00 AM cause now the elderly
people can't buy their groceries anymore. It's a very obvious, clear, clean example
of lucid brain behavior. What's not so obvious and what you have to learn is the way men
do this to you in relationships. And to be fair, the way you do it to men, right? It starts with a stimulus.
The stimulus could be emotional intimacy. It could be feelings of inadequacy in him. It could be that
you just say a similar thing to what his ex said to him just before she cheated on him.
You don't really know what the stimulus is. It's not as obvious as it, as this example,
but then a fear kicks in, and the fear could be fear of abandonment, fear of embarrassment,
fear of rejection, fear of not being good enough, fear of betrayal. All these different fears kick in to the guy,
and a percentage of men will then cross their threshold and the result is lizard brain behavior
that makes absolutely no sense. Hence the ghosting, the cheating, the pulling away without
reason. That's, what's really important for you to know, it's where a man's threshold
to cross into this shitty behavior sits as well as where your own sits, because only
by two people coming together who have high thresholds will you be able to survive the
emotional stressors and fears and create healthy behavior in a relationship? Again, you can't
really tell how fit someone is until you put them in the gym or put them into a physical
competition. And you can't tell if you're going to get this behavior from a man, unless you put him into a state of
emotional stress. Now I'm not saying just stress him out intentionally.
That's not the point, right? But you have to see how that system operates when he is stressed, when he's in fear.
And you'll naturally see this as things go along. But if a guy pulls away after three months when you're
getting closer, lizard brain, then you've started to see how the system operates under stress. Right?
You've got to be a mentalist. You've gotta be aware of how men's fears come in.
And then when that system hits lizard brain behavior is your clues as to how good of a guy this is going to be
for you. Again,you're not looking for a man with no threshold because no such guy exists. Right?
But when you talk about how's a guy or a girl worked
through their stuff, what you're really asking is have they been to the emotional gym, right?
Have they created self-awareness, or are they still in states of denial?
Right? Do they take responsibility or do they
blame? These are the things that are going to demonstrate emotional fitness, just the
same way a physical athlete has to be tested in competition to see their physical fitness.
A relationship as a workout. There's no doubt about it. It's an emotional workout, and you
need a certain threshold of emotional fitness to sustain one without lizard behavior. This
is why it's so important you see that system, you see a man under different forms of stress.
And again, this will happen naturally as you get to know the guy, and as he's confronted
with his fears around intimacy, vulnerability connection, all of the above. My new program,
just for professional women, is all about this. So if you want to work with me, there's
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It's all about you becoming an amazing mentalist.
And I go deep into these concepts about spotting guys who are not going to hit this lizard
brain behavior with you. Guys who have been to the emotional gym, guys who can match you,
and you've got to go there too, who can create a loving, deep connection with you with none
of this lizard, brain behavior bullsh*t. That's making people shop for absolutely no reason.
So how do you know if a guy's going to ghost? Well, that depends how he follows up with
his fear of intimacy. Does he hit his threshold for shitty behavior or has he been to the
emotional gym? Is he going to cheat on you one day? Well, it depends how he handles this
fear of abandonment when it comes up, his fear of not being attractive anymore, his
fear of not being validated. Can he have the difficult conversations? Has he been to the emotional gym,
or are you going to get lizard brain behavior? Human brain, lizard brain - we all have both, but it depends
where the threshold is. You can only judge
a system in this case, a man, under a time of stress. When you see that system under
stress, you see the people that can stand up and be the man you want, right? Again,
these are well-meaning people, all of them. And any other day of the year, you wouldn't
see this behavior, but put the system under stress, and you see the truth. Don't do it
on purpose. It will happen naturally as you go along with the guy, but understand that
love is not always enough. And only when you see the system under stress, will you see
the true strength of the man, of yourself, and of the relationship. Again, fill out the
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