How do you know if you're being a simp?
This is a word that has really broken through these days into the new culture, in the manosphere,
dating, relationships, all this stuff.
People talk about simping.
And I've really gathered some of my thoughts here, in terms of what are some things that
I see that guys are doing.
Guys who I'm either working with who are clients, guys who I'm hearing stories from in YouTube
comments.
Guys who I know personally and I'm even going to tell you a story in just a second.
I've seen this happen where guys are acting in this way, which is obviously completely
unattractive to women.
But moreover, it's false thinking.
It's like doing things that we think or you think women like, but it doesn't work.
Or you're acting in a way that just displays this overall weakness towards a woman.
She instantly thinks this guy is weak.
She might not think that word in her head or the word simp or beta or anything like
that.
But she is definitely not attracted to you.
She's not attracted to you because of these things that you're doing.
We're gonna go over with those 5 things are.
Let me tell you a quick story of an example of this.
I have a friend and no, this is not me.
If it was me, I would I would tell you.
But I have a friend who... this is from a long time ago.
He was sort of dating this girl.
When I say sort of it means they were kind of dating.
But she was pulling away.
She wasn't really hanging out with him as much anymore.
She was being a little cold and standoffish.
And this made my friend chase her even more.
He wanted to be with her even more.
And he wanted to do anything he could to get her.
His first thought was do things for her, impress her.
Do something that is going to get her to notice that I'm this great guy.
What he ended up doing this one day, and I cringe as I tell this story.
During his lunch break went to her house and he shoveled her driveway.
It was a big snowstorm.
He went there and shoveled her driveway and just left so that when she came home, she
saw that her driveway was shoveled.
And I don't really know the details of the rest of the story.
Maybe he told her, maybe he didn't.
Either way, she found out that he did that.
And of course, it didn't work.
He was literally bending over backwards.
Maybe not literally, but he was bending over shoveling this hard snow just at the chance
for her to see that he's a good guy.
Unfortunately that works against you.
Because when you're doing something like that, that's showing a weakness.
This goes into the first thing that I've seen that guys do that's simping.
And that's sacrificing themselves for her.
What are some other examples of this?
Accommodating to her time.
Being overly accommodating like whenever she can do something.
He's again sacrificing his time for her.
Acting cool like, everything's cool if they get stood up by the girl.
Again, sacrificing your time.
Sacrificing the thing that annoys you that you would never put up with if this was a
friend but you're doing it for her because you just want her to like you.
Giving her the best seat somewhere where you guys are going.
And this leads me into my next one which is being overly chivalrous.
Now we're going into the second one overly chivalrous.
There is nothing that you're gonna do chivalry wise that's really gonna put her over the
edge and go I really like this guy.
You know, opening up the door for her, carrying her purse, ordering the meal for her.
Doing all these things where you're acting like a slave and really just trying to do
these things which she knows what you're doing only because it's this chivalrous move.
Don't obsess over chivalry.
This is not going to get you far.
I'm not saying that you need to be rude.
I'll open the door for even friends.
It just social awareness.
Yeah, I'll open the door for a girl but I'll also open the door for other people.
Now I'm not going to carry my friend's wallet.
I'm not going to open up or pull out a seat for my friend.
I'm not going to do all these little things.
Don't overly obsess over this.
And when you do, it doesn't work because you're just doing things to get her attention which
nicely gets into my next one, which is paying for her attention.
A lot of guys are paying for girls' attention in two ways by the way.
First in relationships, buying her gifts, paying for everything that you guys do together.
I mean, I do recommend you pay for the first date, even the second date.
But always paying when you guys are going out, buying her stuff, all that.
That doesn't work.
It's trying too hard.
And that's what a lot of the simping is.
It's like try hard stuff.
Doing things where you're putting in this extra effort in a place where it makes you
look weak.
Another place where you might be paying for attention is like doing only fans, prostitution,
strip clubs.
Things like that where you're literally paying actual cash to women for their attention.
Where maybe in some cases, some guys go so far to think maybe if they do that with some
of these girls that the girls will like them when this is just a complete fantasy and that's
not how it works at all.
This also leads into the next one which is over complimenting.
You see guys on these only fan sites or wherever where they're just saying or dm'ing girls
you're so beautiful, you're so beautiful, all this stuff.
Over complimenting makes you look weak because it's fairly obvious that you're only doing
it so you can do something nice so she thinks that you're nice when in reality it's manipulation
because you don't necessarily mean it.
Maybe you do, maybe you think a girl is pretty but it's the act of saying it that's this
try hard way.
Be very careful how much you're complimenting a girl if at all.
Again, not to be a dick but to show her that you're not some guy who's just gonna be throwing
money and compliments and all these things her way in order to impress her.
What about hanging around a girl?
Or it's also known as orbiting.
Hanging around a girl in the hopes and dreams that this girl will finally like you.
That doesn't work and this is simping at its finest.
You hanging around long enough so she likes you.
A lot of guys in the friend-zone do that.
Guilty over here.
I have done that before.
I've done that a lot in my younger years but then I found out that clearly doesn't work.
You don't hang around a girl long enough for her to eventually like you.
You do actions that are attractive that make her like you.
By the way, if you want to know what those actions are and the whole system on how to
do that, I do have a course called Hooked which I'll link down below that teaches you
all the attractive moves.
But the idea here is if you're trying to do things for women to impress them, to get their
attention, that are sacrificing something on your end... she knows it.
She is smart.
She gets what's going on and she knows and can see through the lines here or read between
the lines I should say.
You don't want to be doing any of these things to come off weak.
I hope that helps.
I know I'm gonna get a lot of comments down below.
This is going to be very interesting.
I look forward to hearing from you down below in the comments.
Don't forget, if you want the Hooked course to teach you how to be more attractive and
not like all the ways I've described today, check it out in the link below and I'll see
you on the next video.