EVERYONE. IF YOU ASK LET’S KEEP IT UP. SAFE TRAVELS YOUR TIME. SAVER TRAFFIC.
>>JENNIFER WAUGH: THANK YOU
VERY SO THIS MORNING, WE WANT
TO DIG DEEPER INTO WHAT
HAPPENED TO BRUNSWICK
TEENAGER, TRENTON, THAT LURE
AND HOW TO PREVENT ANYTHING
LIKE THIS FROM HAPPENING
AGAIN, AS WE REPORTED A FEW
MINUTES AGO AND HAVE ALL WEEK,
THE 19 YEAR-OLD WAS
HOSPITALIZED LAST WEEK. HIS
BLOOD ALCOHOL LEVEL WAS 6
TIMES THE LEGAL LIMIT. WE’VE
SEEN THESE PICTURES PICTURES
WHICH ARE JUST HAUNTING. THIS
ONE SHOWS A 19 YEAR-OLD
SLUMPED OVER IN A HOUSE PARTY
ON SAINT SIMONS. ISLAND REPORT
SAYS THAT HE IS CLOTHES WERE
SOAKED WITH URINE. HE HAD
SPRAY PAINT ALL OVER HIM. IN
THAT REPORT IS FATHER TOLD
INVESTIGATORS IS NOT THE FIRST
TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED AT A
HOUSE PARTY TO HIS SON WHO HE
SAYS WAS JUST TRYING TO FIT IN
SUCH AS A LICENSED CLINICAL
SOCIAL WORKER IS JOINING US
LIVE VIA ZOOM THIS MORNING TO
UNPACK THIS FOR US FOR A GOOD
MORNING. MORNING TO LORI, ANY
PARENT WHO SEES THIS MUST GET
SICK TO THEIR STOMACH. WE BOTH
HAVE BOYS. WE GET IT RIGHT
THERE. OLDER TEENAGERS. WE WE
ALL ASK OURSELVES HOW CAN
SOMEONE DO THIS TO ANOTHER
HUMAN BEING? BUT THIS IS NOT
THE FIRST TIME YOU AND I HAVE
TALKED ABOUT BULLYING. SO IT
SHOULD BE OBVIOUS THAT THIS IS
TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE. BUT WHAT
CAN PARENTS AND WHAT SHOULD
THEY BE DOING? TALKING TO
THEIR TEENS AND YOUNG ADULTS?
YOU MIGHT ACTUALLY THINK FOR
SOME REASON THAT THIS IS
FUNNY.
>> I LIKE TO THINK THAT MOST
KIDS ARE GOOD KIDS AND THAT
MOST PEOPLE WOULD NOT THINK
THIS WAS FUNNY AT ALL. I THINK
IT STARTS WITH THE WAY YOU
RAISE KIDS IN OUR SOCIETY. AND
I THINK IT’S REALLY IMPORTANT
TOO. LET KIDS KNOW THAT EACH
TO REWARD KINDNESS. OF COURSE,
AND INDEPENDENT THINKING KIDS
ARE PRONE, ESPECIALLY
TEENAGERS TO WANT TO FIT INTO,
WANT TO GO WITH THE CROWD. AND
THERE’S A PHENOMENON CALLED
MOB MENTALITY OR HERD
MENTALITY WHERE YOU PUT ASIDE
YOUR VALUES AND GO WITH THE
GROUP BECAUSE YOU WANT TO FIT
IN. AND I THINK IT’S REALLY
IMPORTANT THAT PARENTS REWARD
THEIR KIDS FOR LISTENING TO
THEIR GOT AND BEING ABLE TO
SAY NO AND STAND UP FOR
OTHERS. OTHERS THAT ARE WEAKER
THAN OURSELVES.
>>JENNIFER WAUGH: IT’S
INTERESTING BECAUSE THAT THAT
ONLY I THINK SPEAKS ABOUT THIS
19 YEAR-OLD VICTIM IN THIS
CASE, BUT ALSO IN AS AS WE’VE
SEEN IN THESE PICTURES, THERE
ARE MORE THAN ONE YOU. THERE’S
MORE THAN ONE PERSON STANDING
AROUND KIND OF WATCHING THIS
POSING IN PICTURES NOW, THE
TEAM’S VICTIM, AS I MENTIONED,
CITIES JUST TRYING TO FIT IN.
WE TOUCHED ON THAT. COME GOING
BACK TO THESE PARTIES BECAUSE
HE HAS NO FRIENDS FELT LIKE HE
WAS AROUND PEOPLE WHO MAY BE
EXCEPTED HIM. SO HOW DO WE
EMPOWER OUR TEENS TO SPEAK UP
FOR THEMSELVES AND NOT ALLOW
THIS TO HAPPEN TO THEM?
>> IT’S NOT EASY. I DO THINK
THERE IS A DRIVE TO BE
EXCEPTED AND FIT IN, BUT I
THINK YOU CAN BE YOUR TEEN’S
BODY IF THEY’RE LONELY.
LONELINESS IS VERY COMMON TO
TELL YOUR TEENS THEY’RE NOT
THE ONLY ONE. IT’S DIFFICULT
TO MAKE FRIENDS. AND EVEN FOR
PEOPLE THAT IT SEEMS EASY,
IT’S STRESSFUL AND THAT IT
WILL HAPPEN AND TO GUIDE THEM
TO BE IN ACTIVITIES THAT THAT
WILL MEET NEXT ARE PEOPLE.
SURE THE PARENTS DID THAT. YOU
CAN’T. THIS WAS AN ADULT. SO
YOU STILL CAN’T HELP YOUR KIDS
FROM MAKING BAD DECISIONS BUT
TO HELP THEM LISTEN TO THEIR
GOT TO AND NOT BE AFRAID TO
WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PEOPLE.
>>JENNIFER WAUGH: YOU KNOW, I
THINK IT’S SO INTERESTING THAT
BRING UP THE POINT AS WE’VE
NOTICED. I MEAN, AT TRENTON IS
19, SOMEBODY MIGHT MYSELF AND
HE’S BEEN IN HIS IN HIS
FATHER’S SHOES FOR A SECOND
HERE. HE’S 19. HE’S
TECHNICALLY ADULT, YOU KNOW,
ICE YOU KNOW, OUR OUR PARENTS.
SHOULD PARENTS STILL WITH WITH
OUR KIDS AT THAT AGE, YOU
KNOW, MAYBE, YOU KNOW, COLLEGE
AGE. I MEAN, WE CAN’T RIGHT. I
MEAN, HOW DO WE PREVENT THEM
FROM ENGAGING IN SOMETHING?
YOU KNOW, THAT THAT THEY KNOW
IS HARMFUL?
>> I THINK THAT’S A GREAT
QUESTION. AND I’M SURE HIS
PARENTS TOLD HIM THESE WERE
NOT GREAT PEOPLE TO BE HANGING
OUT WITH THEM. I THINK IT’S
REALLY IMPORTANT TOO. LET YOUR
CHILD KNOW WHAT YOU’RE
OBSERVING NOT TO JUDGE THEIR
BEHAVIOR. YOU CAN YOU CAN
AFFIRM THAT IT IS DIFFICULT TO
BE LONELY AND LISTEN TO THAT.
WHAT DRAWS YOU TRY TO GET THEM
TO TALK? DRAWS YOU TO THIS
GROUP OF PEOPLE TRY TO LISTEN
AND THEN TELL THEM WHAT YOU
OBSERVED THAT THEY SEEM NOT
THEMSELVES. THEY SEEM
DEPRESSED AFTER THEY HANG OUT
THEIR BEHAVIOR IS CHANGING AND
KIDS REALLY DO. LISTEN, IF
IT’S REPEATED IN A
NON-THREATENING WAY, BUT IT
CAN BE HARROWING TO WATCH YOUR
KIDS GO THROUGH BEHAVIOR THAT
YOU DON’T AGREE WITH HIM, YOU
THINK IS DANGEROUS FOR THEM.
JUST MAKES ME JUST SO SICK.
SEEING SOME OF THESE PHOTOS,
YOU KNOW, SPRAY PAINTED YEAR
IN VOMIT ON THIS POOR 19
YEAR-OLD.
>>JENNIFER WAUGH: ANY OTHER
WARNING SIGNS MAY BE FOR OUR
VIEWERS WHO HAVE CHILDREN WHO
ARE YOUNGER, WHO WHO ARE IN
MIDDLE SCHOOL, KIND OF COMING
UP TO HIGH SCHOOL OR EVEN IN
HIGH SCHOOL.
>> WHAT I WOULD SAY IS
DEFINITELY WATCH FOR
BEHAVIORAL CHANGES. IF YOU’RE
KIDS, PERSONALITY DOESN’T SEEM
TO BE COMING OUT OF THERE.
HANGING OUT ALONG MORE WATCH
OUT FOR THE INTERNET. THERE’S
A LOT OF ONLINE BULLYING,
UNFORTUNATELY ON THE INTERNET,
EVEN FROM ESPECIALLY FROM
PEERS. SO YOU WANT TO DO SPOT
CHECKS OF THEIR SOCIAL MEDIA
AND JUST TO MAKE SURE THAT
KIND OF THING ISN’T HAPPENING.
>>JENNIFER WAUGH: DO WE EVER
STOP WORRYING ABOUT OUR
CHILDREN? LORI WELL, IT’S UP
TO IT IS. WE ONLY HAVE ONE