You got quick questions, well, I think you've come to the right place. It's a question mark
table.
Okay so the question mark table kicked me off so I'm in front of these books instead
here to answer your dating and sex-related questions for this week. First of all Devon
Robertson wants to know about the transition between texting to talking. 'I was wondering
if you had any advice on how to develop communication skills with a potential significant other
when switching from text to talking in person and on the phone. I've started noticing that
I can have great deep conversations with guys over text but then can't break the awkward
silence that comes with being together in person.' Well Devon this is something that
I have experienced as well because really the transition at least for me from emoji
to talking in person even harder just texting. My go-to advice when it comes to awkward silences,
getting over that hump with somebody else especially if you have established a relationship
via text or email or instant message is to just flat-out acknowledge it. Usually, at
least studies have found because there have been studies conducted on awkward silences,
acknowledging the awkwardness is the fastest way to diffuse it. That puts you both on the
same page and probably offers some relief to the other person as well, that oh god yes
this is awkward. When it comes to talking to sometimes practice makes perfect, try to
train yourself away from only talking via text especially for those deep, intensive
conversations. Next up someone who would like to remain anonymous has a trickier question.
This question by the way is on uh this very high tech piece of paper because this is a
high tech kind of show. 'How do I breakup with somebody who wants to be with me but
at the same time doesn't love me anymore? I know it sounds strange but I guess the person
I'm with doesn't want to breakup with me because he doesn't think I can handle it. How do I
move on without him?' Hard and fast truth of the matter is you move on without him by
simply moving on without him. It'll be tough but it sounds like you're hurting yourself
even more on by not going ahead and moving on, by not ending the relationship. It kind
of also sounds like he's pulling a little bit of at least of an emotional fadeout, that's
even harder in my experience than just breaking up with someone when you know that the jig
is up because otherwise you're just prolonging the pain that you might have to process. I
have a feeling that at some point in your life you lived without this person as your
boyfriend and the fact of the matter is you're strong enough to live in another part of your
life without this person as your boyfriend. The sooner that you do that, the sooner that
you are positioning to be in a relationship in the future with someone who really does
love and appreciate you the way that you want to be loved and appreciated. Now that we've
dealt with matters of the telephone and the heart let's move to matters of the loins,
specifically the penis loins. Jarrad wants to know, 'I don't know if this is a common
thing but my last girlfriend who I was with for two years and I never had sex. Not from
lack of trying though. We tried many times, we loved each other and felt comfortable and
all that good stuff, good so far Jarrad, it wouldn't fit in. I've since had sex with girl
who wasn't a virgin and everything went smoothly. Did my ex have a small vagina? Was I too big?
Was it from stress? Does it just not work sometimes? It's really puzzling me since I
haven't had a problem with penetration with any girls since.' Thanks to your question
I've learned about something called vaginal tenting. This is a really cool thing that
the vagina does during sexual arousal to actually widen and enlarge it and for that reason,
not to burst your penis bubble Jarrad, your penis probably was not too big, also considering
the fact that you've had sex easily with other women since then. I have a feeling that since
it was your first time trying that even though you were in love and it was consensual and
you had all of those wonderful things in place it can simply sometimes take additional foreplay,
trying different positions, even using additional lubrication to make it happen. I don't think
there's anything abnormal or wrong with either of your bodies or necessarily how you were
trying to go about it. We see sex happening in the movies and even scenes where people
are having sex for the first time in the movies and they're like rockstars right off the bat
with it and that usually is not how our bodies, especially the female body works. Thank you
for asking the question so I now know the phrase vaginal tenting and plan to use it
at all awkward social functions from here on out. Now I want to know what your quick
questions are. Leave them in the comments below, you can also message me privately if
you want to keep it on the DL, you can also tweet me @cristenconger and I'll see you next
time. I'll see you next time. Wha-what is this weird wave? Here's a quick question:
Why do I not know how to wave? I'm thirty years old. Shoulda gotten this down by now.