- Self-love, something I understood intellectually,
but not internally until I discovered Kaiflow.
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In this video, I'll reveal how I went through a place
of having to justify everything I did to a place
where I could respond with love
to a racist bigot who was verbally abusing me.
Keep watching to uncover how Kaiflow
can transform your life, too.
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So, for those of you who know me it's absolutely no secret
that personal growth is a massive part of my life.
I've had personal coaches, life coaches,
business coaches, CEO coaches.
I've done landmark forum, landmark advanced course, SELP
and of course, I've done Tony Robbins' UPW
Business Mastery, Date with Destiny.
I've done a whole bunch of his audio programs.
I've completely immersed myself in his learnings
and I've even coached with people on his team.
Given all of that self development and personal growth
and coaching that I've done, you would be forgiven
for thinking, Fuck me, Shazz,
you must be completely fucked up
to need so much fucking coaching.
Yes, that's potentially one viewpoint and one take on it.
I prefer to say, no, fuck you.
I am just completely empowered and determined to be the best
I can be and unlock every single ounce of my potential.
Every day, every week, every month, I'm growing and growing
and becoming better and better.
So, anyways as part of my personal growth journey,
I came across Kaiflow.
And Kaiflow is quite possibly the most profound
and life-changing experience on a deep, deep level
that I have ever had the opportunity to engage in.
Kaiflow has multiple programs and in this video,
I'm talking about Kaiflow original
which is the first program of the entire Kaiflow series.
I'm recording separate videos on the other programs
in Kaiflow series: Kaiflow Futures, Kaiflow Futures Brand
and the Kaiflow two-week intensive slipstream experience.
So, make sure you're subscribed now to stay engaged
with those videos when I release them.
So, let's talk about Kaiflow original,
the first part of the Kaiflow series.
So, this is the book and the manual
which are basically worked through
throughout the whole program and course.
It's pretty big.
It's got a lot of content on there, in there,
but a lot of the pages are also empty pages
which you'll actually fill-in as I go through the program.
So, this is kind of like the guide book.
But, before we get into that,
Kaiflow all starts with a questionnaire.
And this questionnaire, is something like no other
that I have ever experienced before.
Rather than there being like fully specified questions
about what kind of things I might have guessed
I might be asked about like,
what's working for me in my life,
what's not working for me in my life.
None of that.
Kaiflow just has a list of words.
Words like, presence.
Words like, self-worth, self-love, attitude, meditation.
And all that we did in this initial session was just talk,
just write down whatever comes up
under each of those words which I was given.
And it was like a really, really interesting process
of just like emptying the mind.
And anything and everything that came up related
to the words that I was given, just kind of unloading them
into a word document and I then sent it to my coach.
I wasn't given any further instructions than that,
just unload it and actually that process
on its own was very kind of therapeutic,
just unloading things.
Seeing things from a few different angles because
of similar types of words would be listed on the list.
I didn't really see the purpose of it.
I didn't know what was going to happen with it,
but I did it to begin with
as Phase one of Kaiflow original program.
Then, there's a clearing week in which you disengage
from any type of personal development and growth.
You relax, you maintain good diet, you cleanse
and prepare for what comes next
which is the start of the actual program.
In the start of the actual program,
there are kind of two major set-up sessions
and the main focus of those is actually going
through the profiles that you know,
you filled in a couple of weeks ago.
Now here's where it gets really interesting
because what they actually do,
what my coach actually did was went through all
of the thoughts and flow that I had just put down
and because it was a very unconstrained style
of writing, my actual thought patterns
and belief systems start to become apparent
just in the way that I'm writing
about myself, in the various topics.
And all of a sudden, it becomes a conversation around,
you know, what do you mean by this.
You know, this type of sentence structure keeps occurring
and reoccurring and I started to get present
to certain areas of my life relating to my attitude
towards success and the fact that I always needed
to be kind of getting to the next level.
I'll get to the next level and then, I'll be successful.
I'll get to the next level and then, I'll be happy.
And there was a complete absence of any kind of recognition
of where I am now and a kind of, an affirmation of self
or an acceptance of self or a self-worth
and a self-love was completely absent.
And I got that, you know, again, intellectually
through the conversation and through the analysis,
but on its own, it wasn't enough
to actually create any transformation.
Now, the Kaiflow program itself was over a six-week period
where we maintain various practices
to deal with meditation, getting into state and flow,
set streaming, keeping the mind clear
and living those six weeks with a guiding principle
and a guiding purpose around some
of the areas that we've uncovered in our writing.
So, mine was about, you know,
identifying a sense of deeper self-worth
and try to connect to a sense of self-love.
What started to emerge for me over those six weeks as I
then had my weekly coaching calls
after the initial set-up meetings was
that the context and the frame had been set.
It was clear that I'm going to be looking
at the topic of self-worth and self-love.
I didn't know how, I didn't know what was going to come up.
All I knew was that every week I was going
to be having coaching calls and something really
strange started to happen, like out of nowhere.
With that as a backdrop, every time I was talking
to my coach, I started to feel confronted.
And she wasn't doing anything.
She was just asking me questions,
allowing me to be in this space where I was sharing
what had gone on during that week and it got to the stage
where I started to feel a real resistance to my coach.
I couldn't understand what it was.
She hadn't done anything wrong.
She was just asking me questions,
but I had a real resistance to actually talking
to her, to communicating with her.
I told her that she was a terrible coach.
I told her she didn't know how to coach me.
I told her this program wasn't for me until I don't know,
was it week three, week four into the program?
Something started to dawn on me.
I realized that I was feeling incredibly confronted by her,
by the program, by this topic of self-love
and it was like every time I was getting on the phone
with her, before our conversation even started,
I felt like a mirror to the deepest depths
of my soul was just being held up to my face
and it was fucking scary, it was confronting,
it was seeing and feeling for the first time some
of the things which had been hidden
from my view for my life up until that point.
And there was this turning point
where I just suddenly got self-love,
like I dropped my guard, I dropped my barriers,
I stopped fighting and I suddenly realized that, oh my god,
I've not loved myself.
I've not appreciated myself.
I've not developed a sense of self-worth.
And it really, really shook me.
It emerged organically through the program
and there was a moment where it clicked
and it just shook me.
And, I started to get self-love, I started
to develop a sense of self-love and it really,
really transformed my energy.
I know myself.
I appreciate myself.
My sense of worth and my sense of love, self-love,
is not dependent on anyone else's viewpoint
or anyone else's reaction.
And that subtle shift started to happen
whereby I might be saying the same thing,
but now there was no attachment to the response
that that thing might create.
And that was a really deep sense of self-certainty
and self-assurance and detachment from other people
in the sense that it doesn't matter what their response is
which was powerful and engaging and freeing.
Once I opened the door, it started
to build very quickly and I literally got to a stage
where actually, I felt almost immune
to anything anyone could do or say to me.
And when I was actually in Miami with Nancy
for Tony Robbins' Date with Destiny in December last year,
there was this night when Nancy and I had gone out
and it was about 5, 6 o'clock in the morning.
We'd gone for a cheeky McDonald's.
We were waiting for our food and we were minding
our own business having a little chat amongst ourselves
and there was this other guy standing, kind of nearby.
He was, it was late at night, he'd obviously been drinking
and completely out of nowhere,
he just started making racist comments towards me,
directed at me, directed at Nancy.
He kept on making comments trying to get a response
from us and he was saying pretty hurtful, you know, things
to try to get a response from us.
Nancy started getting pissed off.
Nancy wanted to go over there and slap him
and I said, no, just leave it.
He's where he is right now and people express anger
and hatred as a consequence of where they've come from
and their pain and what they're experiencing
and what they're going through in life.
It doesn't make it right, it doesn't make it wrong.
It's just understand that these people are in pain
and I am independent of anything they may do.
So, I thought I would do something about it.
Now, if this was me with my insecure self, you know,
maybe a year ago, I would have, and I have done this
in the past, confronted him and things would've escalated,
resistance would've met resistance
and inevitably would've gone as far as a fistfight.
Lucky for me, I'm an experienced boxer, kick boxer,
Muay Thai, all the rest of it, so I probably would've won,
but it would've gone in that direction
and that's happened on multiple times for me.
But now, something was completely different.
With a total sense of certainty, self-confidence, no fear,
I literally just turned around, faced him, looked him dead
in the eye and walked up to him.
I wasn't fearful, but I was scared
because I didn't really know what I was doing
and I didn't know what was going to happen,
but I walked straight up to him with a full acknowledgement
of two things: one, my sense of self-worth comes from within
and it's completely independent of anything anyone can say
or do to me, and two, anything he's saying right now
is a consequence of his own pain in his own life.
With those two things in mind, I walked directly up to him,
looked him in the eye and I said,
"Whatever pain you have experienced in your life,
I hope that you find peace."
I literally just looked him
in the eye and said that to him.
I felt that sincerity.
I exuded that sincerity to him.
I put my arms around him and I gave him a hug
and he was literally, just speechless.
I turned away, I left him, I went back to Nancy.
A few moments passed, and then he came up to us
and he was just apologizing, he was, I'm so sorry, guys.
I was just saying so many stupid things
and he completely and utterly shifted just
because I acknowledged him and his pain.
And that, from one extreme, where literally the year prior,
that would've ended up in a fist fight
to through getting self-love and through separating myself
from other people, from other people's views,
I was able to remain detached from that, unaffected
and give him a loving response
which absolutely transformed that whole interaction.
And for me, that was everything that I got from Kaiflow.
This indescribable shift which I can't accurately describe
how it actually happened, but the impact it had
on my life was taking me from insecurity to security.
From a lack of confidence, deep inner confidence
to absolute certainty and unshakableness.
True self-love is what has empowered me to do those kinds
of things and it was absolutely amazing.
And so that was the Kaiflow original program,
absolutely life-transforming.
Now, of course, everyone will get something different
out of the course, it very much depends on where you are
and what's going in your life.
But what's absolutely clear is that you will get exactly
what's right for you based on where you are at the time
that you do it, that's just how the program is designed.
So, that was Kaiflow original,
the first program from the Kaiflow series.
I hope that gave you guys an insight into the power
of the Kaiflow program and just an example
of what's possible by unlocking your inner self-worth,
moving beyond other people's opinions and attitudes
and really owning yourself and stepping up.
You can find out about more
about the Kaiflow program on Kaiflow.com.
Feel free to check it out.
Please share with me your comments, questions
about anything I've shared in this video.
I look forward to hearing your responses
and of course, I'll do my best to respond to your comments
or of course, shoot subsequent videos in response to them.
Until next time, stay tuned, guys and I will see you soon.
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