Hey there it's clay with modern love.life. And in this video, we're going to be talking about
how to tell if your ex is falling in love with you. Again, some of these things are going to be
things that maybe you've heard before, but the last one is going to be really interesting. Um,
so please make sure that you stick through to the end. The first thing is that they're
seeming to have fun with you, even if the two of you, aren't doing fun things. Now, of course,
you know, there's lots of fun things that you could be doing, you know, going to concerts,
going on, adventures, road trips, all that sort of stuff, right? Th th those, those are fun things,
right. But if the two of you are just, you know, hanging around doing nothing in particular,
but they seem to be actually enjoying themselves or the two of you just talking on the phone,
but you're not talking about, you know, anything in particular, you're just kind of chatting or
something like that, but they seem to be really into it and they seem to really digging it.
Um, that definitely is an indication that, yeah, they're starting to fall in love with you again,
they're starting to come around again. It shows that they're enjoying those small moments with
you. Even if the two of you are just walking a dog or like, whatever it might be, right? Number
two is if they remember the details, they remember the details about certain things that are going on
with you, certain things that are happening in your life, certain things about you. It's easy
to overlook these things, especially if you're hesitant about getting too close to someone,
especially if you don't want to lead them on or give them false hope or anything like that.
However, if they are openly showing you that they are remembering these details about your life,
about things that are happening in your life, about things that you mentioned before,
then that shows that they are really, you know, caring about you.
And that they're probably starting to warm up to you if they haven't already warmed up to you
fully. Uh, but it's definitely something to look out for. Number three, here is if they mentioned
the future with you in it. So obviously when the two of you start connecting more,
they'll start to think about the future. I mean like people, you know, generally think about the
future more or less in some capacity anyway, oh, what am I going to do next weekend? What
am I going to do this summer? What am I going to do? I'm this autumn, what am I going to do
next year? And that's normal. However, when they start to think about the future and they start
to talk about the future and you occupy a point in that future, like, oh, Hey, uh, next summer,
we should go on this trip to this place. Or, Hey, last year we couldn't go to this
thing because of, you know, all the lockdowns and everything, but maybe we can do that this summer
or whatever the case might be. Right. They're actually talking about the future with you in
it. And this shows that you're occupying a good portion of their mental real estate,
but that they're also, um, thinking about spending time together with you in the future,
which means they obviously enjoy spending time together with you right now. And they imagine
that doing something, um, together in the future would also be a, a positive experience as well,
too. Of course, it also depends on the bigness. If that's a word of whatever they're considering
doing with you, right? So like going on a trip together with you, that's a big thing.
Maybe just getting together for coffee, less big, but you know, it's all relative, right?
Maybe if the two of you haven't seen each other for a while, getting together for coffee could
be a big, but if, um, you know, the two of you are getting together for coffee regularly, maybe going
on a trip, it might be a big thing, right? So, so keep it in perspective. By the way, if you like
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learn more signs to look out for when it comes to your acts and their behavior and all that,
you might wanna check out this video playlist over here on signs that your ex likes you, that
they're warming up to you, stuff like that. Anyway, number four, you seem to be able to do
no wrong in their eyes. They take your side. That is to say they don't seem to blame you for a lot.
Now, of course, there could be reasons for your breakup and they might still be holding
on to that hurt that pain, some sort of betrayal. Maybe I don't know. What we want to do is kind of
work from the outside in, so maybe at the, at the center of this, there's this core wound of like,
oh my goodness, you betrayed me in some way, but on the outside, there's like all these trivial
little things like, you know, oh yeah, we could argue about this. Or we could have some sort of
petty fight about that. But if they seem to be kind of, you know, not blaming you,
not pointing the finger at you with some of these things on the, on the periphery,
but maybe they still do on the inside. Just kind of let that trust seep in, let it just
sort of slowly work its way in. As we get towards this sort of core pain hurt in the middle here,
we can kind of start to untangle that, but just work on building that trust in general and just
know that that will start to shift. If they seem to be cutting you slack, if it seems like
you can't do much wrong, then that is definitely a sign that they are starting to love you again,
next to, because they actually want you to be happy if they actually want you to be happy, if
they actually want good things for you, that shows that they're starting to turn and they're starting
to love you again. Now of course, in our society, it's really common for a lot of people to not want
their ex to be happy for better or worse. Um, we, we don't have a good way to relate to
our ex in society. Um, of course we have TVs and movies and stuff like that that tell you,
you're supposed to hate your ex because they cheated on you like a dirt bag that they are.
And I'm not saying that that happened between you and your partner or not. But oftentimes people
will say like, yeah, you know, me and my ex broke up, but w it wasn't this like big blowout argument
where we were like at each other's throats or anything like that, oh, we were just incompatible
or something. Or we just, we just were going through some sort of misunderstanding. And so
people get this message from society that you're supposed to hate. Your ex has guts. But when they
look at what actually happened, they're like, yeah. I mean, sure. Maybe we had some problems,
but it wasn't anything that bad. I don't really hate your guts.
But many times people will, um, sort of twist and distort the past in order to create a version
of you that's worth hating because they think that they need to, or because they want to feel
like they made the right choice or something like that. But if they genuinely want you to be happy,
it means that they're past that if they were ever in it in the first place. And it means that
they're actually at a place where, you know, they, they actually feel a warmth for you in their heart
and they actually want what's good for you. And that of course is a step towards them, loving you
again, and wanting to be back together with you and all that good stuff. Next step number six is
they start getting on the same team with you. Now, again, we've talked a lot about being on the same
team over the past year or so, but being on the same team is really important when it comes to
any sort of long-term relationship success. We want to be able to be on the same team with
our partner. And if your ex is operating on the same team as you, then that is definitely
a positive sign. We have talked a lot about same team conversations. That is just one way that you
can be on the same team. Of course, there's a lot of other ways that you can be on the same team,
many small actions that you can take, uh, to demonstrate that, Hey, we are on the
same team. We're in this together. We're not on opposite teams. We're not out to get one another.
We are trying to make something together here, let's work together to make something amazing,
wonderful, great, and all that sort of stuff. So if they're demonstrating that they are on
the same team with you, by cooperating with you on things, by agreeing to certain things
that make sense and, and stuff like that, then it's showing that they are on the same team.
And that of course is a setup for the two of you actually loving each other, again,
getting back together, all that positive stuff. And the last one, number seven, this, this is
the one that I was teasing at the beginning here, but this is actually really interesting because
if they revise the past between the two of you for the better that is to say they will. I look
back on the past that the two of you had maybe, and contentious things that happened between the
two of you and they, they, they somehow revise it to the point where it wasn't that bad, or maybe
it was actually okay, that lets you know, that their opinion of you is starting to shift or has
shifted. If we look back at things that caused arguments before or things that were major points
of disagreement, and those have been revised to either not be so bad to maybe them actually
taking their fair share of responsibility for it, or somehow diminishing the intensity of it.
It lets, you know, they are starting to let go of this me versus you kind of mentality. And they're
moving over into that same team sort of thing. But they're also saying, Hey yeah, there there's
the past. And maybe we didn't work out for one reason or other, but I can get past it. I can let
go of it. And it's setting up for the opening for the two of you to actually create a new positive
beginning together, a new possibility together, a new relationship together. So if they're revising
the past for the better, especially when it comes to disagreements that the two of you had
arguments things where you, the two of you didn't see eye to eye, this is a huge positive step and
a huge positive sign that the two of you are on the path towards, you know, falling in love
with one another, again, working things out and getting back together, all of that good stuff.
If you did like this video, please hit that thumbs up button once again, if you haven't
already. Um, but yeah, if you do want some help making all of this happen and turning
the boat around when it comes to the emotional connection with you and your ex, uh, you might
be interested in our course called the X solution program. You can find that over@modernlove.life
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