Hey, Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com. On today's video, I want to answer a question from
someone who's inside of Tripp's Corner. If you don't know what Tripp's Corner is it is my private
my secret and exclusive Facebook group that is only available to guys who are either in the Tripp
Advice accelerator coaching program, or guys who have purchased one of my various courses such as
Hooked or Infield Breakdown, or Online Domination. Because when you get access to those, you will be
able to get access to Tripp's Corner. There's four coaches in there, including myself, and almost
2,000 guys. This is one of those Facebook groups that's insanely active. You can get in here as
well. All you'll have to do is get one of those courses, or sign up for coaching. I'll put links
to those in the description down below. But I want to answer one of the questions here today from I
will keep it anonymous and of course, I am not giving anything away that's going to reveal an
identity because I do keep everything in terms of privacy very seriously inside of Tripp's Corner.
Today's topic is as you know, from the title, we're talking about fapping masturbation, and I
thought that this is a good question and something that really should be talked about. Let's go
into it. This person says in Tripp's Corner: "Masturbation - when it comes to this topic with
women it seems to be more accepted and celebrated. The sheer amount of sex toys stimulators,
and dildos vibrators. But for men, I can't help but notice this incredible absolute divide between
no fap forever. Or if you fap or porn, even once you are destroying yourself. I don't buy that and
think we can have an honest conversation of how toxic and self destructive porn can be, but at the
same time, letting your guys out so you don't get blue balls. You know what else is toxic besides
porn addiction? I don't really see a difference between a guy who has porn addiction and a guy
who just uses women for sex with no real intimacy, connection, or actual care in the world for that
woman. Yet somehow, the latter is congratulated and accepted." That's an interesting point.
He says, "I think we've all had our dealings with the dangers of pornography in past and
present day. I myself have come a long way in getting rid of it from my life. Thing is,
I also get very frustrated if I haven't ejaculated in a long period of time. Personally, I have found
a balance of one, focusing on developing real connections and intimacy with women,
and having sex be the number one goal for sexual well being. Two, once a week I will ejaculate but
have reduced the need to do so with porn. It's not easy after decades of hard wiring with that
crap. My open question is, what are healthy ways for men to masturbate without getting sucked back
into a porn addiction? And I get it, the goal is to be dating or have a relationship with someone
so you don't need to. But when you're single, there has to be more practical solutions. PS,
there are also studies proving increased ejaculation reduces the risk of prostate cancer."
This was just interesting to read, to think about, some good questions here, and things to discuss.
My opinion, on the difference between maybe a guy going out and hooking up with a bunch of women,
and just throwing away the idea of whether that's celebrated or not celebrated, just the
idea of a guy going up and hooking up with a lot of women, it's going to be a little bit different
than looking at a screen obviously, and masturbating one to two times per day
without actual real physical intimacy. I don't necessarily think one is better than the other,
I think they both can be harmful. If I really had to gun to the head and give you an answer,
like which one is worse, I would probably say, the constant porn masturbation.
If I had to say, I'm not saying that you should do the latter. Both are not good for you. Because
if you're going out and just sleeping with a bunch of women just to do that, that can be
an addiction in itself. Because what you're doing there is you're trying to, it's not real intimacy,
you're just beating the addiction of sex. And yes, you are using women and treating them as objects,
it's not going to be very healthy to sustain any future relationships for yourself.
On the other hand, when you're at home, and there's nothing going on, and you're just in
front of your screen, I believe (I don't have any data on this) but I think intuitively that can be
more addicting. The reason is because it's a lot easier for a guy to open up their laptop,
and start fapping - that can happen literally whenever you want. You can't necessarily always
get sex whenever you want. Maybe if you're spending $1000s of dollars on a prostitute,
something like that. But that's not for your common man who can practically do that. Just
to be said both are not so great. But let's really understand the terrible things that are happening
when you are watching porn and you are fapping to that. When you're doing that, you are basically
creating connections in your brain to be aroused by images and videos, which is clearly different
than what you're doing when you are with a human. And if you do that too much, that can
become the primary source of stimulation for you, therefore making it harder for you to get off and
enjoy actual intimacy when you are in person with someone. That is one of the big dangers
of that. I do believe in many cases, with most anything that's not absolutely terrible for you,
that moderation is one of the best things you can do. Whether you're smoking weed, having a drink,
masturbating, whatever it may be, in moderation, those things will not kill you. I am not condoning
that you do any of those things. I'm just saying, we do know that if you have control over things,
and you're not addicted to them, they won't take over your life, and you should be fine. Some
people can be moderate with things, other people cannot be moderate with things. It all depends on
who you are and your personality. Now, if you can handle fapping in a moderate way, and it doesn't
become an addiction, I don't think it's going to be too bad for you. I don't know if there's
nor have I heard and I've seen a lot of videos on this that doctors talk about this as well so I'm
just kind of relaying some of that stuff, that there's really a big problem with watching porn
and fapping once per week, that doesn't seem to be an issue. If anything, it would probably be best
to do it old school method and not be watching anything. In fact, people were doing that for
many years for a very long time. And that is going to at least help reduce the extreme stimulation,
that stimulation that you're getting from watching so many moving images at once and being able to
see 50 girls in a matter of 30 minutes. It will help if you're doing it, maybe just thinking about
it in your mind. But I don't think it's a big deal. I haven't seen it be a big deal. I haven't
heard of it being a big deal. If you're doing it once per week in moderation. And of course,
you're a guy, it can be very frustrating. It can be very tough if you're single, you don't have a
partner, and you're feeling turned on, you're feeling horny, things are happening inside of
your body, you need to release, it's not the end of the world. Now people do go on big nofap
binges and I do think that's really cool. I don't know if it's... there are people who do this. I
don't know if it's that sustainable. But I don't know if it's that sustainable to do this forever.
If you do, more power to you. But just understand that when you're doing a binge like this,
the good binge, by the way, you know you are withholding from fapping, doing a nofap,
that you will start to train yourself to not do it as much. I kind of believe that with anything,
it's good to go on streaks, because streaks get you to a point where you've had such an extreme
version of doing or not doing something to help build a habit. If you want to go and approach
women, it's good to do an approach every day, if you want to go to the gym, it's good to start
going almost every single day or at least five times a week if you want to really get it going.
If you want to lose weight, it's probably good to start fasting and get things going.
Now, that's one way to do it, you can also do the slow way. I think specific to fapping
probably more helpful doing less. I think in this case, less is more. Doing a no fap November,
doing something like this to just get you stopping and then coming back to it,
doing it once per week, it might change things and change some of the circuits going on in your brain
so you can have an easier time doing this as least as possible. And then hopefully, and this is no
science behind this. I think this is just opinion and things I've seen, is that it can help you with
getting back out there. If you have urges, and you want to be with a woman sexually and you
know you're not fapping, well, hopefully that gets you off your ass, gets you going on dates,
talking to women, and swiping more so you can have real connections in person with women instead of
over a screen. I don't see any problem with making sure that you are reducing the fapping
as much as possible, especially when watching pornography. One thing I think that can help.
Something I've been thinking about lately in order to help guys with this is when you're
watching the screen and when you're in the middle of what you're doing,
just think about that for a second. Maybe not right when you're actually in the middle of it,
but just think about what you're doing. Think about what that process is.
You're literally touching your self to a bunch of metal components and flashing imagery that
is anything from real. And when you think about the concept that almost seems kind of ridiculous.
Do you think that's something that you really want to be doing on a daily or three times a day basis,
five times a week basis, four times a week? Probably makes sense that you're going to do
something like that maybe a couple times. And not something that you're doing all the time
so that you can actually have real connections with real people, and not a piece of metal.
Hope that helps. And if you want to have further discussions and deep discussions on dating,
sex, men's improvement, and relationships, check out Tripp's Corner - there's links to
get in. Just join the Hooked program, or our coaching program, and we'll see you in there.