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>>> NONESSENTIAL WORKERS HAVE BEEN ORDERED TO WORK FROM HOME
FOR MORE THAN A MONTH AND IT'S
EASY TO FEEL OVERWHELMED
TRYING TO DO EVERYTHING IN ONE
CLOSED SPACE.
CLOSED SPACE. WE TALKED TO A BURNOUT COACH.
>> I THINK THAT PEOPLE KNOW
WHAT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT IS
THAT YOU CAN HAVE THE SAME JOB
BEFORE AND AFTER AND THE JOB
DOESN'T ACTUALLY HAVE TO
CHANGE.
CHANGE.
CHANGE. BECAUSE WHAT CHANGES THAT
HELPS PEOPLE GO FROM BEING
BURNED OUT TO NOT BEING BURNED
OUT COMES DOWN TO MIND SET AND
HOW WE ENGAGE WITH OUR WORK.
AND I THINK THAT'S SO MUCH
GOOD NEWS BECAUSE SO MANY OF
THE WOMEN I WORK WITH DON'T
WANT TO LEAVE THEIR JOB.
THEY JUST WANT TO SHOW UP IN A
DIFFERENT WAY.
DIFFERENT WAY. >> THE GO, GO, GO, TAKE ON
MORE AND MORE IS PART OF A LOT
OF PEOPLE'S DNA.
AND THE BACKING UP OR
GOVERNING IT OR PACING IT
DOESN'T COME NATURALLY.
AND THAT'S WHERE YOU COME IN.
AND IT COULD BE A MOM OR
ANYBODY WHO IS TRYING TO GET
CONTROL OVER THE PACE OF THEIR
LIFE.
LIFE.
LIFE. >>
LIFE. >> A LOT OF MY CLIENTS ARE
MOMS, RIGHT?
MOMS, RIGHT? AND ESPECIALLY WORKING MOMS
WITH WORKING PARTNERS ARE
BALANCING SO MUCH ALL THE TIME
AND ESPECIALLY RIGHT NOW.
THEY REALLY ARE.
AND ONE OF THE THINGS I HELP
MY CLIENTS DO IS GET CLEAR ON
WHAT THEY WANT TO BE DOING AND
WHAT THEY DON'T WANT TO BE
DOING.
DOING.
DOING. SO
DOING. SO MANY WOMEN GREW UP WITH THE
IDEA THAT WE DO IT ALL.
AND IF WE DON'T QUESTION, WE
JUST KEEP TRYING TO DO IT ALL.
AND WHEN WE CAN GET CLEAR ON
WHAT WE NEED TO DO AND WHAT WE
NEED TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE DO,
WE CAN DO IT WITH SO MUCH MORE
FOCUS.
FOCUS.
FOCUS. >>
FOCUS. >> YOU WOULD THINK THAT PEOPLE
WORKING AT HOME.
AND SITTING IN FRONT OF A
COMPUTER SCREEN MIGHT NOT
EXPERIENCE BURNOUT.
EXPERIENCE BURNOUT. BUT THEY ARE MORE TIRED TRYING
TO FIGURE ALL THIS OUT.
>> I'M NOT SURPRISED.
REASON ONE, WE'RE LIVING
THROUGH A PANDEMIC WHICH WE'VE
NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE.
OUR BRAIN IS TRYING TO PROCESS
AND ADJUST TO THIS NEW THING
IT'S NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE.
SO THERE'S A LOT, THAT TAKES A
LOT OF MENTAL ENERGY.
THE BRAIN IS LIKE I DON'T KNOW
WHAT IS HAPPENING.
ANYTHING COULD HAPPEN.
AND WE HAVE KIDS AT HOME AND
WE'RE TRYING TO SCHOOL THEM
AND IT'S A BUNCH OF MOVING
PARTS IN A DIFFERENT WAY.
SO I, YEAH, I THINK FOR A LOT
OF PEOPLE, THEY'RE TRYING TO
THINK ABOUT HOW AM I GOING TO
DO THIS FOREVER?
AND IF YOU'RE FEELING BURNED
OUT, HANDLE THINGS MOMENT BY
MOMENT.
MOMENT.
MOMENT. I
MOMENT. I CAN'T FOCUS ON ANYTHING.
WHEN I'M WITH MY KIDS, I THINK
I SHOULD BE WORKING.
AND WHEN I'M WORKING I THINK I
SHOULD BE COOKING.
WHAT ARE WE GOING TO EAT?
WHEN WE WORK ON SOMETHING FOR
A PERIOD OF TIME, JUST GO ALL
IN WITH THAT AND LATER GO ALL
IN WITH SOMETHING ELSE.
WE CAN'T DO ANYTHING WHEN WE
SPLIT OUR TIME.
>> I DO THAT.
I GO BEYOND THE THREE
DIMENSIONAL WORRYING IN WHICH
CASE I'M PROBABLY NOT GETTING
ANYTHING DOWN.
ANYTHING DOWN. HAVE A SCHEDULE.
HOW MUCH SHOULD WE SET OFFICE
HOURS OR PLAN OUR DAY SO WE
KNOW WHAT'S HAPPENING?
>> I'M A HUGE FAN OF
CALENDARING NOT JUST FOR WORK
BUT FOR PERSONAL STUFF.
OUR ENTIRE LIVES ARE TAKING
PLACE IN OUR HOME.
AND IT CAN BE TEMPTING TO WORK
WHENEVER AND COOK WHENEVER AND
WE GET LESS DONE AND FEEL
OVERWHELMED BY THE
UNCERTAINTY.
UNCERTAINTY. THERE'S THE UNCERTAINTY WITH
THE PANDEMIC AND THE
UNCERTAINTY IN OUR HOME.
WE DON'T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT
FROM OUR DAY.
I'M A FAN OF ROUTINES.
IF THERE ARE THINGS YOU KNOW
YOU SHOULD BE DOING.
FROM 5:00 TO 6:00 P.M.
I TAKE A WALK.
AND YOU BRAIN WILL KNOW WHAT'S
COMING AND IT WILL KNOW WHAT
TO DO.
TO DO.
TO DO. AND IT WILL ALLOW YOU TO BE
WHERE YOU ARE BEFORE THAT AND
AFTER THAT.
AFTER THAT. IT'S A HELPFUL PRACTICE.
>> THEY REALLY MAKES SENSE TO
ME.
ME.
ME. >>
ME. >> AND AT WORK IF PEOPLE ARE
TERRIBLY BUSY, I'M GOING TO
DELEGATE OR FIND SOMEBODY
ELSE.
ELSE.
ELSE. BUT
ELSE. BUT AT HOME, IT'S JUST YOU AND
YOUR FAMILY.
YOUR FAMILY. WHAT WOULD IT LOOK LIKE TO GO
THROUGH AND PRUNE
RESPONSIBILITIES?
RESPONSIBILITIES? >> THAT'S AN AMAZING QUESTION.
AND IT REALLY VARIES FOR
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE.
PEOPLE. FOR ANY JOB, IF YOU GET SICK
OR SOMETHING AND YOU CAN ONLY
DO 50% OF IT.
WE KNOW WHICH 50% WE'RE GOING
TO DO.
TO DO.
TO DO. WHAT ACTUALLY CAN WAIT?
MOST OF THE TIME, WE DON'T
WANT TO MAKE ANYTHING WAIT
BECAUSE WE THINK IT'S NOT OKAY
TO DO THAT.
I'M A BIG FAN OF THE
CALENDARING AND SETTING
ROUTINES, BUT IT'S ALSO ABOUT
BEING REALISTIC WITH YOURSELF
AND GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION
TO SAY THESE FIVE ARE GETTING
DONE TODAY AND THE OTHERS WILL
HAVE TO WAIT.
WHEN WE TRY TO HOLD OURSELVES
TO THE STANDARDS FROM OUR
NORMAL LIFE, WE GIVE UP BY
NOON AND NOTHING GETS DONE.
>> WHAT CAN YOU LEAVE US WITH,
ENCOURAGEMENT AND HOPE THAT WE
CAN FIND BALANCE AND GET OUR
LEGS UNDER US AGAIN?
>> THE 1st THING I WOULD SAY
AND IT SOUNDS SIMPLE, JUST BE
KIND TO YOURSELF.
AND REALIZING THAT WE'RE GOING
THROUGH SOMETHING THAT I'M
PRETTY SURE ALL HUMANS MOSTLY
HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED BEFORE.
PEOPLE WHO EXPERIENCED THE
SPANISH FLU, VERY LITTLE.
EVEN OLDER PEOPLE IT'S A NEW
SITUATION AND IT'S OKAY IF
WE'RE NOT LIVING OUR LIVES TO
THE SAME CAPACITY.
AND TUNE BACK IN TO THE HERE
AND NOW WHEN YOU FEEL
OVERWHELMED.
OVERWHELMED. MOST OF US ARE FUTURE TRIPPING
IN AN IMAGINED SCENARIO THAT
MAY NEVER COME TOGETHER.
>> WE HAVE A HOUSE, FOOD,
WATER, WE HAVE THE THINGS WE
NEED TO GET STUFF DONE.
SO STAYING IN THE MOMENT AND
BEING AS KIND TO YOURSELF AS
YOU CAN.
YOU CAN.
YOU CAN. >> AFTER THE BREAK.
WHAT DOES IT