i love that saying when you're on an airplane and it says put your oxygen mask on first right
think about that you put your oxygen mask on first
and then what's the next thing you do then you put it on other people
once you get your oxygen mask on then you could say okay i'm safe i'm secure i'm feeling better
i've been geeking out on history lately because i mean if you're really honest who's concerned
with the state of the world right now just a little bit who's got a little concern the way
things are going in your you know i know we got people from all over the world here here
in america things are a little cray-cray right now but it's kind of like that everywhere right
but when you understand history it can take the emotion out of it
and allow you to see it through the lens that it really is and and one thing i have to say um
that i believe is one of the greatest saviors and i i have to be an optimist an optimistic
uh thinker but what solves problems more than anything is unity not division and i think the
way things have been going over the last well you know i'm only 53 i say only but i have to say that
is i've never seen anything more polarizing to push us apart to
feel separated to lose the momentum we had of of being united as one human race right
and in our thinking and having the ability to agree to disagree right i can remember being a
kid that you know when i was a kid i can remember different parties and and you know whether you're
democrat republican or liberal or conservative i remember really good debates that allowed us to
find a connected center and that's not what we are right now we're really divided like
you're in one camp or another or at least or at least that's the way they want us to see
it because that's not the way i feel and that's not the way most people i spend time with feel
but what i've seen through history is how this is fixed or how it falls apart is the more divided we
are the more easy we are for things to go in the wrong direction and i love being a part of groups
like this because i think our collectiveness our coming together are looking through the lens of
people that we disagree with and finding common ground and finding common ground for our families
finding common ground for our children finding common ground for our safety finding common
ground for our growth and our ability to be the best version of ourselves being the version that
god designed us to be or the universe whatever you believe i think when that happens even in groups
of several thousand like us i think that's where things start to change the reason i love being
here and seeing different faces from all over the world and all over places and all over backgrounds
we have this community look at this amazing chat that we get to connect through zoom and i get
to see thousands of you at once we can be this collective group and between what i do and what
tony does and upw and date with destiny and and the the you know the the mastermind groups and the
impact accelerator event we're doing soon and all the things we get to do we are blessed to see
hundreds of thousands of people a year and all we see is unity and strength and people coming
together and wanting to be a better version of himself and want to look through other
people's glasses and want to be connected and i think that's how we change the world it doesn't
matter if pascal thinks one thing and cheryl thinks another we that's what makes this world
so great is different opinions but we don't have to be divided i'm not trying to give a lecture and
i'm not running for president or nor would i want to be but i have children i have people in my life
that i love that are younger than me and i'm sure we all do and i think the way we solve things is
to to come together and i think another way to solve things and i really want you to hear this
is go get massively successful make so much money it's stupid because money changes things it's just
a fact money is leverage money is not if you use it to be greedy take all the money from me not
help anyone like that's i was trying to do boo haha it didn't come out so well but that's evil
but being successful allows you to help flourish the economy of course but it also gives you
leverage to help to donate to fix to serve to bring people together to help make effective
change if you don't think money solves problems then first off i don't believe you've ever given
enough away think about that one if you don't think money solves problems you haven't given
enough enough away when money is something that's on your list of things to worry about
it should be we can't do anything without money we can't just sit at home and manifest everything
to go great in our life we'd love that but they'll come throw you out of your house or
your apartment they'll take your tv they'll take your car we got to pay the bills right
when money isn't as much of a worry
you get to focus on the things that are really important you see
i watched my mom and dad my whole childhood they didn't even realize that now i'm older i didn't
realize that as a kid that money was their number one thing i lived in a trailer park
with my mom we couldn't even afford the rent we got evicted from the trailer park we lived in and
moved into my grandmother my mom worked three jobs money was always the thing she was a slave to it
she didn't have a degree my mother's most beautiful woman on the planet had dyslexia
really bad and never really got that fixed so she always considered herself not that smart so
she would never go for a real job like something that filled her heart she would go for cleaning
houses and painting houses and cleaning up salons and cutting hair when she could on the side like
she did all these things and none of those are disrespectful she worked right but money was her
thing she didn't have time to work on her personal growth or work on her emotional intelligence or
overcome the the things that may have went a little sideways as a kid and try to heal that
child that was scared she didn't my father was the youngest of 12 was beat physically really bad
to where that that's why he didn't stay married long that's why he had 11 brothers and sisters and
didn't talk to any of them he was in a physical relation physically abusive relationship and
never took the time to heal that or forgive himself or forgive his father right because all
he worried about was making the next dollar right i get that maybe that's one of the reasons i'm
successful because i saw both my parents struggle so much with that that it's like i want to get
that crap out of the way like they never had time to work on themselves right and i want to tell
you as a person who didn't come from anything and legit went to school without lunch money some days
that i always thought money was gonna heal me i just thought i'll get more successful get more
rich and i'll be good it's kind of true but not really not in the way i thought you see
i was running away from a painful childhood my kids aren't having a troubled childhood at least
i don't think so they might tell their therapist that in 20 years but i think i'm doing a damn good
job right they could be they could have therapy but i'm hoping not right but i hope they're still
massively successful i don't want you to think you have to have a tragic childhood to be successful
but all of us are running away from something could have been a bad relationship or a job that
totally sucks or it's robbing your soul so we're all moving away from something um but here's what
i know i ran away from that painful childhood and i figured money money money and when i was in my
late 20s i retired my mom when i was in my 30s i retired my dad so i got the money out of the way
for them greatest thing about i still for since i was 27 years old i've sent my mom a check every
single week since i was 27 years old i sent my dad a check every single week since i was 32 years old
i just bought my mom a brand new house i just put my dad in a place that he absolutely loves
i buy them both their cars love that i've been able to do great things but it didn't heal me
it didn't allow me to dive into the [ __ ] that went sideways when i was a kid here's what it did
though and so on a part i want you to hear about success because a lot of people confuse this and
if you're a little confused about money if you're a little guilty to make money if you're guilty
guilty that you're here that you want to make more money i got to get that crap out of your system
because that is just a lie someone else downloaded into you i want to tell you when i was able to get
money so it wasn't the front and center worry of my life guess who was left standing in the mirror
just me i didn't have to worry about the rent i didn't have to worry about the car
i wanted i had to worry about my kids only person standing i couldn't use that excuse of i'll worry
about this later let me just slam a drink and keep moving harder let me just do this or let
me be distracted when i was in my 20s i dated obsessively i went out and partied a lot like
i always found a way to like hide the crap that was living inside and most of it was through work
if some if i was going to say i was an aholic of something i was a workaholic for sure in my 20s
and then guess what happened by the time i was 30 35 i started getting successful i started paying
paid off all my debts i retired my parents i get in my 40s and i'm like really successful
and i don't have to think about money anymore i don't have to worry about it i worry about my
companies my family and all that stuff and the only person left standing in the mirror was me
what i'm telling you what success can do it can allow you to spend the time on the things you
really need to do that you're avoiding through work you're avoiding through cocktails you're
avoiding through surfing on the internet avoiding because you binge out on netflix
avoiding through sex through any anything there's things that we can put out there to hide and mask
and when you get money out of the way and you get to look at you in the mirror you could say
now it's time to be a better version of me and if anybody would have ever told me that in my 20s i'd
be like what the hell are you talking about if i get money i don't have to worry anymore when i got
money out of the way the worry went up because i had nothing to worry about anymore except looking
in the mirror and go this guy's pretty screwed up like you made the money now let's find a way
to be a better human and when i got to work on me i went from being in my previous relationship
a good provider as a husband an amazing dad but i wasn't amazing i got to work on me and now i'm
married to the love of my life and i get to know what real love is real compassion real intimacy
real connection real friendship i get to be a dad that's completely connected to my children
in a way that i thought i was or but in a whole different world because i got the coaching
i spent the money i spent the time i interviewed people who are good parents and who have great
relationships i got to heal the child os i got to forgive my dad all the way
completely forgive my dad my heart is complete there's no animosity anywhere from my dad i won't
die with any regrets i don't i think all the time what regrets would i have how do i solve them now
right and it gave me a freedom that i never realized existed so if you want something today
to fight for to fight for the person you're supposed to be you're meant to be fight for that
fight for the healing that you could be and then here's the cool part then like when i got that and
listen i also know how many of you are successful on here please i'm not talking to you like you
have nothing and i have that's not what i'm saying but i want to tell you this evolution is i got
money out of the way i started seeing success and then when i started becoming a better version of
me i got in better relationships i was better to my team i became a better trainer i became
a better human then all of a sudden when i got my own money out of the way i love that saying
when you're on an airplane and it says put your oxygen mask on first right think about that you
put your oxygen mask on first and then what's the next thing you do then you put it on other people
once you get your oxygen mask on then you could say okay i'm safe i'm secure i'm feeling better
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