you know what will massively improve your mental health and it's something
that I'm still working on on a daily basis it's to quit wasting time and
energy arguing with idiots what's up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
so where we talk about the problem but focus all on the solution and if you're
new to my channel my channel is all about mental health and what we try to
do here is try to learn together different ways to improve our own mental
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Instagram and Twitter at the rewired soul all right so yeah like I said like
this this is something major okay like I will tell you this I would not be alive
today if I did not figure out how to take criticism like I I was in my drug
addiction for almost a decade and it was because I refuse to change nobody could
tell me what to do I felt like I knew what was best right like you don't know
me I know me right well I'm not gonna do this this right and you know when I
finally got to this point of surrender we often call it the gift of desperation
I finally just threw my hands up in the air and said I have no clue what I'm
doing please help me figure out how to do this and how to live right so it's so
important that we take in different thoughts ideas criticisms and everything
like that but at some point we have to separate what is you know meant to be
constructive and help us become better people and what is people just being
dicks or talking trash or they have no solution because like here's what we all
have to realize there are people out there and I hate to break it to you this
might be a little-known secret but there are people out there who are just doing
nothing but whining and complaining and have no soul
Shen's so anyways I want to start this video out with a little bit of a story I
just finished this great book called moral tribes right and there's a story
in there oh I forgot who the professor was right but it's this like great
Professor intellectual I think he you know does the base and writes you know
papers and everything like that and some jackass was challenging him to a debate
and this jackass was a Holocaust denier all right one of those people who denies
that the Holocaust happened and he kept trying to get this guy to debate him
right kept trying to get the professor to debate him and he's writing him
letters and he's like were you scared you're scared
why don't you debate me you're mrs. smart science man why don't you debate
me let's debate and argue the Holocaust right so finally the professor gets back
to him and he says I'll make you a deal all right he says I will debate with you
about whether or not the Holocaust happened if we do a series of three
debates all right the first debate we're gonna do is over
the existence of Santa Claus the second debate that we're gonna do is whether or
not the earth is flat after that we'll debate whether or not
the Holocaust actually happened and what ended up happening was the jackass the
Holocaust denier ended up backing off and leaving him alone and do you know
where that strategy worked because the professor was basically making a
statement and saying I'm not gonna waste my time arguing with you over something
that is stupid and a waste of my time and this is something that I think all
of us can learn from because like how much time do we waste on these things
and this is something that I'm trying to learn as well so I can make this channel
better and provide more value to you like I in my video where I talked about
our waste of the last six months of my life like I wasted six months of my life
just trying to change people's opinions who who will never change right this
waste of time and energy and so many of us do this but what actually inspired
this video this morning was there's there's a channel called optimist and no
hate towards towards ham like I knew is more of a criticism if you will but I
was you know watching his stuff because recently there was some stuff going on
in the YouTube community about these things called P scores because YouTube
kind of you know it's transparent as it could be with us creators but anyways I
was checking out this guy off to missus channel and he you know he makes a lot
of different videos and does a lot of commentary and stuff anyways one of his
most popular videos was about game theory the channel run by Matt Pat right
I don't love him or hate him like I think he's a cool dude and stuff but I
haven't been like following him for years like other people have so anyway
it's one of the most viewed videos on optimises channel was like game theory
you know something like criticizing I'm right and the video started off pretty
good I was interested to see where it was going like I was like okay because
since I don't followed you know game theory or film theory forever like I
want to see what other people have seen like through the transition right so it
started out good and I was talking about something that a lot of creators do
which is you know with the way monetization works and everything like
that they try to stretch videos to ten minutes and the video started off very
strong great arguments great criticisms right where I was basically saying that
he felt like game theory was trying to stretch their videos to ten minutes just
to hit that mark you know what I mean but it also helps with the algorithm and
increasing watch time and all these other things right like it started off
as a strong video but then I got to this part and let me play the full clip to
give you some context may I add that Matt Pat was also criticized during and
ask me anything he did over on reddit and when this happened no matter how
many uploads have had no matter how popular the response was to Matt Pat's
questions if you criticized Matt cat he was not gonna respond to you he
basically just acted like your question didn't exist even though you could ask
him anything if you asked him say why he was such a sellout which somebody
actually did and it ended up being the most up voted post on the entire AMA
he just wasn't gonna respond to you that's how he responds to criticism and
I'm sitting there and I'm just like what like like seriously that's that's not a
criticism and this is something that we hold you to acknowledge like the
question why are you such a sellout that is not a criticism you know what I mean
and the more we kind of sell the idea that something like that is a criticism
the more people like me and you are gonna waste our time like here here's a
good rule of thumb for criticisms all right like I said his video started off
strong like hey and I think that you're kind of like adding on to this video
some unnecessary things like I do writing and sometimes we call that fluff
you know just kind of things that don't really add to the content like started
off good but a rule of thumb for criticism all right is do they offer a
solution or could they offer a solution right so go back to that comment why are
you such a sellout like there's no solution in there and if you look at it
what do they mean what what solution could I even infer from why are you such
a sellout right like what does that mean does it mean that you should still you
know be independent and not like work with big brands or get as popular should
you stay underneath says you know and whatever like should I you not you know
progress and make money like what is it what is it or is a person you know
making goofy content or they like sort of censoring their stuff more like what
does that mean but just the the question why are you such a sellout that is not a
criticism so why does this matter to you why is this matter to you the viewer
well it is currently October 30th we have entered holiday season all right
coming up you're gonna have Thanksgiving you're gonna have Christmas and you're
gonna be around family members some of us have crazy family members right and
you're gonna have people who are sitting there around the Thanksgiving table or
whatever and they're gonna be criticizing you and if you get upset
to talk about how you can't take criticism right but we need to look at
this and say are they actually criticizing like if they say Stephanie
you know I like all you do is date idiots right like if they're just
talking shit to you they're not criticizing you or they tell you that
you're wasting your life because they think that the job you pit isn't the
right one like is that a criticism or is that an opinion right but there are many
other examples so here's another example okay so my beautiful girlfriend Tristan
over here just sitting there looking amazing she is an artist right now she
does amazing art here's some a Ferrari now imagine if somebody came up to her
and was like you know what Tristan you shouldn't be drawing this stuff you
should be drawing a pizza jumping out of an airplane on its 24th birthday that's
what you should do and what if Tristan was like well I don't want to do that
then imagine that person saying you just can't take criticism like do you know
how silly that sounds right or maybe you're in an industry where you know
you're creative in another way like picture like a chef all right a chef
brings out a dish to two people okay and one person says huh this is good but I
can you could use some more salt right criticism solution right and then the
other person says your face looks stupid you see the difference between those two
so in order to improve and grow we need to take a look at what information is
coming in and is that something we should be paying attention to or is it
just a colossal waste of our time right because like I said especially when it
comes to the internet but this is in life in general right there are people
out there who are miserable and all they do is complain and they offer no
solutions like I used to be that person I used to be such a miserable ass and
all I did was wide and complain like one of the reasons I start every video with
we talk about the problem but focus on the solution is because I used to just
sit in problem that's all I used to do now just
sit there whining playing this should be this way this should be this way get the
duck because I was miserable so I see other people who are like how I used to
be and I'm like you are not offering a solution and I empathize with them I
empathize so I'm just like okay right like because something that I used to do
was I used to just think the whole world should be exactly the way I wanted it to
right I just thought everything should be the way I like it
my preference is my opinions are all that matters you know what I mean and
then I was like wait I'm kind of a self-centered dick the whole world
doesn't revolve around me you know what I mean like if I dislike something and
it's not changing right now it's just my preference or it's my opinion I'm not
gonna keep trying to force this thing to change I'm gonna walk away and leave so
you know what like this video we just we gave you double the value so
the first lesson is don't argue with idiots the second one is if you're like
how I used to be like learn what your own criticisms are or are they opinions
or they preferences you know what I mean like I don't like seafood well I'm
actually a vegetarian now but anyway it's like could you imagine me just keep
telling a restaurant to stop serving seafood because I don't like it like
what you know what I'm saying so anyways I want to do more videos like this with
just little topics old tidbits little little sprinkles a little mental health
advice like I said in my video yesterday I plan I plan on dedicating every day in
November to a writing challenge and writing blogs and everything like that
but I'm gonna try to do videos like this where I just hop in do some mental
health advice things that I'm working on things that I think that might be able
to benefit you and things like that these videos don't get as many views
that's cool like those of you who watch this and you get some benefit like maybe
maybe today you needed to hear to quit wasting your time arguing with it yes
you know what I mean but I'm here for you baby that's how I roll alright
anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a
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or by my mental health books or merge all that good stuff alright thanks again
for watching I'll see you next time