- [Interviewer] Call an ex-lover and ask, "What went wrong?"
(Interviewee chuckles)
- Absolutely not.
- I don't really talk to him that much anymore.
Just with a lot of stuff that went down.
(phone dialing)
- Heart's beating fast.
- This is not gonna go well.
- [Interviewer] Call one of your exes.
- I only have one.
- [Interviewer] You gotta call.
- I've spoken to him since.
(Interviewee chuckles)
- [Interviewer] Who's the one you're most nervous to call?
- I have one that I like call "the one that got away."
- [Interviewer] Why are they the one that got away?
- He won't let me love him.
It's the not reciprocated feelings that it's just like,
"That's the one I want."
- We dated when I was maybe 19.
I haven't talked to him in a long time,
so we'll see if he answers.
- Oh my God.
If he answers, it's gonna be so weird.
Cause I was a secret.
His parents are just very, very strict people.
He would like leave work to hang out with me,
so let's see.
(phone dialing)
- [Sig] Hello?
- Hey, Sig.
- [Sig] Hey.
- I had to call an ex
and ask what you think went wrong with our relationship.
(Sig chuckles)
Sorry. Put you on the spot. (Annie chuckles)
- [Sig] No, I'd say the fact
that I was moving away for school.
- Yeah.
- [Ex] I think it was, like, my visa situation.
Because, if I had the opportunity to stay here,
I think we would be something else.
- Yeah.
- Do you know that I consider you, for me,
the one that got away?
- [Ex] Really?
(Interviewee chuckles)
- Yeah, I do.
- [Ex] Well, I appreciate it.
Damn. That's, I mean, that's kind of a big drop.
- Do you ever think about me?
- [Ex] Yeah. I mean, you come up sometimes.
- I love thinking about those memories.
I love seeing the pictures.
- [Sig] Like the wedding we had gone to.
- Yeah.
- [Sig] All that stuff and the road trip to Portland,
and I don't regret any of it.
- Do you still find me attractive?
- [Sig] Yes. Do you still find me attractive?
- Of course. Are you still seeing that girl?
- [Sig] We had just broke up yesterday.
- I'm so sorry. (Annie laughs)
- [Sig] So, you know.
- Would you ever consider getting back together?
- [Ex] I mean like, yeah, if we like met up again,
and like talked.
Like I haven't dated anybody since.
- Really?
- [Ex] Yeah. I mean, I definitely would. You were lit.
(Interviewee chuckles)
- Well, thank you.
- [Ex] Yeah. - I would too.
- Would you consider taking me on a date?
- [Ex] It could be arranged, potentially, yeah.
- [Sig] All right. Bye, Annie.
- [Interviewer] I think he's still into you.
- Yeah.
- Call an ex-lover and ask, "What went wrong?"
- Here we go.
(phone dialing)
Ooh.
- This is not gonna go well.
Might just go straight to voicemail.
(Interviewee laughing)
- [Kiana] Hello?
- Kiana, I have to ask you a question.
- [Kiana] What?
- Why didn't it work out between us?
- [Kiana] Cause you're full of shit.
(Interviewer laughs)
- Okay. Do you care to go into that a little bit more?
- [Kiana] You bit off more than you could chew.
How about that one?
- I did.
- You talked a good one,
and then when the following through came up, you were like,
you know how the DJ scratches the record?
- Yeah, I mean, that's what I saw
when I looked at my bank account, it said, "Screech."
(Kiana laughs)
I bit off more than I could chew. Good God.
This girl wants how much money for me?
- Why did things not work out between us?
- [Ex] Why do you still have my phone number?
- I, just, I didn't delete it.
- [Ex] Yeah. Go ahead and do that.
- [Kiana] What do you wanna know my situation for?
Are you trying to get back with me?
- I came into some money,
and I think I might be able to afford to hang out with you.
(Kiana laughs)
- [Kiana] I swear, if you were here in my face,
I would punch the shit out of you, and then leave.
Bye.
- [Ex] Bye. Have a good life.
(Interviewee exclaims)
- $700 date.
- [Interviewer] Call an ex-lover and say, "What went wrong?"
- Oh, wow.
(Interviewee chuckles)
Let's see. I'll call my ex-husband.
He was my high school sweetheart. We have two kids.
- [Ex] Hello?
- Hello.
- [Ex] What's up?
- Where are you at? Are you at work?
- [Ex] I'm at work.
- I wanna get your take on what went wrong with us.
- [Ex] We grew apart.
You know, me going into the military.
It was like a big change in between both our worlds
that I don't think either one of us kind of talked about,
and it was one of those harder things
to accept in our lives, especially with having kids.
- Do you still love me?
- [Ex] Of course. I'll always have love for you.
- [Interviewer] Let's call an ex.
- I don't have any of my ex's numbers on my phone.
I usually delete 'em.
- [Interviewer] What about Facebook?
- I wouldn't wanna talk to that ex.
It was a while ago and I've changed a lot,
and she's kind of a bitch now.
- [Interviewer] But knowing all of that,
you could just like take it with a grain of salt.
- Yeah. That's true.
- [Interviewer] How do you know this person?
- We met through church.
(phone dialing)
- [Interviewer] You nervous?
- Yeah. I don't really talk to him that much anymore.
Just with a lot of stuff that went down.
- Hey, so, what do you think
went wrong with our relationship?
- [Ex] You cheated, and lied about it.
- Barely.
- [Ex] I personally don't think that either of us
cared about one another that much.
We just wanted to do stuff that we shouldn't be doing.
I don't think I ever had like romantic, emotional feelings.
- See, I was the other way. See, I did. I did like you, so.
- I'm supposed to call an ex and ask, "What went wrong?"
- [Ex] Okay. This is gonna be really hard to take.
Are you ready for it?
- Mm-hmm.
- [Ex] I'm super gay.
(Interviewee laughs)
- I know.
All right, I'll see you Sunday.
- I never actually cheated.
- [Interviewer] Why did she think you cheated?
- I did try.
I did try and cheat, or did try to cheat a few times,
but I never could.
- [Interviewer] Which ex are you thinking of?
- His name is Brent.
I knew that he didn't want any more kids,
and I learned that that was important to me.
It was hard being with him and his daughter sometimes,
because I felt like an outsider.
(phone dialing)
Heart's beaten fast.
- [Brent] This is Brent.
- Hey, Brent. It's Colleen.
- [Brent] Hey! How's it going?
- Good.
I was wondering, in your words, what happened to end us?
- [Brent] I'm sorry. What happened to what?
- What happened between us? Why did it end?
- [Brent] You caught me off guard with this.
- [Ex] I was such an idiot, so, I mean, yeah,
my head was like in all kinds of places,
and I think that damaged a lot of my relationships
with friends and family and you know, past partners, so-
- Yeah.
- [Ex] I think the downfall was probably not sticking up
for you when I should have.
Not wanting to cross my friends and have that confrontation.
- I feel like, on my end,
I probably put a lot of expectations on you
when you have a lot going on.
So, it's not all on you. It's also on me.
- [Ex] No, thank you.
You're just doing so much better now,
and like I mean both of us are.
It seems like after a couple big changes.
- I think so too.
- I think I caught you off guard
and realized you didn't want more kiddos,
and sometimes with Ellie and you, I felt like an outsider,
but- - Oh, yeah.
- Overall, I appreciate you.
- [Brent] I appreciate you, too.
- I'm happy we're still friends. I'll let you go.
I, actually, am pretty surprised that he gave that answer.
The fact that a year later he remembers that
and knows that that's something that bothered me.
Like that kind of means a lot to me, so.
- That was very weird.
I haven't, I don't know the last time I heard his voice.
- I think that was really good.
It was a little nerve-wracking,
just because this past year I've been like realizing
a lot of bad things that happened in that relationship.
And a part of healing was not talking to him
or interacting with him a lot,
so that was the first time I've ever talked to him
like one on one.
I think it was good
to kind of like be thrown into it in a way.