Pick me, pick me, I want to be your friend. Me, me, me, I want to be your friend. Me too,
me too but too bad, you're tapped out, you've got 5,000 now you don't have any
room for anyone else. What do we do? We got some quality people lined up that we
want to be friends with but now we've got 5,000 friends.
Let's figure out how to strategize and to build a great friends list on Facebook.
You made it, you got to 5,000 friends on Facebook. Congratulations! You probably
had the Facebook balloons and celebration dance. Now what? You got 5,000
friends and let's be honest if this is your first time hitting that 5,000 mark,
there's probably some people on there that maybe shouldn't be on there so what
do we do? Now it's time to get 5,000 quality friends on Facebook and the
first thing you're going to want to do is pare down your list. But we just got here!
We just got to 5,000, why would you want to pare down your list? Because I
guarantee you if you're hitting the 5,000 for the first time, there are
people on your list that aren't going to be really awesome friendships for you
especially when it comes to business, you've got people that are basics, you've
got your family, you've got your friends from junior high, you got that weird kid
from elementary school that turned out to be totally awesome that your best
buds with on Facebook. Keep those core individuals but you've got people from
all over the place, friends and friends of friends or friends that you've accepted,
you've built your 5,000 list partially as a numbers game, let's
just face it, there's some quality relationships on there and then there's
some downright not good weird relationships on there. Now it's time to
call everything and get rid of the ones that aren't going to be cool
relationships for you. Notice I didn't say the get rid of the ones that are
going to be business relationship for you. Yeah, we use Facebook for business
but Facebook is a social media platform. If you go to LinkedIn, that is a purely
business platform. Yeah, you want to be sharing your lifestyle on there but it's
meant for business and people know that. Facebook is meant for everything. Sure,
it's meant for business, that's why there are Facebook ads but it's also meant for
your lifestyle so you want to be very picky but appropriately picky about who
are your friends on Facebook. Now if you go into your profile and you click on
your friends, you're going to see a huge list of friends and you're going to be
scrolling and you're going to be scrolling, it's going to be updating and you're going to
see all these amazing people. Sit at 5,000 for about one to three months, just
let yourself hover around that 5,000 mark for one to three months, no doubt on
your way to 5,000 you had friend requests upon friend requests upon
friend requests over and over and over. At one point, I was getting up to 20 a
day on Facebook of just friend requests. I
wasn't even sending any out, I was getting twenty a day but guess what guys,
your life's not over, you're going to meet new people all the time and you're going to
want to connect with them online. In order to do that, you're going to have to
make some room on Facebook, at least until further notice,
you've got a 5,000 friend cap on Facebook. Now your fan page, you can do
whatever you want with, you have as many followers as you want in fact, one
of the reasons that we get a Facebook up to 5,000 friends is so that you increase
your followers. When you become a figure and the public figure and become seen,
that's going to happen more and more and more often and that happens with
everyone who has a 5,000 friend count on Facebook because Facebook loves that
you're using Facebook, Facebook loves that you have 5,000 friends, Facebook
loves that you're connecting so they're just going to give you more and more bells
and whistles, more and more features. Go to your profile from 1 to 3 months after
being at that 5,000 Facebook friends mark and here's what you're going to find,
you're going to find that you're not quite at 5,000 anymore, you've got some
accounts that have been removed, you got people that have left Facebook and I'm
betting you even have some fake people on Facebook that got called on it and
got removed so you're going to have a little bit less than 5,000 and no doubt
you're going to have a very full inbox of friend requests so now we need to get
rid of the Facebook friendships that aren't really working for us and fill
your Facebook feed with interactive quality friendships. What you're going to
want to do is when you click on your friendship feed, at the very top, you're
going to see your most active friends. Again, Facebook is all about keeping you
happy on Facebook so it's going to show you most what it thinks you want to see and
it determines what it thinks you want to see on who you're interacting with most
on Facebook so if you've got a bestie and your star friends and you're getting
notifications for all your posts and your commenting back and forth all the
time, you're going to see that person at the very top of your list. You're also
going to see facebook relationships at the top of your list, anyone that you've
told Facebook that your relative of or a close friend of or a back up contact for,
they are going to be the top of your list so ignore all of that, scroll
straight to the bottom, get all of those common friends and those amazing
friendships out of the way and go to the stuff at the very bottom,
those are your least active interactions. You're going to want to message those
people, actually find out that they're you know hanging around on Facebook. If
you don't hear back or if the appropriate account's been removed
or if the account has been shut down by Facebook, it may show up as one of your
friends but you're going to want to delete most of those users. Sorry, guys,
you got to make room for the top quality relationships in your life and you do
that by removing the icky ones so remove most of those the bottom hundred, the
bottom 200, maybe even the bottom 500, you're going to go through and get rid
of those friendships from Facebook. What you're doing at that point is you're
going into your friendship requests and clicking on those. Now you're going to ask
those people questions. If you don't know them in person, you're going to ask them
questions. Here's what I typically do on Facebook, if I've got a whole list of
friendship requests, I actually have a seven filter system that I put them
through. I'm looking at their profile picture, does it meet my standard? Maybe,
maybe not. If not, out you go. Does the banner picture meet me my standard? If that
banner picture is kind of weird or a little bit appropriate or a lot of
inappropriate, out you go, you're not being my friend on Facebook, I get to be
super picky because I have limited real estate for my friends. I'm also checking
our friend count and the quality of the friends we have in common, if the friend
count in common, maybe it's 298 mutual friends but I don't know any of those
people personally, not necessarily a boot but it is a red flag. Now I'm checking
the quality of those friendship. Do I know most of the people you know
personally? Maybe you just moved into the community where I am and you'd made a
bunch of friends and they're all friends on Facebook or maybe I just moved into
that community and there's a bunch of mutual friends and we could be real
friends face-to-face but I don't know anyone yet,
that's a possibility. Again, not getting rid of them just a red fly. I'm also
going to check their content, I'm going to scroll through their timeline, I'm
looking for a couple of things here, before I accept a friend request for
someone, I'm looking to see if their content is old. Yeah, I want old content,
that means it's not a new spam account. If you want a giant red flag waving in
your face, look at a Facebook account with a bad or a missing profile picture
and account history that doesn't have anything on it that's older than a
or three, that is a clue to me that that account could be fraudulent, not every
time, maybe it's just someone that doesn't know how to use Facebook and
they're brand new to it but keep that in mind as you're going through their feed
so check how old the content is. Next, check the quality of the content. I'm all
about having quality relationships in my life especially since my space is
limited on Facebook so check the quality of the content. Do you see bad words? Do you
see bad images? Do you see negativity? Do you see bashing or
slamming or anything that you wouldn't want on your feed? If you don't want it on
your feed, again, that's not necessarily you know, unless it is for you, if it is a
no for you, don't accept the friend request, if it's not a no, you do have the
option to ignore or mute to the person so you're not seeing their stuff in your
feed but you can still stay connected online. So those are the things you're
going to want to watch out for when you're looking for new friends on Facebook and
you're going through that new friends requests, you're going to check every
single one. One of the most important things you can do with a new friend
request, if it's someone that you don't know in person, you haven't seen the real
whites of their eyes in person, I always always always send them a message.
I'm going to see how they respond or if they respond and it's just a simple
message that goes like this, "Hey, I got your friend request on Facebook. How did
we get connected?" Because I want to know how they know me, I want to know if
they're a customer of mine, if they saw myself online, I want to know if we're in
the same communities together, I want to know if we both have a daughter in the
same dance class, I want to know how we got connected and if either they don't
respond for a long time or they spam me or they don't tell me or they send me
the weird "Hey, how are you?" If you've been on Facebook for any amount of time, you
have gotten those messages, I commiserate. If they don't pass my message test, they
don't get at it as a friend. Even if they pass all seven of those filters,
they're going to get added to an acquaintance list for me. When you add a
friend, you have the option to categorize those friends under close friends in
which case, they're going to get a star and you're going to get notifications every
time they post or they're going to be a normal friend which in case they're just
going to be as much as you see them is based on how much you interact with them
or they're going to be called an acquaintance. You can also create your
own subcategories and create your own filter
but those three are built in. An acquaintance is a really great filing
system that I use to keep my clients that I don't know personally in a
different category. Just like a CRM software, just like when you can send an
email out to a specific group of people you can do the same thing on Facebook by
only posting to certain categories of people, public posting means that
everybody sees it, posting only to friends means that only
your friends that you're personally linked with on Facebook see it and
posting to friends except acquaintances removes acquaintances from that category
so file them where you feel is appropriate, it takes a couple extra
seconds per person, don't feel like you have to go through your entire history
unless you have nothing to do on an entire rainy weekend and then it can go
categorize everyone in your Facebook feed but the most important thing to
keep in mind when you have 5,000 friends on Facebook is to get picky. Be picky
about the friends that you have, be picky about the real estate that you have
online, be picky about what you see in your newsfeed, be picky about the people
that you interact with and once you're done being picky, interact with the
people, talk to the people, see how active your Facebook feed is. My guess is that
less than 10% of your Facebook friendship especially if you're at 5,000
are people that you actually see posts from on a regular basis so only be
friends with the more active members of the community and that's how you create
great relationships online so congratulations for hitting your 5,000,
start to get picky and start to clear the air of your amazing feed and find
people you really want to interact with online. If you love them, you must let
them go. Guys, it's time to get the most quality interactions online, it's time to
stop wasting your time online and things that aren't working for you so now that
you know how to clean out that friends list and find the people that you want
to hang around with, you're going to build some amazing relationships and on top of
that, some amazing business results. Hit the subscribe button. I'll see you tomorrow.