﻿When Women Say One Thing But Mean Another [0:00:00]
I’m fine. I am fine. I’m fine. I am fine. So, we’re starting things off with the dreaded,
“I’m fine.” What exactly does she mean? Gents, unless she says it like this,
“Yeah, no problem. I’m fine.” Understand that this can mean a lot of things and
usually it does not mean that she is fine. Now, seriously, the literal translation coming
from Latin, even before that ancient Sanskrit clearly said, “I am not fine. And if you’re
not going to agree with what I said or what I want, you are in big trouble, mister.”
I get it, gents, women are very, very difficult to figure out. [sound effect]
In today’s video, I’m going to try to make it a little bit easier by laying out things that women
commonly say versus what they actually mean. [Music]
Now, gents, this video is made and just having a little bit of fun here, but it’s interesting,
I read from a woman named, Joyce. She’s an engineer who grew up in the 1960’s
and I really like what she had to say. She talked about how women used to be raised
to not be aggressive. As such, they were told not to directly bring things up. So,
it made a lot of sense from her point of view of why a lot of women say one thing, but mean
another. They were just simply raised in a way that they couldn’t be direct with their partner.
And, you know, the more I think about it, it doesn’t just apply to women,
this is also something a lot of men are guilty of, because when it comes down to it,
if you’re afraid to confront or you don’t want to come off as aggressive,
you are going to find other ways to get your point across. Oftentimes, it’s not with words,
but with the emotion that’s conveyed. So, the next phrase you’ll often hear is,
“Do whatever you want.” Now, again, this one sounds simple, do whatever you want,
if you take the English version of it. But, this actually comes from ancient Hebrew and it
clearly means, do not do whatever you want. No, you need to stop right now and consider
what you’re about to do because if you do whatever you want, you ain’t get nothing tonight.
Now, the scholars are not sure exactly what women are referring to there because, again, they say
one thing, but mean another. But, seriously, guys, you got to pay attention to the emotional state
here, because sometimes she will say, “Yeah, honey, that’s great. Do whatever you want.”
Now, understand, this response has to be taken in context because she’s hanging out
with your friends, you know, she doesn’t want to go anywhere and you have already done some
things for her for the day, then, yeah, you’re probably free to actually go do what you want.
But, if all of a sudden she gives you that look, yeah, you know what look I’m talking about,
the one that will cut through steel. It’s like a laser. Guys, understand that you
are threading on very dangerous ground. Now, this next set of words is something
a lot of guys hate hearing because you’ve been having a great time,
chemistry is awesome and you’re getting hot and heavy and she says, “I want to take it slow.”
All right. So, it sucks when you hear this, but what does it actually mean? Well,
guys, it pops up in various cultures and it usually means the red river is flowing. So,
I don’t want you going down there. It could also mean I’m not ready and the bushes
around the house are not trimmed. Or it could just be that she’s not ready and her parents are in the
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Awesome company, proud to support them. Next up, we’ve got the very confusing,
“I’m almost ready.” I mean seriously, what does this one even mean when they throw in that word,
almost, that’s what throws us off. Us, men, when we talk I will be ready
in 2.5 minutes, I will be ready in 90 seconds. Actually, I love telling people I’ll be there in
8 minutes because it’s a little bit off, it’s very specific, and I usually find that it forces me
to really think how long am I going to be. But, no, women use that word, almost,
understand that this can mean 15 minutes, it could mean literally an hour. Anyone that has
grown up with sisters, understands that they start using this at an early age.
[0:05:02] I had a four-year old
that was using this and I’m like, where does this even come from? And I realized, yeah, she’s got
a beautiful mom and sisters that use it as well. Now, related to I’m almost ready is the next one,
I have nothing to wear. This, despite the fact that she has two closets of clothing. But,
when she says this, what she’s indicating is that all of my clothing is laid out on the bed, tons of
it is on the floor, some of it is probably dirty and down getting washed and I can’t find that
outfit that’s going to make me look like a million bucks, especially right now as I am going through
that time of the month and I feel bloated. So, instead of saying all that, she just says,
you know, I can’t find anything to wear. And, you, simply are wearing your uniform. You’ve been
following Real Men Real Style dressing sharp. You could walk into your closet and get dressed
blindfolded, but she has yet to find a channel equivalent to mine.
And if they’re, yeah, I mean, really when it comes down to it, guys,
short of me creating a style channel for women, I don’t even know how to solve this one.
Now, if you work with a lot of women, you may have heard this one and it goes like this, “I like him,
but.” So, I mean, they said they actually do like the person. And understand, when they
say this they may actually like him, but their definition of like is very different than ours.
When we like someone that usually means that especially, you know, the opposite
sex or same sex whatever, like, we would probably want to, yeah, have
fun and bone them. But, women don’t mean that. In fact, when they say they only like somebody,
that means that in no way would they ever have sex with this person. It’s not their type, he
isn’t attractive to them, and he probably has, you know, some other issues like bad breath.
This guy has no chance in hell of ever ending up with them, but they don’t want to be mean,
so they say that they like him. If they really, really like somebody,
they’re going to throw in those adjectives and they’re usually going to say it with a
lot more gusto. Again, hard to interpret and when you hear this, just hope that,
you know, your name doesn’t pop up. Next up, we’ve got the mysterious,
“You know, I don’t really care where we eat.” Understand, gents, that this is a trap. You guys
have been together for six months, you’ve taken her to probably like twenty different places
and guess what? She has her favorites and she expects you to know the top three and to
be able to recite them to her and then, she will choose. That’s what she really means.
And the sooner you figure that out, the sooner all of a sudden you’re going to say,
“You know what? I can direct this by putting my top three in there as well.” And, yeah,
you can kind of control the direction of what you’re eating to a degree, right?
Now, things are going really well, she may say, “You know, I’m not like other girls.” Now,
you being a molecular biologist say, “Of course not, every single organism on this
planet is unique.” That’s not what she means. She means that all the other women that you’ve
dated, all the other women that you know understand that she expects to be treated
differently. She believes that she could possibly be the one, that she is well worth
your time and attention and that she wants it. I’m not saying this is a bad thing. I’ve been
in a relationship with a woman for over twenty years who’s given me five beautiful children and
I’m very happily married. But, yeah, when they say that, it can actually be a good thing that,
okay, things are, yeah, progressing nicely. However, if things are not progressing nicely,
she may say, “I’ve got nothing to say to you.” Now, understand when she uses that tone,
she actually has a lot to say to you. There’s a lot on her mind.
Again, I think this is ancient Samarian and it’s very clear that she needs actually twelve
to fourteen hours of your time in which you are just going to sit and listen,
not offer advice. Yeah, she just wants to spew and spout and get this off of her mind.
So, I try to, you know, prevent this by actually making time every day just to let my wife talk
for fifteen minutes when we have coffee. And let me expand on that, we need to talk,
because I’ve had this happen to me quite a few times early on in my marriage. And
I seriously thought that we were going to have a conversation. She would maybe present
some problems and me trying to be the helpful husband, I would provide solutions. That’s just
simply the way I think a lot of us guys think. Women on the other hand oftentimes want to talk
things out. And, again, it’s not women, I mean, there’s men as well who like to talk things out.
But, I find that in my experience, me, I’m kind of an introvert.
I don’t see myself as someone that needs to talk through things. I think through things,
I write them out and journal and then, I say what I need to say
and I expect it to be taken at face value. My wife on the other hand,
she will talk and talk and we will have a nice twenty-minute coffee and she will speak for
nineteen minutes and thirty seconds. And I will speak for thirty seconds mostly nodding my head,
listening, trying to take a few notes like saying, okay, this is what’s going on.
And at the end of it, I just get a hug and a thank you for listening. She didn’t want
me to solve her problems even though the answer is simply obvious. She didn’t want to hear that
and so, you’ve got to understand if you’re going to be in a long term relationship,
when they want to talk, oftentimes they just want someone actually to listen to them.
Gents, what did I miss? Let me know in the comments below. I want to hear from you.
And what video to watch next? Do women prefer masculine men or feminine men? Ah, find out,
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Go check out if you haven’t had the chance to watch it. Yeah, it’s – it’s worth your time.
Boom, click it, Go check it out. It’s good. [0:10:11] End of audio