How to keep a relationship alive. My name is Coach Adrian and welcome
TO HAPPILY COMMITTED
The topic of how to keep a relationship alive is one that I'm quite frankly very
very familiar with. We made our mark helping couples get back together and
I've seen a lot of individuals over the years figure out ways to reinvent their
relationship after a breakup a separation or a divorce. But we've
realized that that wasn't good enough. We weren't impacting the world in the
way that we wanted. We wanted to be able to help more people all over the world
who are still in relationships, not just wait for the relationship to die out, not
just wait to keep it alive but to help you reignite it, to create the
relationship that you've always wanted. So how do you go about doing that when
you've settled, when you found a routine, when you've both became complacent and
when it feels like the love, the honeymoon phase of the relationship is
way behind you and everything feels stale and dull. What do you do?
The first advice that I have for you is to make sure that you fix and address
the small issues as quickly as you can. Don't brush things under the rug. It's
very important to not let small issues start to pile up because then they
become big burdensome issues that annoy you. That's how I've seen so many
couples wake up one day and realize that they despised everything about their
partner - because they did not address the small issues along the way. There are two
sorts of issues in a relationship, there are core fundamental differences that
cannot be resolved and there are small issues that need to be addressed right
away, and it's very important for you to understand what types of issues you're
dealing with and to address them in the best possible way.
Second of all, it's very important to remember the big picture - why did you
fall for each other in the first place? What are you fighting for?
Remember the key fundamental reasons why you guys were attracted to one another
and continue to nurture that bond, that connection. Relationships aren't perfect
it's not meant to be easy, but they're tremendously rewarding when you fight
the good fight, when you're able to weather the storm together, when you're
able to grow through pain and hardships. So it's important for you to remember
the big picture and to be able to appreciate and understand why you guys
were together in the first place and to grow through the pain and
adversity that you will no doubt experience whether you're single or in a
relationship life has a funny way of throwing you curveballs tests and
challenges in order for you to grow. And when you're able to weather those tests
and challenges as a couple, your bond is consolidated as a result of that. So
remember the big picture. It's not meant to be easy and it's not meant to be
picture-perfect either.
Romance! Romance - you have to be focused on creating small memorable moments.
It doesn't take money it just takes effort and a genuine desire to make the
other person happy. A genuine desire to be selfless and to create a bond with
this person that you love. Small moments are what make up and define our lives.
And it's up to you to ensure that you create small moments on a very - on a
regular basis so that the relationship doesn't become dull. Instead, So that you
guys have many things to celebrate.
You also need to ensure that you nurture physical intimacy. After a while it
becomes easy to not connect with your partner. Perhaps you feel like you've
done it all in bed together. Perhaps you're tired of, you know,
connecting with this person over and over and over again. But physical
intimacy is a very important aspect of any relationship and I urge you to put
in the effort to spice things up, to keep things exciting and to be selfless also
so that you guys can continue to consolidate your bond and not fall into
the common pitfalls that we see with many people in many - in the many
different relationships that we are exposed to on a daily basis and coaching
sessions
Finally it is absolutely essential for you to accept your partner's changes
along the way. You have to come to the realization that the person that you
signed up to be with is not the person that you're gonna be with forever. I'm
pretty sure you figured that one out by now. Life is a journey and nothing is
ever still, fixed. We as human beings continue to grow and your partner is
going to continue to grow. Let them reinvent themselves, just
like you will continuously reinvent yourself. And once there is this
acceptance of who they are through the multiple journeys and chapters of their
lives, you guys will be able to reinvent your relationship as well and for the
bond to continue to be more consolidated and stronger. That's what we're about.
That's what we've dedicated this project to - helping you figure out ways to create
the relationship you want. I urge you to join our movement, to subscribe to our
YouTube channel, to leave your comments in the comment section below, and connect
with other people around the world who want to live out passion, intimacy and
happiness in their healthy happy committed relationships as well. Again,
you know where to find us - happilycommitted.com - you'll discover a bunch
of articles, tools, videos, programs to help you reach your goals. I'm Coach
Adrian, thank you for sharing this time with me
and see you soon for another video