Hey guys, it's me Veralyn.
So, this probably doesn't come as any surprise to you, but
our economy is pretty bad. A lot of us are unemployed
and even those of us that are employed making ends meet is a challenge, because
everything from transportation to our groceries
cost so much. So with that in mind
I wanted to know how does the reality of our economy
affect our dating and relationships?
I like to do three events date. Basically, three events is dinner,
gotta love food. Um, a movie or some kind of
theater and some kind of action. I thought like bowling
um, some interactive, um
miniature golf, something interactive. So it's three versions.
That gets expensive, so now I scaled it back
as to maybe one or two events. Maybe
we just get food and then a movie.
We don't do the extra, um, stuff.
I do notice that the one big thing is that discussions of money is different.
Um, cause when he spends a lot of money my comment is
we shouldn't be going out on a big expensive date
cause we need to be saving up our money. We don't go nowhere, that's another option.
Lot's-lot's of TV, uh, we actually have found out a lot about each other's tv taste
because we are in- in watching Hulu
on netflix.-Netflix, shout out to them.
Personally me, I-I'll try to get by is basically, um,
I use discounts, I have the triple A membership, I use that discount
Everything I go, I try to find discounts in.
You know, shout to groupon. Shout out to livingsocial
Yes. All of those home runs. All the ones I get, even the ones I don't use.
Um, I was still able to, like, you know, like, find somethings I can't afford.
you know sometimes you won't go out
so um, you know it's definitely about about finding out what you can do with the budget that you have.
When it comes to budgeting for date expenses
men are traditionally expected to carry that burden
alone, and for me first date of course that's the case.
Well what about the second date on? Given the economy,
are women now expected to go half on whatever?
Um, dutchin' is cool
but I think it should be one of those things where I pay for dinner
you pay for movies, and not just, I dunno, I just feel like it should be that kinda
conversation going in - Yeah
and not a surprise. -Yes. So the things is that you see
how you mention fifty-fifty, I know I've heard some, um, women who
wouldn't even entertain that thought. You meant to go in dutch?
Your out the door. Do you think that now that the economy is so rough
that girls kinda need to step it up or women need to step it up? - I am
very traditional in that sense for so many other things in the world
I like him to pay even if I balance it out by paying for the cab there and back
and we each pay the same amount total date. I think he should be the one
should offer to pay for dinner. Um, he should offer to pay for the cab though
that's the point at which I would step in and say no I'll pay for it.
After the date
if you're getting hot and heavy birth control is another expense to keep in mind.
How has the economy affected your best control? So we're gonna get into the economics of birth control.
Um, I think that the big difference so insurance
usually like, it's a thirty dollar co-pay. So when you're balancing it out
a lot of times it comes out cheaper to just buy condoms. Um, especially when you buy
cheap condoms which before I would never have gone for, but when money's tight
just take the free ones even though they suck a lot more.
I know this is some troubling times and trying times, but I mean condoms are like
five bucks and if you can't afford that I believe that they're giving it free all over the place.
Like clinics. -Yeah.
I don't take economics. - The New York Times or the five and
six train on them in the black, you know. -Right, right right.
I mean, they're free all over the place. I don't think economics shouldn't even be
involved, but I mean if you prefer a certain brand then you know
you have to figure out, you know, how to, you know, purchase that.
It looks like regardless of how hard times are that's one place you don't
compromise on. -No honestly, like, it's
15 fifteen dollars for a box of condoms. Right?
But, then I think about how much would it cost
if I had a kid. Then I think about even worse what it would cost me if I had
a disease.
-Uhuh, or even if you guys decided to terminate
you know, the pregnancy. That costs money too. -Yeah, you know, it's a lot of different things that
actually all those things, all those risks
that could happen if I had unprotected sex are actually much more cost worthy
then if I just put on a condom and just go about my business.
So what's the walkway? Well one, when it comes to birth control
condom seems to be the most accessible and inexpensive way to go,
but many people do qualify for free contraceptives.
Some of which can be more effective than condoms at preventing pregnancy.
And two dating in this economy, totally possible.
We all just need to be realistic about our budget and be creative
meaning find that free or amazing deal online
and make it happen.