Hey guys what's up!
Wait.
Wait? -Let's do a couple intro.
A couple intro? -Yes.
You know others have them. Lilke a ship name and then...
"Hi, I'm Dongin."
Yea because others have a ship name. We don't.
Hey I'm Dongin.
And I'm Farina!
Welcome! To....
So what we're doing today is...
I asked you guys or rather the girls among you on my community post and in my IG story
to send me any question that you were too afraid to ask a guy before
so Dongin can answer them for you today.
Hi, I'm Dongin! I'm a guy.
A man... a male...
I'll try my best to answer all the questions.
Of course you can not always generalize
I'm excited. I never knew that there was so much of a mystery. You know?
Was there never anything you wanted to know about girls?
I think I've always wondered...
What it's like to have boobs.
Well, it's not that special.
No? -No.
It just feels like having arms or legs basically.
Like a second pair of arms?
Yea. But you can't grab anything with them.
That's amazing!
But you have boobs. -That's different!
So there were quite a few questions. Over 4000 to be exact.
I picked the most popular and the most interesting ones.
And I'd say let's get started.
Ok number 1. Does the height of a girl matter to most guys?
I think so, yes.
I think for most guys it matters. -I think so too.
Many guys don't like to be shorter than their girl.
For me it doesn't matter.
Like somtimes when you wear those really tall highheels, you're like 1,90m.
About 1,90m right...
So she's taller than me then. And I don't have a problem with that but-
I think it's kinda cute actually.
Yea you know... -I like it. To be taller than you.
That guy... Joe Jonas doesn't have a problem with that either.
That's true.
You know? Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner.
Yea Sophie Turner right!
But I think... that's an issue.
I think most guys, if I generalize...
Most guys want to be taller than their girlfriend.
Next one...
Do guys feel annoyed when their girlfriends have moodswings when they're on their period?
I think it does depend...
Personally what matters to me is...
If... if I know that it's because of your period.
Or if it's just... I have to know if I did something wrong you know?
If I don't have any idea why you're upset, then of course I get kinda...
It's stressful right? -Yea then it's stressful sometimes.
But if I know that it's because of your hormones and your period.
Then I understand... -You're very caring actually!
I'm very caring.
I'm very caring and careful.
Careful?? -Yea!
So, do guys get annoyed if their girlfriend is on their period?
Some, if they don't understand.
But luckily you do. -I do.
Another period question.
Are guys disgusted by their girlfriend's period?
For me it doesn't really matter.
But I think a lot of guys are.
That's what I hear from other guys.
I think some are kinda put off by the idea.
It's just a natural thing-
Of course it's just a natural thing. For me it doesn't matter.
It's just like... -Like a nosebleed. Basically.
Not even. It's like peeing or pooping. Like something that just happens.
Every girl does it.
So again it does depend on the man himself.
But some immature guys...
I know some... I do have some guy friends that are...
They don't like the idea of women... excreting stuff.
Like pooping or something.
Yea yeah... -That's a no-go for them.
Girls do poop actually.
Yes they do. A lot.
They do poop. -All of them.
If you eat, you poop. That's just how it is. -Right!
Next one.
Why do guys act different with their girl, when they're with their friends.
Yeah, that's interesting. I used to do that a little bit. -In the beginning.
It's like... it really does depend on the person and the relationship also.
If you have a very intimate relationship with your significant other,
ideally, you open up emotionally.
Among guys that's like.. -A no-go!
Yea, that's something that doesn't really happen much.
Unless you're really drunk.
And having this significant other with whom you have this emotional bond going on.
And this intimacy.
Bringing them to your group of friends...
I think that's why this kind of stuff happens.
A lot of guys are afraid to show emotion.
I guess it's because it's considered 'weak' and all that kind of stuff.
I think that's why it happens.
Are men embarrassed to buy sanitary products for their girl?
Why would you be embarrassed about that?
I know you're not.
I know... I remember all your products you use.
I'm a pro. -He knows all of them.
I always get the right brand. The right size. The right scent. -He really does.
Right? -Yea!
I'm never embarrassed about it because... why would I? It's just... I don't know why.
It's just like buying toilet paper basically. -Yes!
Maybe some guys give off the impression because...
Maybe they're embarrassed because they don't know about that stuff?
Yea. Maybe they're afraid? -Because they feel kinda lost in that section.
If you're not a pro like me. -True.
I navigate through everything and get these little... -I taught him all they ways.
The thing with the wings. You know? -The thing with the wings?? -Yea.
The winged ones! They're always the best.
They're always the best??
Always.
"always" (brand of mentrual hygiene products) the best.
"Always"- sponsorship coming in.
Next question!
Other than looks, what is the first thing a guy might find attractive in a girl?
Personality is the first thing.
But I think personality is not something that you can notice very quickly.
You can't judge very quickly. -Yea.
For me... voice. -The voice?
Voice. -Oh really? -Yea.
So when we first talked on the phone to each other, did you like my voice?
I love your voice!
The voice and the way people talk.
I think you get a rough idea about their personality from the way they talk.
I also loved your voice when I first heard it actually.
Hello! Hi! -Okay.
I was like... "HOYY"
No.
Okay next one.
Really interesting question.
Does your....
Does your "thing" jiggle uncomfortably when running?
Yea interesting question.
I actually had this issue a few weeks ago.
So... you do know we have... something... -A thing.
Hanging there.
A p****
and b****
So if you run...
it does jiggle. Yeah.
It does jiggle... Is it uncomfortable though?
That depends. It only jiggles if... I think it's the same with sports bras.
Right.
You know, boobs jiggle. -It kinda hurts.
Yea, if we're running without wearing a sports bra it kinda hurts.
So if you run and you wear really loose pants.
Then it does jiggle.
It's not so much about the p**** itself.
It's like... it's...
The b****. You know? -No!
No, don't say that! -Cause they're sensitive and they're like...
Yea. That can be uncomfortable.
It does jiggle uncomfortably if you're running naked or with really loose underwear. -Naked???
But if you have the right pants then it doesn't matter.
How do you feel walking around with your girl, when she's looking good and guys are staring?
I like it when you look extra good. You always do, of course.
Thank you.
But umm...
I think it depends on the intentions of other guys staring.
If they just appreciate respectfully...
then it's no problem.
But if I feel like they're objectifying and sexualising...
And all that disrespectful s***.
Then I'm...
Then I'm ready to fight.
Yea you are.
Do guys often have dirty thoughts of their girl?
Sometimes. -Sometimes?
Maybe. Maybe sometimes.
I think it's normal.
But only appropriate dirty thought.
Only like... very respectful dirty thoughts.
Next one.
Is it important that a girl shaves her legs or does it not matter?
I don't care. I don't shave my legs.
I have to say. I do think most guys actually do not like bodyhair on women.
Which is very hypocritical, considering that most of them look like apes.
I do think most guys don't like bodyhair. On women.
I don't like bodyhair on myself actually.
It's your body, so do what you want.
What are some skinships that guys are comfortable with among guys?
Yea that also depends on...
the person and also the culture.
You see guy friends in Korea holding hands. -It's really cute actually.
And in western culture... -You don't see that.
That is... yea you don't really see that.
Except for couples.
I also don't hold hands with guy friends.
I don't like... I don't hold hands with anyone apart from you.
Now we're getting to a very interesting question.
Do you guys show your thing to other guys to compare your size?
Why would you do that?
I think you often see it in movies?
That's... that's weird. No.
I have never seen that happening nor would I ever think about doing it.
It's... that's weird.
It's really weird. -Why would you....
No...NOO!!
Can you imagine?
Coming up to some other guy and be like "Yo, let's compare sizes!". -Naked.
It's just weird.
Does anyone actually do that?
If you're at the gym and changing and stuff.
You do see a lot of unexpected genitalia there.
It does happen. -Unexpected??
People are changing. People are showering. People are naked.
That's what happens.
But I think it's an unspoken rule.
First. You don't stare.
At other guy's p****.
Like sometimes you see it.
Like in the corner of your eye or something.
Sometimes you just can't avoid it you know?
You're like tying your shoe and someone at your heads level.
Just stands there and takes their pants off.
And it's just there you know? But you try not to see it.
So I don't think people would go out their way and compare sizes.
No, that's dumb.
What does it mean when a guy flirts but at the same time acts like he doesn't want you?
He's playing. -Yeah.
He's playing you. He's playing games.
Mind games. Power games. -Most definitely.
That's just... -Toxic behaviour.
Yeah. But I think girls do that too. -Definitely.
They like to have someone- -It's not just guys.
They like to leave people on the hook.
They don't like them but they want to be liked.
And they want the attention, that power position.
They keep on contacting you I guess but...
But they put them on reserve or something.
That's not a guy thing. -No. It's not a guy thing.
It's just toxic behaviour.
Toxic people thing.
Is there a compliment that a guy really wants to hear?
Generally speaking, I do think guys like to hear things that makes them feel manly.
Manly? -Yea.
Like "Woah you're so buff!".
'Strong', 'brave'... this kind of stuff.
Dependable.
What would you like to hear? -Me?
I like to be called pretty.
Pretty.
No, I think what stuck with me a lot is that 'strong' thing.
You know? Growing up... In Korean it called 'Ssanai' (사나이)
I like to be strong but... at the same time I don't wanna be grouped with this whole 'toxic masculinity' thing.
Why do boys in general find it so hard to express themselves and their feelings?
Is it because of toxic masculinity?
Yes. It is definitely because of toxic masculinity.
I think it's also a societal thing.
Boys grow up having to be strong and manly, you know? This kind of stuff.
And feelings are weak.
Feelings are for women. You don't show feelings.
I think this also puts a lot of pressure on guys, which makes them so toxic.
Because you know... actually a lot more women take care of their mental health compared to men.
But I don't think that it's women having more mental health problems.
I think it's around the same.
But men just cope in other ways.
It's not really coping, it's just building up stuff. -A wall.
That's why they do all this stupid stuff.
Thank you very much for your insights.
Yes. I know they were a little bit unhelpful
but I tried my best. -Unhelpful?
Any final words?
Toxic masculinity... is toxic. -Right.
It sucks. -True.
Stop it.
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