Matt: You're friends with the hot girl that you've known for years and you finally
want to make your move. Or maybe there's that one girl in your social circle that
treats you like a friend and you want to know how to turn that friendly vibe into
something more romantic or sexual. You're in luck, because I'm Mat Artisan
and this is three simple steps to get you out of the friend zone!
We've done all the testing. We know what works.
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Let me break it to you - there's hope! You can turn things around in many
situations. But first keep in mind that it's good to have fun female friends
that can be your wing girls or introduce you to their hot friends.
Shannon: You should really just gauge your relationship with this person.. Because sometimes we put you
in the friend zone because that's where we want to keep you. Not that we're not
interested, but there's a ton of factors that perhaps.. It's just not going to
happen relationship wise, so we'd rather keep you as a friend than try to make a
relationship and get it all icky! And then we lose you for good.
Matt: Another point before we get into the tactics is that sometimes when you feel stuck in the
friend zone, it just means that you're focusing too much on one particular
woman, and the best advice is to get out there and meet new women. It's usually a
lot easier to meet a new woman and start that flirty, romantic vibe from the very
beginning than it is to turn a friendly vibe that you've had for months, or even
years into something sexual. However, if you still decide that you want to turn
that hottie friend of yours into a lover, then I'm gonna break it down to you step
by step. First you need to understand what got you into the friend zone in the
first place. Most guys get themselves into this situation by being too nice,
too passive, and too afraid to show their desire for her. In other words, they
weren't being a f*****g man. Look, if we examine the type of men that women
instinctively want to sleep with, it's the guys that own their masculinity and
aren't ashamed to show their desire for a woman that they like. Think about it,
most men are attracted to very feminine women right? Well in the same context,
most women are attracted to very masculine men, guys that say and do what
they want, guys that don't take shit from anyone, guys that aren't looking for her
approval, and guys that don't apologize for their romantic interest in a woman
they desire. So what do you need to do differently? Well, the easy answer is that
you need to move from a "friendly" vibe into a more "lover" vibe..
And stop being a man that's afraid to show his desire for women.
However, that doesn't mean that you should totally transform who you are and
how you act around her overnight. That would just be really weird. If next time
you see her you're acting all flirty and touchy and making a bunch of sexual
innuendos, it might make her feel deeply disturbed and creep her out. You can't change
who you are that quickly, it has to feel more natural. However, you do need to make
a change, but it should happen over an extended period of time. Let me be
upfront - this will take discipline. But if you're serious about getting out of the
friend zone, this is how to do it. One thing you can do to subtly show your
interest is very casually make a comment about her appearance, something like:
"By the way you look really awesome in this outfit." It may not seem like much, but
making simple statements like this can actually make her think and feel
differently about you. Just don't blow it by confessing that you've been in love
with her for ten years!
*Deeply Regretful Crying*
If you want to be really bold, then next time you're alone with her say something
like this: "You know what? You're actually kind of sexy." This should seem like a new
realization for you. You don't want her to think that you've always had a
hard-on for her. Next, I recommend touching her more. Start with
casual touching and just see how she responds. If she seems to like it then
just keep progressing. I made a whole video on how to touch women and the
Youtube link is down in the description. So make sure to check that out. Remember
to take away the touch, don't let it linger. She's not your
girlfriend yet, that's just creepy. Next, slowly start adding some sexual
tension to the mix. This shouldn't seem too obvious, just slowly start turning
the conversation sexual so that she starts seeing you as a more sexual man.
Within the right context, maybe you could ask her what her favorite position is, or
craziest place she's ever had sex. Or tell her a story about a girl that
you've slept with. If you've already gradually started to
establish a more flirtier vibe, the barrier to make such comments will drop
as she's now more used to your flirtier and more sexual attitude. Casually
showing your interest, increasing your touching, and creating sexual tension by
introducing sexual topics can often morph the tone of your relationship over
time. And if you're getting good indicators that she likes your new
flirty demeanor, then it's time to make your move. I recommend that you go for a
kiss when you're alone with her, and in a more sexually charged environment like a
bar, club, or party.
The kiss should not come out of nowhere. Make sure you're already flirting with
her, and she's being very receptive. A great time to do it is while you're
dancing with her. "I probably shouldn't do this, but f**k it"
So remember, be more flirty with her over time, if you do it too fast it might
scare her. And if that doesn't work, then just move on and meet more women. I mean
it's her loss anyway. Now if you just want to be better with women, I created a
free Escalation Cheat Sheet that lists some of the best ways to create sexual
tension, turn a girl on, and escalate to the bedroom. It's filled with advanced
escalation techniques that will turn a platonic friendly vibe into a more
sexual "I want to rip your clothes off!" vibe. This is very useful when you're
talking to girls and it's going nowhere. Click the image in the bottom right of
the screen right now to download your free Escalation Cheat Sheet. There's also
a link down in the description. Get it, because you'll want to keep it handy
before you go out. And if you're not already subscribed, hit that subscribe
button. And if you want us to work with you in-field, make sure to check out our
bootcamp schedule. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and I'll
see you in the next video.