Baby fever, take one. [SOUND]
So Mr. Hallease and I have been married for a minute, and we've been
doing the husband and wife thing.
We're just on that, trying to build a life with each other, grind.
But inevitably, we get asked the same question over and over again.
When are you all gonna have that first kid?
What are you all waiting for?
When are you gonna have that kid?
Why don't you have no kid yet?
Where's the kid?
Kid, kid, kid, kid, kid, kid.
And so, at first we would just kinda laugh off the question like,
[LAUGH]
When are we having kids?
[LAUGH]
One of these days. But now it's gotten to the point
where we're both just looking at people like, [BLACK INTENSE STARE]
And I think it's mostly annoying cuz people are just so bold with
how they ask the question.
They have this like, undertone to them
of like, how dare you?
How dare you not put your body through nine
months
of parasitic torture?
How dare you not make a 20-year commitment that cost a minimum of
$245,000, at this very moment?
How dare you not commit to that right
now? What are you waiting for?
Is something wrong with your spouse?
Like the male spouse, is there something wrong with what's
going down, down there?
First off, get out of my bedroom! I'll tell you what I'm waiting for!
I'm waiting for you to cut me that check for $80,000
to cover the
cost of a vaginal birth and pregnancy, okay? And the first five
years of child care!
I'm waiting for you to write me that check, that's
what I'm waiting for!
I'm waiting for that! Just to break
this down for you fam,
I'm an airforce brat, right? So when my parents
decided to have me, they said it cost them a smooth $150 to
birth me, and the only reason it cost that much was cuz I had to
stay in the
hospital a night. [LAUGH]
You all wanna know what the average cost of
a pregnancy is? $30,000.
$30,000. Let that sink in please. 30, y'all.
And so this isn't really affordable. And here's the thing,
I'm not against having babies,
children are a blessing. Jesus
said, bring all the children unto me.
Babies are cute. When I see
a cute baby, my cold heart softens.
You know what I'm saying?
I'm like, protect this innocent thing at all costs. Until it cries,
and then I'm like, where's your momma at?
I take the idea
of bringing a life into this world very seriously. It
freaks me
out how people are just so casual with that notion, of
like it's like going to the grocery store and picking out a bag of chips
or something.
No, we're talking about bringing in existence!
I was born into a very stable home.
My parents sacrificed a lot
for my sister and I to have a certain standard of living, which
includes paying for my entire college education.
I'll never stop
thanking my parents for that,
I graduated debt free. That's
something I would want to do for my children.
When I look back on my own life and I see everything my parents
had to do, I know at this point in my life,
that Mr.
Hallease and I cannot do that comfortably.
And I think the thing that upsets me the most about the entire situation,
or the question in general, is how society and our population at
large is trying to make me feel pressed and stressed about being
a responsible human being.
How you all gonna make me feel pressed about that?
How are you gonna be in my business talking about,
why have you not had a kid yet?
Why have you not made this life-altering commitment yet?
Because I know I'm not ready!
How're you gonna be mad at me for being responsible?
And also on a completely different note,
high key, I am not here
for the fetishization of mixed-race babies.
I'm just not here for that in any way, shape, or form,
and I see that often.
You all gonna have such beautiful mixed-race babies,
blah, blah, blah.
And I know, I know that they're talking about this idea of having these
olive-skinned, 3C, vibrant-eyes kid, and it's like, bruh, no! Fetishizing my
kid before they're even are in existence!
The kid,
a hypothetical kid, just like an egg and a sperm, and you're already
trying to just decide what they look like! For why?
Can my hypothetical kid just live?
Can my hypothetical kid just live, though? That's my question!
That's something that's been on my mind for a minute, just wanna come at
you all and let you all know
where I'm at. In the comments below let me
know, what are some things, what are some questions that you
are tired of hearing from the elders of your
family? And let me know
if you've had any awesome clap backs to people asking you questions
because I love it when people clap
back. [LAUGH]
And I'll see you when
I see you.
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