and so in this video i'm going to share how i built that muscle of saying
if you're watching this video you probably struggle saying no when someone offers you food
maybe it's a sibling maybe it's a parent maybe it's a significant other
but when they ask you hey do you want this food or maybe they even push you right you should eat
this no come on have have another bite oh it's a piece of cake you struggle for some reason
right and there's good reason behind it and so in this video we're going to dive into
how to say no to food so i remember a few years ago my aunt invited me over to a super bowl
party and it happened to be the month that i had decided to do a whole30 challenge with a friend
now whole30 is a very strict diet it's totally all natural foods you can't do any added sugars
you can't do any preservatives artificial flavors anything like that and so i got to the party and
what do you know it turns out that literally the only thing i could have there was the vegetables
not even the ranch included with the vegetables and so i felt guilty right like i am always one
to enjoy food when the time comes i structure my eating around being able to go out and enjoy
myself and so when she offered me food and i had to say no it made me feel really guilty made me
feel really shameful right like i wanted to enjoy her food i felt bad that she spent some time
buying the food she spent time cooking some of the food and i was saying no and i really learned
a valuable lesson there and so in this video i'm going to share how i built that muscle of saying
no i'm also going to give you a few tweaks that you can make to maybe potentially not have to
say no so let's begin how to say no when someone offers you food you ready no no thank you i'm fine
thanks okay so while that's obviously a little bit simplified because emotions get involved there is
some truth to that sometimes we overcomplicate sometimes we overthink and sometimes it really
is as simple as saying no now of course i want to expand on that a little bit so the first question
before we really get into the strategy behind saying no is why do you feel like you have to
say no so for some people it's because they're trying to stick to their diet and they're trying
to be perfect now i am a massive massive fan of fasting because i believe you can plan your fast
around certain events and so if you plan your fast you don't have to say no to foods so if you're
interested in learning how we help our clients use fasting check the link in the description
of this video for a guide we put together on the three strategies of helping simplify the
process of weight loss fasting weightlifting and mindfulness and how you can simply implement it
in your life now with that being said there still may be times where you have to say no
right if you're on a fast and an unexpected event comes up you probably have to learn to say no if
you're not fasting and you're still trying to just stick to it maybe you just don't want to
feel bad right maybe there's a food that you know is going to hurt your stomach or make you tired
and you just don't want to deal with that there's going to be time where you have to say no and so
when i sat down and i really started thinking about what strategies you can use to say no
there were three things that stuck out with me and that's what we're going to go over today so
strategy number one is going to be as simple as sitting the person down and having a conversation
so obviously there's a line here obviously it has to be a specific type of person like if you're
out at a party and someone you don't really know offers you food you can't just sit them down right
then and there and have a serious conversation but there is a time and a place with family
members with loved ones where you can sit them down and just explain to them explain the goals
that you have and explain how them pushing that is throwing you off course and it's pulling you back
i remember in college i was in my party phase and i had a friend who really didn't like drinking
and when we went out and we went to a bar i was like encouraging him i was like pushing
him like hey have another drink man it's fine and he was like no no thank you and i kept pushing and
i always lived by that mentality of not pulling others down but pushing them and helping them and
it wasn't until he literally had a conversation with me that i realized what i was actually doing
right it wasn't even in my radar that i was peer pressuring him and that i was pushing him to drink
and so if you can have a serious conversation with someone and really sit them down and open up
and come from the heart and of course not blame right not not say you know it's your fault i'm
still fat it's your fault i can't lose weight but really just have that conversation like look i i
have specific goals with changing my body and transforming my health and i know you probably
don't realize this but when you push me and when you you know you you keep pushing me to eat a
food or to eat more or to let loose a little bit it may not seem like a big deal but to me
and so i just ask you that you just bear with me a little bit and just support me right be okay with
me not having an extra piece of cake be okay with me you know not eating everything at the party and
just letting me be myself letting me stick to my goals and what you'll find is that by having that
conversation you may actually make a change just like that right the people who are pushing you
the most and saying oh it's just one extra drink oh it's just one extra piece of cake oh it's just
one bite they may immediately realize and you may never have to deal with that again and so that's
the first strategy that came to mind now like i said that has to be the right type of person if
you're going out with someone random it's someone you're not close with maybe it's someone you're
uncomfortable around having that conversation may not be the best thing and so i actually have a few
different strategies that i've used in the past that allow me to comfortably say no because if you
just say no i'm sticking to a diet a lot of people tend to push right like it's just one thing it's
not a big deal so what you can do instead is you can actually just say something as simple as you
know what no it's i'm i'm okay that food usually hurts my stomach because now you're bringing your
well-being into it rather than just like trying to stick to a diet long term another thing you could
say is uh no thank you i'm doing a challenge back in the day i was doing 30 day challenges every
few months and it was like this month i couldn't have sugar this month i couldn't have gluten and
when someone asked and they offered i i could just say like no thank you i'm i'm i appreciate it but
i'm actually doing this challenge right now and then people get interested right then they ask oh
what's the challenge why are you doing it and now you can expand and explain yourself a little more
now obviously don't lie but you could say like hey i'm doing a challenge where i'm going out to
an event and i'm challenging myself by not eating everything there or you know basically creating
some sort of challenge that you are planning on sticking to and that you are committing to and
then finally this is something that does have to be phrased right but you can just share you know
i'm working on getting healthy and i know it's one thing and i know it's not going to ruin my diet
but i've been really really consistent these past few days past few weeks and i just want
to keep that streak going i don't want to break it all right something as simple as that is just an
easy way to calm people down to not have people be offended and to just you know be okay with
saying no and make it easier and soften the blow of it so that's strategy number two so we've got
sitting down and having a conversation we've got you know saying something like i'm doing
a challenge or i'm on a winning streak i don't want to break that or hurts my stomach and then
the final strategy is honestly get comfortable being uncomfortable people are going to try to
put you down in life we are hardwired as human beings to want to connect with people and if they
feel like you're going above them if they feel like you're doing something different than them
their main goal is going to want to pull you back right it's the crab in a bucket mentality if a
bunch of crabs are in a bucket and one tries to climb out the crabs in the bucket's first
instinct is to grab that crab that's trying to get out and to pull them back and it's just how
most human beings are wired and so learning to say no and taking a hundred percent responsibility for
your results is an absolute must i know people who they've been sticking to a diet and then they let
someone convince them to have something and then they blame that other person no it's not the other
person's fault for asking you or pushing you or encourage you to eat that extra piece of cake it's
your own for giving into that discomfort and so if we really are gonna make this transformation and
we really are going to make a massive jump in our fitness and in our health and our weight it is a
crucial piece of the puzzle to develop into the person that is okay with who they are
and being okay with who you are means believing in your choices and not caving to someone's peer
pressure and so i really encourage you like one of the best things you can do and it's really
uncomfortable the first first few times you do it especially if you're a yes man is to just say no
and not explain yourself no i'm okay no thank you i'm fine thank you so much just doing that like
the first few times you do it you're going to get tightness in your chest you're going to want to
slump over you're going to want to leave the room but if you sit in that you're going to understand
hey this isn't that bad right even if someone continues to push even if i say oh no thank you
and they're like why just like oh i don't i don't want it something as simple as that can absolutely
transform your life and so i encourage you what do you have to say no to what muscle do you
have to build in this process to be able to stay consistent with your fitness let me know in the
comments and of course if you're looking for ways to simplify your health and allow yourself to be a
little bit more lenient when you go out to events make sure to check the link in our bio for that
guide on fasting mindfulness and weightlifting to help you see incredible results with your
fitness so thank you so much for being here and thank you so much for watching and of course as
always make sure to eat smart move more sleep deep and be grateful for this moment see you next time
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