when I was a kid I had to go to bed before my big brother but I got to stay up later than my little
sister if I saw a toy that my friend had and I asked for it my parents would tell me don't try
to get everything that you see however if we were in the store and I showed interest in a toy had my
behavior the week before Mara did it how do we get the toy my parents tagline was it's your job to do
well at school and to listen to adults and it's our job to provide for you hello everyone welcome
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subscribing I'm telling you about my childhood because I'm a little bit confused by the world
we're living in that says I want it give it to me I deserve it every kid gets a ribbon no child
is allowed to fail that's our school system in Montreal in Canada and no child is allowed to
fail if someone hits you and you defend yourself you both get suspended kids today are being taught
that everything is equal everything is fair but guess what it actually isn't you see if you're not
a good spouse your boyfriend or girlfriend will leave you if you're not a good employee you're
gonna get fired if you're not a good friend you won't have any and all of those things are good
things because what it makes us do is first of all behave appropriately but second of all our
behavior impacts and influences what we have and what we get can you imagine the scenario where you
work really hard to learn a skill whether it's at school or it's you know in life and you take that
skill and now you go to a company with it and they hire you they say wow ok we need someone
who can do that and you're getting an amazing pay for the skill that you bring that nobody else is
bringing to the table and then you find out that every person who's working under you so all the
people you're managing who are not doing a quarter of the work you're doing who do not have the skill
that you have are making the same pay because it's only her how do you think you would feel
about that because I know I would be much more than the frustrated I would I probably would
leave why because if I took the time to learn how to do this then and they cannot do it why are they
getting paid the same as I am right but this is the world that we're trying to say that we should
all be living this is fair right it actually isn't the amount of investment that it takes for me to
learn how to do something should be reflected and the difference in pay for someone who didn't learn
how to do that thing and we all know that to be true I'm not saying something shocking here why
doesn't it function with our youth while they're in school what is it teaching them okay let's talk
about what is teaching them with the current way that things are video games that time the grades
you get apparently aren't based on the energy and effort and work you put in and we have created a
bunch of people that believe that they shouldn't have to work so hard but they should still be able
to succeed and those kids grow up and they're in our world and I see the repercussions of
this when I try to talk to people in my office about wait the idea that they can't just take a
pill or just like do just one small easy thing to make all of this be different it's frustrating is
anger provoking in them I've had so many people who just can't understand why it's not easier
than that well it's the fuel for your body it's the building blocks for your body what would make
us believe that this very complex thing that we live in is gonna be easy to build gonna be easy
to power especially if we're trying to power it in an efficient appropriate way that leads to good
health the idea that I would have to prioritize my health over the taste of food actually makes
people curse in my office that's really really sad to say out loud but it's also really really scary
that we would say that how something tastes is more important than the way that my body feels
the ability that I have to play with my kids the possibility that I would live an extra 10
20 years that's that's a struggle for me which what's even bigger struggle is people not being
able to understand that if you don't put in the work you won't lose the weight right the same
way that if you don't study you won't pass the course well except today if you don't study you
do pass the course right and I think that's part of the problem that we push our kids along we've
been pushing ourselves along for so long but now we feel like in our weight struggles we can just
push ourselves a little we can't it doesn't work like that and it's not just the weight
loss process you know there are some people who are willing to put some effort into weight loss
because they feel like it's going to be a short term I do this for a few months or a few years
and then I get to eat like everybody else again the problem is that we don't recognize that eating
in that poor fashion is what got us in trouble in the first place so the truth is if you want
to be healthy it's not just about eating like this so like this it's not about eating healthy for a
short period of time it's about reorganizing your world so that you can eat healthy going forward in
time that's a commitment to being healthy all the time okay doesn't mean I never ever ever can eat
something fun no I'm not saying that but I'm also just pointing out this idea that we're so focused
on doing what's easy that we want things handed to us that we're not focusing on the fact that
in that process of trying to do what's easy we are harming our bodies in that process of trying
to it's easy we are creating metabolic situations that are leading to potential disease that we'll
have to then live with for extended period of time and also excess weight that we will have to
live with work spend a period of time this desire to do it the easy way so not mitts to doing the
hard work that it will take to change my weight why does it make people so angry to think about
prioritizing their health over the taste of food I'm not sure I really don't understand you know
when I learned that my hip issue was being caused by the food I was eating it was automatic for me
the food to go now my guess I didn't struggle with it at points in time yes but the ultimate
winner was but if you want to be healthy you have to do the work to be healthy like that was my
mindset because living in pain first of all the fact that I had lived in pain for so many years
because my bodily a started at 22 I only found the solution when I was 45 I want to say so my
bodily aches had started way back so do I think that it was something that I wanted to continue
no of course I don't want to continue right but did I have moments of hesitation of course I did
I needed to make sure that this information I was finding was true first of all but second
of all I needed to know how would I accomplish eating what I needed to eat to be healthy like
these were things that I researched and I figured out because my goal was be healthy what's your
goal all right you want an easy answer or do we want the healthy answer that means I'm healthy
forever but I have to work for it the fact that I'm still healthy today is not by chance is not
by luck is not because somebody else is making my meals for me it's not because my extended family
is working hard to help me because trust me the only person in my extended family that even tries
a little bit to cook something that I can eat is my mother and that took about a year and a
quarter although my mother had already been used to making me an alternative to red meats because
I don't eat red meat but to change and add more vegetables in etc that took a little while right
because even my mother thought that this was some kind of diet that I'm doing and I won't keep up
with it forever because that's the mentality that we have this mentality that oh you do something
for a little bit and then yeah right so it took a while for her to recognize that I wasn't gonna
stop how are you gonna keep going for it because this is my new way of doing things and if I look
at my home although I Aikido my daughter doesn't Aikido my boyfriend is low carb so the truth is
is that I'm constantly surrounded by foods that if I ate them would put me over my keitel numbers
and yet somehow I managed how do I manage first of all by eating my KJ lifestyle I've eliminated
my addiction to carbohydrates so that makes that much easier to not be tempted by foods that are
in front of me but second of all for the stuff that Patrick eats that I technically could eat
because they're a little car I still don't eat them in excess why because when I eat healthy I
feel better I would rather feel better than chase a taste and I'm encouraging all of you to start
to think that way to focus on feeling healthy moreso than chasing a taste so my success comes
from growing up in a household where my behavior determined my outcomes understanding that if I
made a mistake it meant I didn't get something I lost a privilege or I didn't get the toy that
I wanted right understanding that if I made a mistake it was my fault right I couldn't blame
my mom or my dad for being mean I had to look at it and say no I made a mistake I shouldn't
have done that I got caught okay I'm not getting what I want and that translates to today because
you don't get good health from eating junk food you get good health by eating healthy if I put
in the effort energy work to eat well I get the positive outcome of good health and if I go off
track it's me if I go off track I decided to go out track if I show up at someone's house and they
told me they were making one kind of meal and then they turn around I made a different kind of meal
that I cannot eat I don't eat because tomorrow I'm the one that's gonna feel bad I can't blame
somebody else for me choosing to eat the wrong I really want my oldest warriors to take that
last comment into consideration because we're so quick to say oh but christmas is coming Oh
New Year's is coming Oh birthdays are coming Oh Easter is coming Valentine's Day is coming
Halloween is come there's always going to be an event that's coming that potentially could throw
us off-track and I need you to understand that it's a decision you're making I don't believe
there's anybody in your life that's gonna hold you down and force you to eat something you don't want
to eat so if that food ends up in your mouth you need to take responsibility say I ate it and then
when you've just taken that responsibility and I really acknowledged it okay I ate it now you
have to back up and say okay why did I eat it why did I decide today that eating cookie that eating
a piece of cake why did I decide that that was more important than staying on track and being
healthy I feel like when we start to answer that question we're gonna start to realize that yes
this I deserve it I should be able to have I should be like everybody else the world should
be easy we shouldn't have to work hard for for good health all these ideas are gonna start to
show themselves to you but the truth is life has never been easy the world has always been
hard and yes we've always had to work hard for good health I was eating rice on a daily basis
from the time I was probably about eight or nine months old right because my parents are
from the Caribbean that of course contributed to my eventual 22 year old knees hurting me
all of the time if I would have known I would have stopped it back then well now you know I'm telling
you carbohydrates have a huge impact on how you feel carbohydrates can lead to metabolic issues
that eventually terminate your life carbohydrates are that toxic in excessive amounts now you know
what do you can do with that information are you gonna wait for some easier way to lose weight are
you gonna wait for some easier way to solve your metabolic issue are you gonna put in the energy
effort or that it takes to get your carbohydrate number down low and solve your metabolic issues
I really hope you choose to do the work because in actuality that's the thing that's gonna work
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