So Boris, Cole, Joe and Nicole, Ari Parker, they was in a Instagram live,
you know, speaking with another couple.
And a lot of people was talking about that,
what Nicole was saying about Boris and saying that,
Oh well she kind of saying that she wanted to be single right in front of him,
but you really need to listen to fully what she's going to say,
but let's go ahead and roll that clip
times in the last year or so. I thought,
you know, I wish that he was my boyfriend. Again,
I don't necessarily want to be single,
but I miss the single life.
I miss the text messages for no reason.
I miss the coming up from behind me when I'm scrambling eggs and just kissing me
on the back of the neck. Like,
you know, I'm, I'm, I'm being, um, you know,
general, general here, but I'm just saying that the, the truck,
there's definitely a difference. There's the trappings of being single. Like,
okay, you two are really good looking people. Okay. And you're married and,
and, and we're married.
There's people that flirt with you and the part of the flirtation doesn't make
you necessarily go the way the flirtation that even makes you look at your phone
is for in your,
in your workspace is that they have like a freshness or a newness.
And I personally believe that if you're in it for the long haul,
that freshness and newness is still possible.
If you talk about it and be like, look, I know we talk about date night,
we need to go have a date night.
I know we talk about like kissing and texting for no reason,
but the last time you text me was over like you know the cabinet guy.
So you heard what Nicole had to say. Now if you're a person that's probably,
you know, a single person or you know, maybe you're not, you know,
haven't been married for a long time. What she was saying,
she wasn't saying that she wanted to be single.
I just think she had put that in the wrong sense in a way she said it,
but what she was saying, and I heard exactly what she was saying,
that basically we don't have a lot of time for each other and we don't do what
we used to do. Like when you're dating, you know,
all the calling and the texting and you know, like she said,
just coming up behind her,
hugging her and watch these cooking or you know, like she said,
we will talk about date night but we actually don't actually do the date night
or she talks about how he's texted her about something. It was about the,
you know, a plumber guy out, a handy guy, whatever it was. Uh,
she was mentioning the video. But this the thing when you're married,
you know, especially for a long while, especially when you like them very,
you know, successful. They're both an actor and actress, so they both,
they have their own projects going on. So both of them are busy.
So when you get so busy then that can cause you not to be around each other.
And if you look at what causes divorce,
they say the number one thing causes divorce is finance.
It can be the lack of finance or you actually have a lot of money,
but you don't have time for each other because in order to keep money in this
capitalistic system of America, you've got to stay busy.
You got to keep generating those funds. You got to,
and you have to slow down on purpose to spend time with your husband or spend
time with your wife. When both of you are busy like that,
you know she wants date night.
I think they should do that because that's important.
You don't stop dating your wife. You don't stop dating your husband.
You don't do that. I know, especially with kids come into play, kids listen,
I always tell people they get married. Wait loans you can before you have kids,
because kids were literally suck all the time. You got, you know, together away.
You know what I'm saying? Because when the kids show up,
then you got to provide for this kid's school or you got to do all your whole
schedule around kids. I love kids, but it's just the truth.
That's why when you see people, kids get grown, they get so happy again.
You notice that they have more time for each other and they'll say did not
happen to kids around, but they have more time for each other. You know,
you see couples that their kids are grown and say,
Oh my kids are grown and they always traveling all over the place.
They enjoying themselves. You know again what they would call empty nesters.
Right. Because they just haven't time. And like, you know,
sometime I'm busy at times and you know,
we got kids here that we're trying to see, you know, to and you know,
that's why I say, man, we got to go somewhere. We got to do something now.
We ain't having, they do nothing as of late because we all been locked down.
But you know, I missed a trip for just me and my wife is going to go to Atlanta,
you know, her birthday weekend that had to get council.
Hopefully everything opened back up for my birthday in June. We could, you know,
at least, you know, go and do that trip. You understand? Um,
then we got our other trips, we were trying to plan, you know,
later on in the year. But I get it. Trust me, I get what she's saying.
I know some people kind of beating up on her now boards are looking at her like,
okay whatever. Now that kind of response, you know, it kind of made,
it kind of had me concerned because when a man's are being sold so nonchalant,
when a woman's kinda saying that, it makes me wonder like,
do he actually care that she's saying that?
I mean like what's his mindset with the whole situation? Cause he wasn't mad.
He wasn't mad at all. But it makes me wonder like, man,
you better spend some time with her bro. I mean,
cause she's now she talking about it publicly. Cause you know,
women eventually do that, you know, um, they'll talk about it and saying, Oh,
you'll spend time. But then, you know, a lot of times men, you get frustrated.
He may say, well dude, if I don't work, I'm a bum.
Then y'all complain about that. If I were too much, y'all complain about that,
you know, so would you that you live in this lifestyle that I'm providing.
But you know, as I was told, you know, if you do work too much,
yeah you can provide a lot of materials but you're not providing you because
you're so working so hard to provide.
And as men, you know,
a lot of times we so built that that's part of who we are as providers.
You know, for us,
we believe that you're not loving your family if you're not providing for your
family. You get what I'm saying?
And men that provide a lot, they are going to be working a lot.
They are, unless they got a point in their life where they got,
they'd been this so set up where they don't have to be managing too much
anymore.
They can kind of let other people do it where they just do another thing.
But I do believe you need to take our time to spend with your spouse.
I do believe that. I do believe just to take vacations without the kids.
I believe that.
But I just think she's kind of crying out a little bit and Boris needs to, um,
see tour on that, you know, spend a little bit more time with her.
But let me know what you think about, you know, Nicole and Boris, you know,
this situation. Um, you know, like I said,
I didn't take it as her embarrassing him.
I'm more so hurted as a crier to spend more time with him because,
you know, if he, if she was embarrassing him or doing something, you know,
I call it out in a minute, but, you know, be being a married man and knowhow,
you know, women are, um, when you have a longterm relationship, especially,
you're not spending time with them, um, whatsoever.
She just wants to spend his time with time. That's all.