- What do you think
- I need from you
- And are you
- Providing it?
- ¿Qué tú piensas que yo necesito de tí
y si tú lo estás dando para atrás?
- Oh.
- I know, that's a good one.
- What I think you need from me...
- What do you think I need from you?
What do you want from me?
- Space.
- You need me to listen more.
- Kindness? Yes, you do need that.
- Your needs are constantly changing.
- I don't think there's anything missing.
More so what I could be doing
better to make you feel more reassured.
- Yes.
- I don't think I can provide it
honestly right now.
I think that you need your parents.
- Oh, not really providing that much.
- I don't understand why, though.
How would that even possible?
- Mi amor, you know, I'm a Latina.
I don't really... - Listen.
- Fall into that, okay? I don't listen,
- Cash...
No.
I feel like I give you everything,
even things you don't ask for
or don't need.
I give it to you anyways.
And the one thing I can't give you is space.
- You don't leave me alone.
- Like not even like space
in a bad way where you're like,
I need a few days.
- Mm hmm. - Which you've done but I don't listen.
I just mean like
you'll be on your phone
and I'll come over and be like,
do you need some attention?
Well, I give you attention
that you don't need.
And what you really need is space.
- Like be more expressions...
or expressionist?
- Expressive? - Yeah. Expressive.
About your work.
Like in my head before
it was like: okay, like,
she have like all this people
who tell her like how good she is.
Like it doesn't matter
if I say or not.
But the truth is,
like I know that you need that.
And like even though,
you know it, like it's- I guess
it makes you feel good
that I tell you anyways.
- Yeah, so when I first met you,
you just needed somebody like
you had a lot of friends at the time,
but nobody was really deep
listening to you.
You had- you would just
everybody's focal point or therapist,
but nobody was listening to you.
- I think you need for me to begotten.
- Mm hmm.
- And I believe I'm providing that.
- I would agree. - That's an easy one.
- Yeah, that was really easy.
- Open ears,
because honestly,
sometimes I'm like,
okay, Victoria, whatever.
And, you know, sometimes it shouldn't be like that,
because when I'm there, like
when I need you to listen,
you listen and you respond.
Sometimes it's not the best
response when you do it.
But for me, it's just like
it's so hard,
because if I'm not interested,
I cannot hide it.
I will let you do like I do not care.
- Honestly, just like
just support in the sense
of like not like emotional support
necessarily, though
you do that sometimes, too.
But like you sometimes
do be annoying me when you do that.
But like more so like
just like physical like...
- I'm not touching you.
- Like you taking out the garbage.
You know what I mean?
It's like going to the store for me
and like things of that nature,
like that type of like support
where it's like
like I can call you
if I need it and run it.
And I won't be like, oh, my gosh.
- I know that the love is there.
- The...
accountability, reliability
- Patience.
- You know, a lot of patience, a lot of the
best qualities a relationship can have.
A husband can provide to his wife,
a wife can provide to the husband.
But I still don't think that my
physical limitations and my pain
is something that
I'm able to
shown to be different.
I need to be able
to give you a way of knowing
that I'm not upset by anything
besides the fact that I'm in pain.
- Okay.
- I think I just have to be a
little bit more self-aware of like
how I'm coming off or how...
how I might be affecting you.
- Like especially when I'm mad, you know,
like I might say something
that I don't really mean.
You know, that's why I like
I like move away from you.
I'm like, give me like
five minutes, you know,
like my anger go down
and then I'll come back
and then I'll like
actually say what I mean.
- You definitely do it as like
like to not self sabotage us.
I feel like we're slowly meeting
in the middle, though. - Yeah.
- Like you're realizing more and more
to not- because I feel like
before you wanted so much space
because you feel like
you couldn't trust me.
So I feel like now
you're realizing more
and more that you can.
And I'm realizing
more and more that
you just need space.
So I feel like we'll have like this
perfect medium where like
you don't need days
until you get over it.
- Yeah. - But I also don't
need to fix things like immediately.
- Yeah.
- So maybe it'll be like...
- Maybe you can give me like ten minutes.
- Ten minutes. I was gonna say ten minutes.
So maybe we'll get to like ten minutes.
Yeah.