- Heya playa.
Have you ever felt like your parents
were just too strict to the point
where it prevented you from doing so many thing?
Well, that's the question that Ibra Ridha
asked me when they said,
"I'm 14 and my mom says I can't go outside by myself
"and I don't know what to do about it".
Don't worry, you're not alone in this.
A lot of parents kinda carry this more
stricter protective mentality.
So we're gonna break down and go into that right after this.
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And today we're really gonna tackle the idea
of parent's restrictions for kids
and how you should approach that with them.
One thing to remember, is that every country,
every city, every household
and every individual parent is different.
So there's no one collective rule
for how parents will parent.
But one thing that I think is safe to say
about the majority of parents is that they'll do
anything to protect their kids.
Now from your end, as the kid,
you may not see it this way.
You may just see it as them setting unnecessary restrictions
for stupid little things that they should just trust you on.
And maybe you're right,
maybe it is just a matter of them
learning to trust you more,
but that's not gonna happen unless
you're willing to show them
and teach them about your unknown.
Parents spend a lot of time playing catch up
and trying to understand the things
that are going on in your life.
Who are your friends?
Who are your enemies?
Who do you like?
How well are you performing in school?
What are some of are hobbies?
All these different things they're trying to grasp.
And it's not always that simple for them.
They have their own live, their own responsibilities
and their own things to take care of.
I know, maybe we can all be
a little bit more considerate there,
but just like the question mentions,
for something as simple as going outside at 14,
why would any parent have a problem with that?
As I talked more to Ibra,
he told me that it wasn't fair
because when his brothers were his age,
they let them go out, so why the double standard?
As much as we don't wanna accept it,
every single parent has a different kind of relationship
with every single child.
So different rules may apply from time to time.
You may be thinking, well, that's just not fair.
Why should I have more restrictions
than any of my other siblings?
It all comes back to parents not being
a part of the things that are unknown to them.
They may be fearful that you're
hanging out with he wrong kinda people.
Or you're dating someone that's not a good influence on you.
They don't know what's going on
and because of that,
they may have more restrictions for you
than they would your brother or sister.
Sometimes though,
it's just because they have nervous personalities.
Like I said before,
every single parent is still an individual person
who has their own thoughts and feelings
and it's important for you,
if you wanna have a good relationship with them,
to find a way to make them feel comforted,
to make them feel like they can trust you,
to make them feel ready to let you move on.
That's no easy feat to accomplish.
It will take time and it will take patience
and if you want more responsibility as the years go on,
you have to be willing to invest in those two categories.
And I totally get it.
There will be time where your parents tell you
you can't do the simplest of things
and it will piss you off so much,
but you have to ask yourself,
is getting angry and lashing out at them
a good way to actually achieve the results that you want?
If the answer is no, then you should probably find
another way to manage those situations.
You will eventually become an adult,
so if your parents can see that you're starting to develop
those traits of compromising and interacting
and communicating in a healthy way with them early on,
as time goes on,
they'll definitely give you more responsibility
and be way more trusting.
What do you think, though?
Do your parents enforce super strict rules
for you that just don't make sense?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
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