Hey there, it's Clay with modernlove.life and this is Relationship Inner Game.
Now, today, what I want to do as I want to share with you a couple of different things
that, that don't actually matter very much when it comes to getting back together with
your ex.
We're going to go through that in this series of videos, some things that people seem to
focus on a lot that actually have zero importance whatsoever when it comes to getting back together
with your ex.
Now, the first thing that we're going to be talking about in this video right now is what
it means if your ex never initiated contact with you.
If they are always the one waiting for you to text them or call them or ask them to do
something.
And if you just like, stopped doing that, then you would just never hear from them again.
And what you need to understand when it comes to all of this is that this actually is not
something that you need to worry about.
The most important thing when it comes to getting back together with your ex is not
who is initiating contact with who or how long it takes them to respond to you or any
of this other stuff because honestly what all of that is is keeping score and I think
we all know that keeping score in a relationship is not the best thing for you to do for the
longterm success of your relationship, and so if keeping score is probably gonna lead
to the downfall of a relationship, then why would keeping score be something that you
should be doing in order to save or revitalize or necessitate an ailing relationship.
So what I would recommend that you do is to not focus on who is initiating, who is not
initiating or if you're initiating 75% of the time and they're initiating the other
25% of the time or whatever, because that's just keeping score.
That is not going to help you get back together.
In fact, it's just going to cause you to build a higher and higher level of resentment toward
them.
For you know in your mind not initiating enough, and what really is most important is to focus
on the quality of the emotional connection to the two of you are having, when the two
of you actually are connecting, when the two of you actually are interacting, texting,
emailing, meeting up in person, whatever.
That is the most important thing.
Now you also have to understand that your access probably understandably a little bit
hesitant or a little bit doubtful about whether or not they want to be interacting with you
or whether or not your intentions are pure, so to say, when it comes to you reaching out
to them, right, so they're.
They're probably not going to be interacting with you because keep in mind they decided
to leave the relationship, right?
They decided to break up with you and go do whatever, and so if you want to get back together
with them, you have to be willing to do the initiating and to change their mind.
And this is me talking to you ladies.
I know that you are the ones who generally keeps score about who is initiating and who
isn't.
And I know that oftentimes it can feel as if your drifting into very unfamiliar, unsafe
territory if it seems that you are doing all or most of the initiating, it seems that you
are doing most of the contacting.
Okay?
And I want you to know that this is not something you need to worry about.
What you need to focus on is the quality of the emotional connection between you and your
ex.
First and foremost, do not keep score.
Once the quality of the emotional connection becomes strong enough to a certain point,
then he is going to actually fall back in love with you.
And then he will start to do more of the initiating, more of the contacting, etc.
Okay, so don't worry about that.
Just focus on the quality of the emotional connection.
Now, if you are watching this video on our website, modern, loved out life, what I'd
like you to do is I'd like you to go down below this video and click on a link down
below this video that will take you to a page that will tell you more about how you can
go ahead and deepen the emotional connection that you have with your ex so that eventually
he or she might start contacting you and mark start initiating things with you, but again,
first you have to build up that connection to a certain point.
First and foremost, if you are watching this video over on youtube, again, just down below
this video in the description area, there's gonna be a little place for you to go ahead
and click the link.
That'll take you over to a page called Relationship Inner Game and what you can do on that page
is you can go ahead and tell us a little bit about yourself and your breakup and your ex
and all of that.
It'll just take about 30 seconds to just tick a couple boxes and let me know kind of what's
going on with you and your relationship, and then after that I'll start to send you some
tips and strategies that will help you get back together with your ex and help you form
a stronger emotional connection, but either way, whether you're on youtube or on our website,
modernlove.life.
The next thing for you to do is to go down below this video and click in the link in
the description or just the link below this video.
Anyway, thanks again for watching.
We'll talk to you next time when we have another thing that people often think is very important
that actually doesn't matter what so ever.
So please go ahead and like this video if you like it and leave a comment down below.
Just kind of letting me know what sorts of videos you would like to see me make in the
future.
Anyway, this has been Clay with modernlove.life.
This has been Relationship Inner Game and I'll talk to you in our next video.
Please take care.