Any coach that helps reorganize a person's mind,
be able to challenge their fixed mindset,
to me is a mindset coach.
And it is one of those things that as a coach
is one of the first things that you want to do.
You wanna be able to find a way
to challenge somebody's mindset.
It does not matter if you're a life coach,
a business coach, a health coach, a wellbeing coach,
a high performance coach, mindset is something
that will always be a limitation
while you're working with an individual.
So, I wanna share with you five really powerful,
important mindset shifting coaching tools
that you will use starting today to be able
to start to challenge the current fixed mindset
that your client may be experiencing
or you might be experiencing.
And you would also use these tools to be able
to shift somebody from a disempowered thinking
to an empowered thinking.
The first tool that I wanna bring to your notice
is asking your clients why versus how.
See, when we have a vision or when we have
a perspective of life, most of the time
our follow up questions to that,
or our follow up question to that is, how do I achieve it?
And while it may seem like an innocent
and of course an obvious question at the same time,
it is one of those questions that keeps us
in a fixed mindset.
Here's why.
When you ask the question how, you tend to try
and dig up the answer from within yourself,
which limits what you will find as an answer
because a how question only inquires
for what we already know,
or finds an answer from what we already know.
So, a how question, once a vision, value, purpose,
direction of life is defined is often something
that would limit a person's potential,
continue to have the blind spots that they already have,
even sometimes will mean that the person
stays in a fixed mindset.
But when they turn the question to why,
what tends to happen is we go from trying
to find the answer to trying to get curious.
When we ask why some vision is so important to me,
why something should happen for me, why something
be manifested, why something should be a result for us
or for our team or for us health-wise or business-wise
and so forth, we are now giving universal opportunity
to bring that answer to us by inquiring about it.
We are giving our mind the opportunity to stay open
and growth minded, so it can actually find a new answer,
so it can discover a new answer.
So, leaning from how to why allows for curiosity
to transpire, which helps us then find more interesting ways
to approach the same challenge, same concern,
or the same vision that otherwise we may be pursuing,
but with a blinded view or a fixed mindset view.
The second tool is less to do with mindset,
but something that comes in the way of having
an open and a powerful mindset and that is our emotions.
Our emotions are powerful.
I'm not trying to take away their power.
Emotions are powerful compasses to really present to us
as to what's really happening for us, how it is landing,
whatever that is landing for us or not landing for us.
So, emotions are really, really valuable.
And at the same point of time,
when they're not channeled right, what tends to happen
is that they would take over any mindset.
Have you ever observed that when you are angry
or frustrated with something, the person across you
could give you the most rational reason for you
to not be angry and you would still be angry?
That's the power of emotion.
That's the power of being owned by an emotion,
and that is why while emotions are extremely powerful,
if they are not understood well enough
they can take over any mindset.
So, to stay in growth mindset oriented as to be able
to have your mindset being challenged and be curious,
you need to do what is called an emotional release.
An emotional release can be an emotional release
for the moment.
Some emotion that may be right now present to you,
like anger, frustration, or whatever it might be,
you need to release that by actually letting it process
through your body and process through you,
but there's also what is called as emotional debt.
Emotional debt is emotions that we've been carrying
for a really long time.
If we don't release them, they will often show up
unannounced, unwarranted, taking over,
even when we are thinking we are operating
from a growth mindset for us not to be able to operate
from that growth mindset.
So, the second tool that you wanna master
is what is called emotional release,
not only for emotions that are present right now,
but also emotions that may have been accumulated
over time that may be now recorded as emotional debt.
Which brings me to the third tool,
which is a rational tool that you can use fairly quickly
and powerfully in your coaching practice
and also for yourself.
See, a lot of the times what happens
is when we are in a mindset,
we're in the mindset operating from a person's perspective.
When we look at something because we are the fish
in the fish tank, what may happen is we may not be able
to see the solutions.
We may not even be able to see the problem.
And that is why I invite all of us to take approach
what is called CEO of my life approach.
CEO of your life approach puts a perspective
of business into our personal lives.
And when it's about business,
we all tend to be a little bit more pragmatic,
a little bit more disciplined,
a little bit more practical in our approach.
We don't let emotions take over.
We are always curious
and we are always interested in growth.
And because of those reasons when we approach our life,
our situation, our current mindset
as a CEO approaches a problem,
suddenly you find a lot more resources unlocked for you
and you don't find yourself struggling
to be able to get past that fixed mindset.
You now are more capable and more aware
of the growth mindset that is available to you
and different tools and strategy
and people and things that are available to you,
allowing you to have a bigger, better mindset.
So, it's a simple mindset tool that you can use
by operating your life as the CEO.
Which brings me to the fourth tool that again,
is very pragmatic and really, really powerful.
It's a little bit difficult to do, but once executed
this can really create a true transformation in your life.
There was a research that was done,
which suggests that we know about 150 people in our life,
like really know them.
Out of which 50 people, and this is on average,
about 50 of them are individuals
that we can invite for dinner to our house.
About 15 people are that we will call really good friends
and about five of them truly influence our life
every single day.
These are the five people that really
make up all of our life.
And if you look at our life from that perspective,
you'd find that there are only a few people
that are influencing you on a day-to-day basis.
Even if you've met these 15 people regularly,
or 20 people regularly in our life,
what you would find is these people
are governing what mindset you are approaching life with,
which means sometimes even one bad apple in that group,
or more bad apples in that group, might be the reason
why you're struggling with your mindset so much.
And it is true for your clients as well,
is while they may think they'll love this person,
they're also the reason why your client is stuck
in the mindset that they're stuck in.
This is where you do the exercise called people detox.
People detox is an activity where you write down
name of every single person that you interact with
very regularly and check in on the feeling
that you have while you are with them.
When you are with a friend of yours, do you feel
on a scale of one to 10, a 10?
Or do you feel a nine, a eight, a seven, a five,
a three, a one or a zero?
If the numbers are leaning more towards between zero
to five or zero to seven even, you may wanna wonder
if they are negatively influencing your mindset
because if the energy is so draining while you're with them,
it's a big possibility it's because what they believe,
what you believe is so incongruent
that it is probably regressing you
and not necessarily progressing you.
It's a big possibility that these individuals
are the ones that don't believe in your dreams.
They don't support what you're trying to create,
and because of that, you're finding yourself coming back
to the same old fixed mindset,
that you find yourself doubting yourself,
that you find yourself wondering
if you were meant for greater things.
None of that is true.
It is more likely than not that the person
that is in your circle right now that is depleting
your energy is doing so because their life feels depleted.
You have an opportunity to either detoxing them
and see how life looks like without them,
or inviting them to a difficult conversation
where you can share your honest opinion with them
and really discuss how you could change your relationship
with them and their relationship with you.
And the fifth tool that will so help you
change your mindset, irrespective of where you are
right now, is what I call pause and ponder.
Pause and ponder.
So, few of us actually take a minute when an approach,
a thought comes to our mind and pause for what it truly is.
A lot of our thoughts are automatic.
They just appear in our mind, that they tend to be negative
because they're trying to protect us
from different situations in life,
but if we would ever take a second and pause,
observe that thought, and really ponder on that thought,
what you would find is often these thoughts
while coming to you in the best of interest
are not really helpful and if you would ponder on that,
it'll be soon enough that you will find that that thought,
as you identify and discover it's not empowering,
you will be able to turn it around
and choose a more empowering thought.
More empowering thought is any thought that helps you
move further in your direction of action,
move further in the organization, move further in your life.
That is an empowering thought.
So, what you would find is when you pause and ponder
on every thought or a thought that you feel is disempowering
or from that thought onwards, something changes for you,
not in a good way, you will find pondering on that
allows you to be able to reorganize it
and actually make it an empowering thought.
Which of these mindset coaching tools
were you already aware of?
Share that with me in the comment section below.
I'll love to know.
Are there any other mindset coaching tools
that you absolutely love?
Share that with me in the comment section below.
As well, I will love to hear some of the tools
that have helped you or your clients.
Thank you so much for watching this video.
This is Coach Ajit and I'll see you in the next video.