Can I ask what your name is?
I'm Oil
(K): Eye and? (Oil): It's Oil
(K): Oil (Oil): Oil
I'm Fluke
The relationship problem
What makes people incompatible?
I think it's about
respecting personal space
The other party might demand that personal space
but I am not ready to open up that personal space for him
(K): You need some space? (Oil): Yeah, some space is needed
Yeah
He is too clingy?
Yeah, I want to say to him,
"Please give me space. Let me be with myself for a moment"
Don't be too clingy
That's my personal opinion
In the past, Khun Eye...
(Oil): It's Oil (K): My apologies!
Clingy...?
There were times that he did not respect my privacy time
like time that I want to spend with myself
He didn't give me space
He is too clingy
Is he too jealous of you?
Too jealous
Oh, okay.
(K): Khun Nut? (Fluke): Fluke
Khun Fluke
I'm sorry, I'm so bad with names
(K): Your name is Fluke (Fluke): Yeah
What is the relationship problem in your opinion?
That makes a couple incompatible?
It's probably the personal space
personality, and
does not like something in common
Well
Different preferences can cause problem?
Personal preference, let's say
It does not matter that much to not have a lot of things in common
But sometimes, your preferences are just not compatible
Unmatched taste
I hear
Well
(Oil): Music genre (Fluke): Music genre, fashion
There are personal preferences there
Oh
Maybe you like hardcore music?
Not like that
If you get angry with your boyfriend,
what would that be about?
It's probably personal space
Like, he's too clingy and bother me too much
which makes me think it's not okay
I might even disappear by myself
Disappear for a bit and then come back
and talk about it later
This is for me.
Well, regarding this
Maybe it should be the woman to crave her man's attention
rather than a man craving for your woman's attention?
(K): Generally speaking (Oil): It depends
I don't think it's up to gender in this regard
Some women want to have her own space
Some women don't want to stay near their boyfriends that much
Having a boyfriend is great, but
I want him to understand the concept of personal space
(K): Oh (Oil): Yeah
I meant
The man is too clingy to woman
Maybe women don't like this kind of behavior?
Maybe
I'm not sure at all
For other couples,
they might be okay with men being clingy
Maybe it's just me
that quite have the need to retain my private space
How about you, Fluke?
What was the last fight with your GF about?
Maybe about female friends
Actually,
I studied in single-sex school
(Fluke): But I don't have a lot of male friends, only have female friends (K): So you fight with your female friends?
No, I fight with my girlfriend
Because I have many female friends
Some of them I've known since primary schools
Now we are so close
But it is strictly platonic
So, you go out with your friends and she gets jealous?
Yeah, she's too jealous
What is the thing that you can't stand, and will break up over?
I've never experienced that
Before breaking up, there will be talks
I think it's really hard to break up with someone
It's really hard
You have to think a lot
There was no incident where he did something, and I immediately break up
(K): It has to be gradual? (Oil): Yeah
It has to be thorough before going through with breakup
[Unintelligible]
No, not a sudden decision
There is no...
I have not been to a point where I am very angry
and then suddenly sever the relationship
(K): It's not like a sudden breakup? (Oil): No, never
Problem slowly building up (rather than pile at once)?
I always talk about the problem out loud on the first time
I'll tell him about it
Not like emotionally
I'll say that,
Yeah
That's good
(K): You just tell him? (Oil): I'll tell him directly if I don't like something
I'm a man. Sometimes, I don't know what I did wrong
(K): Right? (Oil): Yeah
That's why I have not experienced that super angry emotion
Okay
How about you, Fluke?
What would be the thing you'd break up over?
Is there one?
Yeah, yeah, there is.
I had a pretty big problem with this one girl.
Yeah
She's like
talked negatively about me behind my back
fabricating stories to make me look bad
bad mouthing about my family
It made my life bad overall
(K): So, it's like defamation? (Fluke): Yeah
Can you explain a bit more?
Well
My mother and father do separate businesses
My father has a hardware store while my mother has a food shop
But
I tend to help my mother's business more than my father's
Because his hardware store is going well on his own
There are enough money for him
So I like to help my mother more
And there was this one day
We fought over something (with GF)
and she spoke something without thinking
She's like,
"Go help your mom, you stupid buffalo"
She said I'm stupid (buffalo)
Out of a sudden, she cursed at me
We also fought a lot before that point
and I couldn't take it anymore
That's the end of relationship
Yeah
It's the breaking point there?
Yeah
You broke up right after that?
Yeah
So, it's not something that came out of a sudden. It's like the anger was already piled up
It's pretty hard to get to the breaking point
For you,
What kind of men do you like?
Same answer here
I like men who give me my own time
I meant the personal space
Not too fussy dandy
Yeah
Give you freedom?
Yeah
That's for example
Do you have a type?
Not really
I don't have a type which is about looks
I am much more attracted to the mental side
I like men who do not judge over people
How do I say it?
Men who take care of himself
in both his body and his mind
I like men who take care of his body
(Oil): Good body (K): Big muscles?
Not really
Just don't make yourself in bad health
I don't like men who complain all the time
I don't like it because
it makes me also feel negative about him
I like men with high energy
and have positive attitude
That's what I like
Sounds like
You're explaining him
He's a bit too good
I don't know where his energy comes from
(K): Is he even sleep in a day? (Oil): He's the definition of high passion
Can't argue with that
How about you, fluke?
Personality?
I would say generous
Always look on the bright side of life
not gloomy
I also like outgoing girls
Outgoing?
Yes
Because I'm not quite outgoing myself
Ah yeah
What makes a couple stick together for a long time?
Understanding
It's that simple
You just have to understand each other
Whatever you do, or even when you fight
If you understand each other,
You can be together for a long time
How about you?
(Fluke): Same (K): Same?
Understanding and not being mean, huh?
Okay
Thank you so much!