welcome back news for Jax bringing you
stories to help you live healthy did you
know that Americans you are stressed
more than ever about all kinds of things
work money health marriages in April is
national stress Awareness Month and we
want to help you get rid of some of that
stress have a whoo some moments a local
author who wrote a book it's called
stress Express 15 instant stress
relievers has some advice to help us get
through some of those tense moments
joining me now speaker and author stony
McFaul thank you for coming in today
my pleasure Kalyn well you know it's
interesting because sometimes you don't
even know how stressed you are until you
take a moment to kind of look over
things what are some of those things
that that we could get rid of that
caused the stress well you know one of
the things that people don't think about
is incompletions and that's one of the
things that shows up in your life more
and more you know have you ever woken up
in the middle of the night where I
didn't do that oh my god I forgot that
that kind of anxiety well that happens
because people have a to-do list that
they'll never get done right it goes on
and on and on so it's really important
to prioritize and complete as you go and
only put the top ROI the top return on
investment activities in so that when
you don't do certain things that's okay
but you can look at this long list and
really acknowledge what you've done so
you have a graphic that kind of shows
what its writings when you don't
complete things and how the ideas start
to form again when you do write well you
know the interesting thing is when you
start a project how do you feel great
yeah awesome excited almost everybody is
excited that's called the germination
phase and that's the that's the
germination phase that's the beginning
of a project where most people fall down
is in the assimilation phase and that's
you know you actually have to do the
work on a new project most people stop
and that's where people stop when they
put something on their to-do list and
they don't get it done but if they would
just follow through with the completion
the good news about that is you'd have
all this great energy to go on to your
next project that comes from Robert
Fritz and his book the path of least
resistance so it's really important that
we complete what we do and and that is
as simple as little agreements with
ourselves about getting up in the
morning and exercising and any agreement
we make with other people if you don't
complete it there's a part of your
subconscious that goes you didn't do
that you can do that
way on you Haley oh and it affects your
self-esteem it affects your well-being
and it definitely stresses you like they
say just get er done that help so you
are working on a new book and you've
been talking with women to see some of
the things that are stressing them out
and you found that loneliness from a
survey that you've done is really coming
into play it is you know and
interestingly 30 years ago Ladies Home
Journal found loneliness was an issue
and it hasn't gone away which is really
too bad but women in particular because
of taking care of children taking care
of work taking care of their husbands
taking care of everybody but themselves
they don't have any time to socialize
and they need those girlfriends they
need that support system and they're
lonely and it's interesting to see that
connection because you you have your
kids you have your husband you have your
job you know or you have a boyfriend
whatever all these things that really
aren't that you're engaging in they're
still feeling lonely because you're not
able to do the things that really
fulfill you well those things could be
fulfilling but the connection to just
sit with it you know what it's like you
go have a cup of coffee with girlfriend
and you just talk about your life and
you just let it all go and and it just
feels so good to have somebody hear you
and listen to you our husbands are
wonderful but they usually want to fix
us right really what we want to do is
just let it all go so being with
girlfriends makes a huge difference to
that and loneliness has been hooked very
much to burnout which is a really
interesting thing they've done lots of
studies and they found that they go
hand-in-hand the General Social Survey
has found that nearly 50% of Americans
are exhausted most of the time and that
exhaustion is directly related to
loneliness interesting so we have to
start finish what we start
right and also make sure that we're
filling our lives with rich
relationships that we can then
acknowledge thank you for coming in all
right so your book is that you're
working on right now you need women to
take part in a survey so we'll get that
link on do so Jack's calm thank you so
that women can take part so we can
really figure it out yeah and come up
with some solutions cuz that's what it's
all about right all right thank you
thank you so much I appreciate it