I'm off to a personal development seminar.
It's around 8:30 in the morning right now, and I'm going to this thing.
I don't go to these often, but I have to remind myself that when I do go to these things,
it's the same thing as watching a YouTube video, an online course or learning anything.
You have to remember that you're not going to be able to absorb all the information that
you're going to be learning.
The best thing you can do whenever you go to a course or seminar is trying to think
of one to two things that you're learning that you can take away for action steps.
There's been times when I've gone to full weekend seminars, I walk away with a bunch
of notes, and I have no idea where to begin.
I think the goal should be what's one or two things that you can learn and implement right
away.
Anything else after that is basically a bonus.
You should be implementing that with everything, even the video that you're watching here or
any other video you watch, what's the one thing that you can take away and then do?
That video, course or seminar will have acted as an amazing resource for you because you’re
taking action with it.
I attended this event called Rarity with Carl Greco and we're having a conversation on the
side about the new masculine and what it means to be the masculine.
I wanted to get Carl on here and jump on and share a few ideas that we were talking.
Guys, listen, we're talking about confidence, women and here's rule number one - stop giving
so much power to everyone else and to women.
There are people, they have needs, just like you and I do.
When it comes to men having more confidence, dating and creating relationships or being
attracted to women, the first one is you got to lead with an open heart.
That's the first thing because she's going to feel you 10 feet away.
Most guys aren't feeling enough of themselves.
You know who you are, she should enter the room before you do.
When you can go inwards and start raising your own internal vibration by focusing on
your greatest strengths and your purpose, why are you doing what you're doing?
Which leads me to number two, which is to be transparent.
Be open that she can see into you.
That's what's going to attract her more.
Most guys are closed off and if you watch them walk, they’re in one or the other head.
That’ll raise red flags with women that this guy's an analytical or this guy just
wants sex.
Be the guy who's open and very clear about who he is.
Number three, relax in your body.
Be happy and attractive in who you are.
She's going to naturally pick up on that and want to see your level of curiosity or interest,
she’ll be much more open to you.
Whatever it is that you're seeking, you have to be the one to break that.
If you want to find an open, attractive woman, starts showing up like an open, attractive
man who believes about himself and everything outside of us going to shift big time.
I'm in a Lyft right now and finished with the event which was pretty cool.
The event was called Rarity.
It was interesting, which is a men's group talking about all the different areas of personal
development, whether it's business or general well being, spirituality, masculinity, etc.
Like I said, there's always one thing that like to take away from going to an event like
that.
The one thing that I took away was how powerful it is to go to these events and be able to
mastermind with people who are in the same boat as you.
I think that is important for any guy, especially you trying to learn something in their life,
when it comes to women and dating.
I think it'd be beneficial if you're not only watch YouTube videos, or listen to podcasts
by yourself, but actually go out and find someone who's interested in the same thing
as you and is trying to pursue the same goals.
When you do that, you can become much more powerful and learn something a lot faster
because you're not on your own doing it.
I recommend you don't just find a friend.
You don't want to convince anyone to do something with you.
If they're not interested, it's not going to be a good partnership for you to be able
to get to achieve the goal.
You want to find someone who's already trying to do it, and boom, you guys come together
and do that.
That's what was cool about this event, is that there's a lot of like minded people who
are all interested in the same thing, finding success in all the different areas of their
life.
I've already met a few cool people that I'll be connecting with later on and talking about,
either podcasting or helping them out with YouTube stuff or general internet marketing
things, and being able to socialize because it’s important to get out there and connect
with other people, instead of staying home all day, which is what I tend to do since
I'm always making videos and working on content for the business.
Another thing powerful that I liked about this event that is applicable in all areas
of your life is the idea of giving value.
One of the breakout sessions that we had was we all sat around and we said what's our superpower,
what is our need, what do we really good, what can we offer to someone, and what is
it that we are looking for.
That gave everyone an opportunity to go around and say, I have this skill and I can help
you with that.
I am able to potentially help you with marketing, and you can help me with networking, whatever
it is.
It's nice to have that reminder that when you are anywhere, when you're talking to people,
you want to lead with value first, instead of leaching.
Leaching mean, you're trying to get something from someone, especially in your conversations
with women.
If you're talking to a woman, you don't want to try and let her do all the work.
You want to give and offer value.
One of the ways to do that is by being able to hold a conversation with her, in a way
that makes it interesting enough for her to want to continue.
A lot of guys will go up to girls and they will ask a bunch of questions and constantly
asking them, They do that because they're too nervous.
They want the girl to do all the work.
That's not the best way to do it.
You want to go in and provide the value there and do the work, so it's easier for her to
want to continue the conversation.
That's the same thing with anything in life.
If you offer some value, try to help someone first before asking.
It's much more likely that they're going to want to help you after you've helped them.
I’m talking to my Lyft driver, and he had some interesting stories.
He ends up talking to a lot of different girls who come into his Lyft and tell them interesting
stuff.
Driver: Surprisingly, people will, even if they've had a few drinks or whatever, if I'm
picking her up from a bar, club or something, they’ll start chit chatting.
They'll open up and talk about their boyfriends, ex boyfriends and guys they've hooked up with.
I just sit there and listen and I'm married.
I give advice that I think would go if I was the guy in the relationship.
Tripp: What are some issues that girls have have said or confessed to you?
Driver: A lot of them say that LA is a crappy place to date because it almost seems like
the guys aren't fully committed.
They're always looking for the next best thing.
It's always the “not fully committed,'' like 30% or 50% of guys are not all the way
committed to this one girl.
That's a big complaint that I hear.
Guys, if you like a girl, be committed to that one girl.
Women don't want to be treated like they're a commodity.
Give value and spend your time with that person.